Fed up of Judgy comments to DS

[Fattyandconfused]

DS is 12 weeks.

DP has always been obsessed with clothes. Looking smart, designer gear… the lot.

so when I got pregnant I knew we’d have a very well dressed little boy. He has a lot of high end clothes

but for some reason my friends ALWAYS have something to say about it.

always the “you have more money than sense” or “he’s a baby you are ridiculous” or “oh god” followed by eye rolls or bringing other people over “LOOK WHAT DS NAME IS WEARING NOW”

Most of the stuff is from outlets, so end up being a similar price to next baby clothes. But I cant be arsed to tell people that. People also don’t realise that DS wears clothes from charity shops, hand me downs etc. I feel like if I started justifying it by saying “oh well it only cost xxx and his trousers are charity shop” it makes me seem like I’m embarrassed. Im really not.

who wouldn’t want their DC to have the best of everything?

we aren’t in debt and it’s something DP loves to spend money on. People waste money on drink/drugs…

i dont really care what they think, but just get bored of these stupid comments. WHO CARES?
id love to know some responses that basically shuts it all down without me sounding like I’m getting aggravated by it.

I’m off. You are on a deliberate wind up, surely.

Probably the vigorous tapping of your phone to respond with fifty punctuation marks is what's coming across 'aggressive' and then the passive aggressive 'hahahahaha'

@ladydimitrescu my child wears primark. Charity shop clothes. Hand me down clothes. We save money for my child.

As I’ve said. People spend money on alcohol, cigarettes. We do not. So we have expendable income others may clearly not.

@willithappen wow. What is this world coming to punctuation marks being a sign of aggression. Now that is funny!

@willithappen PS I don’t think it will happen.

so if your child wants something & you can afford said thing. You’ll say no and get them something else?

Absolutely, why would I buy them everything they says they wanted ?

“Jealous that he’s dressed better than you/your husband?”

Designer isn’t always having the best . It’s probably the same sweat shops making them

@hatchyu why wouldn’t you? If you had the facilities to do that…

Your friends have something to say about it because that’s the point of those designer outfits for babies. They’re designed to attract attention and invite comment.

If you wanted to spend money on good quality baby clothes, you could buy things from places like Jojo, Petit Bateau, Boden, etc. But you’ve specifically chosen branded items.

If I were you I’d just smile and say ‘well I like it’ or something like that.

Because they don't need to have everything

@FunDragon thanks for your response. Of course, I love Boden. Find lots of their bits in charities shops/on market place! Great quality!

It’s common sense and common courtesy that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

When people say they want the best for their kids, they don't usually mean clothes and the most expensive/best brand of everything.
They want them to know they're loved, to be confident, to be happy, to have a good education access to opportunities, and to be fulfilled.

It's not about brands and money and elite everything (no exceptions).

If you want to chavtastic up your child, it’s nobody else’s business. Don’t mind them and just carry on with the ticky tacky get up’s

Fuck em’!

@hatchyu as someone who grew up with absolutely nothing. wondering where my next meal was coming from… I will forever give my children what I never had.

@saraclara so from my post…. What you’ve taken from is it, that my child isn’t loved.. nor will he have a good education or access to opportunities.. because he wears designer clothes?

@FungalNail thank you. I am completely against fast fashion, which I can assure you almost everyone I know buys into!!!!

All fashion is fast at that age. They hardly wear things for very long at all, so even the cheapest baby clothes can be passed on to other babies.

If I bought my four year old everything he’s ever said he wanted, I’d be bankrupt and I’d have a mountain of toys the size of Kilimanjaro.

@CecilyP no, will always sell on. Never throw away clothes so I’m not contributing to landfill. Will also buy second hand. Charity shops. Marketplace. EBay etc :)

Of course you are free to spend on what you like - and dress your baby as you please.

However, perhaps your friends are a bit fed up with your attitude to clothing rather than the clothes themselves? The clothes aren't better -they are just fashionable.

It sounds as if your friends feel the clothes are a sort of boasting ('look what we can afford - even for only a few weeks of wear.')

How to deal with the comments: start dealing with the reason they are a bit offended.

Show them that you are not dressing your child for this reason. +Perhaps show that you are not judgey about the way other people dress their babies too?

Skiing, polo and collecting fine wines.

Although it’s a bugger getting those skis on the pony when you’re pissed on a 1961 Petrus.

@LiesDoNotBecomeUs i do understand what your saying. But I never even mention what he’s wearing. Sometimes I don’t even notice what baby grow he’s in, so sometimes it’s a high end one.

as said in previous posts, my baby wears primark, charity shop clothes. We love Morrisons cloths at the moment. My friends know this. They just look for the designer pieces on DS to make a comment