To be annoyed that husband pulled me up

[Lemoncurd2]

So, my husband pulled me up last night as apparently we are not having enough sex. I had a coil fitted a while back and had really bad periods since. It has been about 2 weeks since the last time but I am so bloody tired by the evening and he goes out to do his hobbies so I am guessing he expects me to wait up. He is also very lazy around the house which I just don’t find attractive.

Have you told him this?

He also said that men cheat because the person that they want is not available

Yes because he is entitled you know and you need informing if you are not performing your duties. You need to ready yourself when he deems to come home whenever that may be.

Fuck that shit.

He sounds like a complete dick OP, why are you with him?

That sounds like a threat. What a complete arsehole. You deserve so much better.

So he takes zero responsibility for contraception and housework and expects you to wait up like a Stepford Wife and have sex on tap for him?

Why do you put up with it, OP?

Well it's a good thing that he has communicated that to you. Now you need to communicate to him what he can do to help you get in the mood. Make sure he knows that it's his behaviour that is unattractive rather than your lack of libido. That's assuming you want to continue the relationship.

Are you sure you want to stay with a selfish, rude, entitled creep? LTB.

So he's giving himself permission to have an affair then. Lovely.
Does he not realise its not an entitlement of a relationship for someone to have sex with you?
Surely he must realise the more he pressurises you that the least likely you are to want to have sex. What a dickhead.

Tell him if goes ahead and cheats you will never be available ever again OP !

Gross. For the record, me ex husband and I had (what I would call) regular sex, bearing in mind we had 2 dc and he still cheated. Because he could.

I am rarely in the mood for sex by the time I go to bed op...I am much more in the mood in the mornings when I'm rested mentally and physically. My dp isn't a morning person but we have learnt to compromise a bit and do a bit of both.

Your husband sounds like a dick though.

Haha well he can’t cheat on you if you aren’t together can he
what a vile prick. I’m sure you aren’t expecting anything other than people telling you to boot him out

That's horrible.
Why would you want your partner to feel insecure like that. That would upset me.

Lemoncurd2 · Today 10:40
He also said that men cheat because the person that they want is not available

I'd wave him off on his merry way and see if he can find some other mug to put up with him

Tell him the 1950s called, they want him back.

What is it you see in this anachronism exactly?
Are you certain your like to spend the rest of your life with this shite being spouted?

Yuck he’s trying to pressure you into sex. I’d be dumping him for this manipulative coercive behaviour. So off-putting.

😱😱goodness me!!

HeadOnShoulders · Today 11:23
You've not been there for him, he communicated this to you, and instead of working on the relationship you thought it would be a better idea to grouse on MN. Yeah good luck with that.

male by any chance?

And woman divorce because the person they married is a bellend.

Sounds like you need to pull him up on all of these things you mentioned in your OP.

Quite. He isn't owed sex. I wouldn't want to sleep with him either. Lazy entitled git.

Talk to eachother instead of complaining here. Talk about how you feel how he feels and how you can make it so you are both happy.

Yeah...no

Sounds like you need to have a proper discussion so that you are on the same page. As some posters have said, he isn’t coming across very well here. The affair things like a bit of a threat and isn’t helpful. Not pulling his weight and turning up really late isn’t helping things. But he is allowed to express his frustration, and you should listen and take his feelings into account. Likewise, he needs to listen to your issues. I hope you can resolve things.