Fed up of Judgy comments to DS

[Fattyandconfused]

DS is 12 weeks.

DP has always been obsessed with clothes. Looking smart, designer gear… the lot.

so when I got pregnant I knew we’d have a very well dressed little boy. He has a lot of high end clothes

but for some reason my friends ALWAYS have something to say about it.

always the “you have more money than sense” or “he’s a baby you are ridiculous” or “oh god” followed by eye rolls or bringing other people over “LOOK WHAT DS NAME IS WEARING NOW”

Most of the stuff is from outlets, so end up being a similar price to next baby clothes. But I cant be arsed to tell people that. People also don’t realise that DS wears clothes from charity shops, hand me downs etc. I feel like if I started justifying it by saying “oh well it only cost xxx and his trousers are charity shop” it makes me seem like I’m embarrassed. Im really not.

who wouldn’t want their DC to have the best of everything?

we aren’t in debt and it’s something DP loves to spend money on. People waste money on drink/drugs…

i dont really care what they think, but just get bored of these stupid comments. WHO CARES?
id love to know some responses that basically shuts it all down without me sounding like I’m getting aggravated by it.

I would have said dress your kid however you want, but I made the mistake of reading all your replies to posters and I think you protest a bit too much. ;) Clearly it’s a very sensitive subject so why don’t you just speak to people IRL how you do people online? You will soon be rid of them. HTH

Surely you and your DH are dressing him in designer clothes to get a reaction? You want people to notice and comment on it.
You're just irritated that you aren't getting the reaction you hoped for.

“you have more money than sense”

..... 'oh, did I miss the bit where you had to pay for it???'

“he’s a baby you are ridiculous”

...... 'hes my baby, to dress how I choose, but thanks for you input'

“oh god” followed by eye rolls or bringing other people over “LOOK WHAT DS NAME IS WEARING NOW”

......'his clothes, he is wearing his clothes, why? What would you have expected him to be wearing?'

All with a super deadpan face!

What an odd thread.

OP, I don't happen to agree that designer clothes are part of wanting "the best" for your child, but if people comment, I'd just laugh it off. "Yes, it's Ralph Lauren today, and it will be whateverotherdesignerlabel tomorrow". That kind of thing. If you are known as someone who has a sense of humour as well as a baby with a wardrobe of designer clothes, that will in due course help him make friends, which is more important than what he is wearing.

Personally, I'd say that books and conversation were "the best" for a very young child, with a decent school to follow. If you have those things, the child is off to a very good start, regardless of what they are wearing.

Not if they are stained with bodily fluids as a rule though.

I think babies and toddlers look comical in full adult stylee Sunday best designer outfits. 😂😂
Although I'd never comment in public.

I'm not the one thing king people are jealous of me?

I'm the one saying people are not jealous of people dressing their 12 week old baby use in designer stuff?

I think you've misunderstood!

budding fashionista 🙄

Yeah they are! You buy it for the label and then say others are jealous that they can't afford it... they can afford soft, nice clothes, not trashy over priced labels!

Ah, another one.

Babies do deserve the best. I'm just not sure a name or logo stamped onto a piece of clothing is an indicator of this.

Also, cotton clothing gets softer and softer the more it is washed. So by that measure, a second hand piece of clothing, possibly by a supermarket (gasp), is probably the 'best' you can get.

As previous poster - wanting the best for your child usually means educated and cultured - not designer clothes.

Haven't read all your posts OP but if you're mortgage free, have a good pension and at least one rental property then frivolous spending is OK - my opinion only.

Babies need to be clean and fed and warm and loved. As they grow into children they need to be spoken to, read to ,allowed to paint and cut and stick and get very, very grubby. They need to go out in every sort of weather and dig holes and poke dead birds with a stick whilst endlessly saying " but why, but why???" They need to get covered in paint and put their hands in sand and playdoh. That is giving your child the best of everything. That will make the difference between success and failure. Designer clothes for babies are awful. Your friends are probably concerned that you view your baby as a doll. Are you going to let your child get muddy and dirty and play or will they have a nervous breakdown everytime they get a speck of dirt on something. I have taught so many children like that.The clothes you are choosing for your baby are not achieving the result you want.

