Fed up of Judgy comments to DS

[Fattyandconfused]

DS is 12 weeks.

DP has always been obsessed with clothes. Looking smart, designer gear… the lot.

so when I got pregnant I knew we’d have a very well dressed little boy. He has a lot of high end clothes

but for some reason my friends ALWAYS have something to say about it.

always the “you have more money than sense” or “he’s a baby you are ridiculous” or “oh god” followed by eye rolls or bringing other people over “LOOK WHAT DS NAME IS WEARING NOW”

Most of the stuff is from outlets, so end up being a similar price to next baby clothes. But I cant be arsed to tell people that. People also don’t realise that DS wears clothes from charity shops, hand me downs etc. I feel like if I started justifying it by saying “oh well it only cost xxx and his trousers are charity shop” it makes me seem like I’m embarrassed. Im really not.

who wouldn’t want their DC to have the best of everything?

we aren’t in debt and it’s something DP loves to spend money on. People waste money on drink/drugs…

i dont really care what they think, but just get bored of these stupid comments. WHO CARES?
id love to know some responses that basically shuts it all down without me sounding like I’m getting aggravated by it.

As a response you could just say “well we can afford it so it’s fine” they don’t sound like very nice friends and are perhaps jealous. I have a friend whose child is always in showy brand and despite finding it tacky personally we manage to get on without me trying to put her down in anyway because I accept her for who she is otherwise that’s not a friendship.

Clothing with logos on it doesn't equal the best.

Organic cotton clothing that's kind to their skin and the planet is the best, it's also bloody expensive.

Sounds like your dp is more obsessed with conspicuous consumption than fashion, if he's getting the gear from outlets it's not current season so is just about the logos.

I'd wonder why you'd feel the need to dress your baby in these clothes which are designed purely to show how much money you have spent but if you can afford it, it's not harmful, but yes people will make comments as the whole point of branded goods is to inspire a reaction, obviously most people are hoping for admiration/envy.

@Kite22 @User3568975431146 sorry at what point was I aggressive? The bit where you started giving your opinion on something I didn’t ask for????

Higher end clothing keeps in value for adults who are rather less likely to vomit or poo all over said items of clothing 😂

@Icecreamsodaloda really fair point… if what I’d asked for was your opinion in what I dress my son in.
what I actually asked for was help in addressing comments from friends about it.

@SemperIdem no washing machines where you live?

an entitled adult because I want the best for my child hahahahaha. Sorry I’ll just dress him in a bin bag and give him a bike without wheels because I don’t want him to be entitled. Sorry son you can’t play sports because you can’t be entitled.

Now you're just being ridiculous. There's a world of options between the most expensive clothes and a bin bag, and the very best available bike and one without wheels. And those items are the ones that 99% of the population of this country will be happy with. And of course there's nothing stopping any kid playing sports.

But if your kid has nothing but the BEST (no exceptions), yes, it's likely that he risks being arrogant and entitled.

I think it’s tacky, even if it’s from a charity shop. I buy second hand all the time.

if it makes you happy, crack on.

The kid's only 12 weeks old though, which is still at the 'boring' stage of clothing.

I just can't think what he could be wearing that elicits so many comments?

Surely not much more than baby grows or a few t.shirts and shorts given the nice weather?

Surely you just say that you like it and move on?
You are allowing them to get to you.

My opinion on designer baby clothes doesn’t matter. Dress your child how you want but have fun weaning.

Not really surprised you missed that point as well.

Dress your baby as you wish, your friends comment because they think you and your dh’s desperate need to show you can afford “the best” (when you can’t because it’s all from outlets), is tragic.

what I actually asked for was help in addressing comments from friends about it.

Now I know you're on a wind up. You don't seem to have any problems addressing comments here! 😂😂😂

Well I don't think there is anything you can say, those clothes invite comment, you can explain to close friends it's getting you down, annoying you etc and hope they stop. But as I said those clothes are designed to get a reaction, hence the logos.

What are the best hobbies?

I'm guessing at 12 weeks he doesn't have many yet but I want to know.

I would think it was cute. People who say bitchy stuff are just jealous, even if they frame as it as concern that bub will be entitled or fake concern for the environment. People who make bitchy comments about a BABY are just giving you a little glimpse into their jealous, petty soul and trying to drag you down to their level.

@saraclara so if your child wants something & you can afford said thing. You’ll say no and get them something else?

no. Of course you wouldn’t.

If I can’t afford to buy something twice, I don’t ever buy it.

you’re making rash judgements when you’ve read one post. Myself and DP work incredibly hard. We volunteer weekly. And our DC will see all of this. So I’d like to hope buying him an expensive jumper won’t undo the volunteering, donating and aid work we do to make him “entitled”

@Clymene

horse riding but the horse will have the Gucci logo shaved onto it

Fancy!

Well... again... why post in AIBU and pretend you don't really care when you really do? Just seems a bit... stupid to me.

@Clymene baby classes in Buckingham Palace. Obviously I meant in the future…

You can't ask about the hobbies of a 12 week old baby, it's far too outing!

It'll be cycling. It's always cycling

so if your child wants something & you can afford said thing. You’ll say no and get them something else?

if it was a waste of money, yes.

your child is 12 weeks old, he doesn’t ‘want’ a Ralph Lauren shirt. The only thing he ‘wants’ is milk, cuddles and that light up toy from the middle aisle at Lidl which plays the tinkly tunes.