Fed up of Judgy comments to DS

[Fattyandconfused]

DS is 12 weeks.

DP has always been obsessed with clothes. Looking smart, designer gear… the lot.

so when I got pregnant I knew we’d have a very well dressed little boy. He has a lot of high end clothes

but for some reason my friends ALWAYS have something to say about it.

always the “you have more money than sense” or “he’s a baby you are ridiculous” or “oh god” followed by eye rolls or bringing other people over “LOOK WHAT DS NAME IS WEARING NOW”

Most of the stuff is from outlets, so end up being a similar price to next baby clothes. But I cant be arsed to tell people that. People also don’t realise that DS wears clothes from charity shops, hand me downs etc. I feel like if I started justifying it by saying “oh well it only cost xxx and his trousers are charity shop” it makes me seem like I’m embarrassed. Im really not.

who wouldn’t want their DC to have the best of everything?

we aren’t in debt and it’s something DP loves to spend money on. People waste money on drink/drugs…

i dont really care what they think, but just get bored of these stupid comments. WHO CARES?
id love to know some responses that basically shuts it all down without me sounding like I’m getting aggravated by it.

Are you this woman?

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/19069996/primark-flip-flops-benefits-gucci-trainers/

Honestly screw anybody who is that judgemental.. their babies are probably in bobbly clothes that aren't very comfortable

oh the irony!

I can assure you people are not jealous that they can't afford them! A fool and thief money is easily parted!

But you convince yourself it's jealousy!

I linked to a story about a woman who has made a good dummy for her toddler and it reminded me of OP haven’t heard either way I think

Gold dummy

*their money

It’s no one’s business really, your call isn’t it.

Not my ethos at all, more into money for the home, or education- that’s the ‘best’ that’s our priority.

But yeah, totally your business, don’t know why you’re posting (and then claiming not to care)!

I find it very odd you asking ‘who cares’ OP, when it is you clearly you who does!
Personally, I wouldn’t say anything, but I’d definitely be thinking you have more money than sense.
Most expensive, or what looks ‘best’ doesn’t actually mean best in reality.
If you want your child to have the best, save your money for stuff that really does matter - education, trips, experiences, etc.

I guarantee you won’t be dressing him in designer gear when he reaches 2 onwards! Mud puddles paint, play doh the lot! Your just a show off.

I work with fabric and clothing production and believe me designer clothing like this is not 'the best', at least in the Outlet and RTW sections of their market The fabric is often either mixed fibres, sometimes majoring in synthetic fabrics, although probably not for babies. The assembly and production normally suffer too and is usually made in an environment that's not the best for the workers; it's produced to a price with a big mark-up for the designer house and everything else cut to the bone.
If you were my friend I'd really want and hope you'd take this into account, but if you didn't I wouldn't be saying anything to you directly as your friend has. Maybe she isn't your friend. TBH, I'd walk a long, long way to avoid wearing an adverising logo anywhere.

I don’t think anyone is jealous…

all the mega-rich people I know (£2m+ houses sort of rich) would have died of cringe before putting their babies in designer labels

They were in a mixture of George from Asda, Jojo maman Bebe, and H&M
None of it bobbly, all of it very comfy

@tomatopsste

Please don't waste another second thinking that people are jealous of you because you choose dress your child in expensive clothes.

People may comment, because your idea of 'the best' comes down to what your child is wearing. That's so, so sad. I hope you find some perspective as your child grows and you realise what really does matter - what really does constitute giving them 'the best.' Because it isn't Bonpoint.

But most people don't think that the clothes you are buying are 'the best'. I wouldn't have dressed my babies in anything with a 'designer' logo on it. I'd have been embarrassed to do so. You're deluded if you think people are jealous. Have you considered perhaps saving the money for something more useful, like their education?

I don't dress my baby dripping in labels! I buy clothes because they are good quality and soft... as I mentioned in my original post if anyone here would bother to read properly! Asda/Tesco clothes are not soft in comparison..

I don't understand why everybody wants to attack each other on here. You don't even know each other. I think time for me to delete this... everyone on here needs a life.. or a job.

No idea if OP is coming back, but if she is...

Hopefully these responses are telling you that what you're doing is quite out of the ordinary. Therefore you're going to have to either get used to comments about it, or stop doing it. I'm assuming you've no intention of stopping, so your best response is to just smile vaguely and move on.

@Fattyandconfused just say I work hard and I want to give him the best of the best why the drama

On a Sunday eve?

Your baby, your money, your choice hard as it is try and ignore them and never try to justify your decisions, hopefully they will get fed up of it soon. New parents are under enough pressure as it is without implied criticism just enjoy your baby.

I think you have completely misinterpreted your friends op.

Babies are boring to many people.

I love them but still struggle to find something to say other than 'cute' 'alert' 'happy' etc.

I think they are trying to engage and compliment your baby and give him the kind of attention that makes parents happy.

You should prepare yourself for the terrible twos though...my three son's all refused to wear the baby Osh Kosh dungarees at that age.

Broke my bloody heart

I think you are wrong about cheaper clothes not being soft.

I have literally never seen a baby suffering because their Asda babygro isn't soft enough.

Your friends sound bloody rude - ignore them. They’re probably judging you for your version of what is the best - but who cares! You do you! And enjoy dressing him I’d that’s what you’re into.

My kids look like tramps but are really well travelled/ well read and speak other languages. I’m sure they’d judge that too.

Why don’t you aggressively shout “I DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR OPINIONS, GET OUT OF MY HOUSE”?

Then your friends won’t have to deal with you being passive aggressive and you won’t have to deal with human interactions any more.

I hope you have some big designer bibs for when you wean little one. No amount of washing is going to get banana stains out of his crisp RL shirt...

I have a friend who is similar. Her kids are always dressed up to the nines. They look very cute.
each to their own 🤷🏻‍♀️