Sorry @tomatopsste - my mistake! 

I meant to tag @bluemeadow89

You do know the “best of clothes” doesn’t always mean designer? I’ve got my son some designer items for special occasions in the past which ended up being shit quality and bobbled after one wash.

Babies need to be clean and fed and warm and loved. As they grow into children they need to be spoken to, read to ,allowed to paint and cut and stick and get very, very grubby. They need to go out in every sort of weather and dig holes and poke dead birds with a stick whilst endlessly saying " but why, but why???" They need to get covered in paint and put their hands in sand and playdoh. That is giving your child the best of everything. That will make the difference between success and failure. Designer clothes for babies are awful. Your friends are probably concerned that you view your baby as a doll. Are you going to let your child get muddy and dirty and play or will they have a nervous breakdown everytime they get a speck of dirt on something. I have taught so many children like that.The clothes you are choosing for your baby are not achieving the result you want.

This!

And they need to bake and lick the bowl clean!

They also (IMO) need pets, cats will claw their clothes, dogs will chew them, rabbits will nibble them.

No pets are clean and respect designer clothes, but so what!

👍 xx

If you don't want or like crtiscism, why post on here? You did it, so just take it! And grow up...

I second this. Ive had the exact same, and t shirts that randomly go sideways, yet I’ve never had a problem with the stuff from George and have been passed from DS1 to DS2 and still looking great!

@Fattyandconfused this must be your first ... and you always want the best for them... but trust some mums with experience that if you buy them everything they ask for and you can afford they turn out entitled brats as they don't learn the value of things and that life first work like that when mummy and daddy don't support you anymore financially one day. You have to reach them that always getting what they at want isn't always whats best for them.
In regards to your original question, and responses on here you can see that there is a big school of thought that thinks you are wasting money on things that are not essential at this age... if you want to continue dressing baby in designer , clothes, you could say: I don't comment on what you dress your DC in even if I don't agree with what you do. We like fashion, baby is comfortable and we can afford it. You may think it's a joke but I don't see it that way and would appreciate us just supporting each other as friends rather than disaporoving of uoir fashion choices

I had a friend who always dressed her son in designer clothes to go to full time nursery and she always went mental when there was a stain or something on them or they had changed him into some spare clothing. He was 2 years old FGS. The staff hated her with a passion.

Justifiably

Seems like your partner equates good fashion taste with designer brands. Because if the majority of your baby's clothes are designer and from outlets, it is clear its the label he cares about. Your friends are probably raising their eyebrows at the baby in a bodysuit plastered with a Gucci logo that they will definitely have a nappy explosion in imminently. Designer outlet prices aren't going to be anywhere near as cheap as Mothercare or supermarket baby clothes which are definitely still cute and 'fashionable' as well as cheap. Sorry but it is ridiculous to spend lots of money on designer baby clothes that will be ruined or too small within 3-5 working days, regardless of if you're a millionaire or spending your last few quid on the Flannels website.

Ignore EVERYONE, I bet your DS looks super cute in his outfits, it’s amazing how envy brings out such spite and rude behaviour in others. Branded clothing is, from my own experience, extremely long lasting and can be passed down and on many times so far more environmentally friendly than some of the non branded clothing out there for children. I would say don’t pay attention everyone else and do what makes you and DP happy for your little one and if that means cute new outfits then it’s no-one else’s business.

Me too. Bought my teenagers some fairly overpriced Calvin Klein pyjama shorts for Christmas. They look bobbly and crap, whereas my pair from Uniqlo (a quarter of the cost) are much nicer material.

Designer clothes are fine, my kids have quite a few RL clothes (mainly bought at US outlets) but I don't think designer clothes look great on babies. It's too much like ostentatious consumption for me.

That said, if you think it looks good, go for it. But you can't complain when others think it's a bit ridiculous.

Just as an aside, we're lucky enough to be well off but the 'best' thing I can give my kids is an appreciation of the value of money. And not showing off about clothes, phones, whatever in front of others who may be struggling to put food on the table.

Designer clothes show that the wearer is materialistic and a bit dim for paying over the odds for a logo. They're probably trying to stop you raising your son to be like his father.