To be annoyed that husband pulled me up

[Lemoncurd2]

So, my husband pulled me up last night as apparently we are not having enough sex. I had a coil fitted a while back and had really bad periods since. It has been about 2 weeks since the last time but I am so bloody tired by the evening and he goes out to do his hobbies so I am guessing he expects me to wait up. He is also very lazy around the house which I just don’t find attractive.

I hope you asked him what changes he is going to make (pulling his weight, actually being home at a reasonable hour) to address this?

He sounds an absolute gem. Is that supposed to make you want him more or would he prefer it if you just made yourself have sex with him through fear of being left? Jesus, it really astonishes me how low the bar is set in some relationships on MN.

😂😂😂

Here for another round of “why are you with him” bingo.

Hahahaha This gotta be straight up satire! Surely, no one is actually such a bell end...

I would say to him "I find a man who cleans up his mess more attractive than a lazy slob."

Exactly this. This is a threat, do what I want or suffer this consequence.

What a disgusting man he is.

People who love and care for each other discuss relationship and intimacy problems in a mutually respectful manner. Your husband demands and threatens. You deserve better than him.

If the wife needs a drawer fixing it's the husband's duty to do it, and if the husband needs an ego massage it's the wife's duty to do it

what the fuck am I reading....looks madly around to see if I have just transported back to 1955.

Oh shit. I do all the DIY on our house. I’m so confused. Am I a man?
Should I be pestering DH for sex?

Sounds more like he hasn’t been there for her. I mean, who wants to shag a lazy, self absorbed, selfish fuckwit?

Research indicates both statements are factual and accurate.😂

@WhereTheLightMeetsTheSea

You'd be right if that was exactly how the convo went. I'm not naive enough to believe that. There was probably some back and forth, both sides giving as well as they got, but the OP cherry picked a few choice phrases and presented them in this way.

Surely this isn't the first time in your life you've been presented with one side of the argument.

I’d rather fix my own drawer than shag OP’s husband. It’s not fucking rocket science, is it?

😂😂

I hope you said “Women leave their husbands because they’re lazy round the house and pesty about sex’”.

Surely it depends if he was trying, clumsily, to raise an issue he feels you both need to discuss or if he was raising it to threaten you with affairs if you don't compile.

I think only you can answer that OP - if it's the latter then yes he's a cunt and you should plan to leave - if it's the former get of MN and talk to him.

If the wife needs a drawer fixing it's the husband's duty to do it, and if the husband needs an ego massage it's the wife's duty to do it.

So much bullshit in one short sentence...

If you have a drawer that needs fixing, you fix it. If your ego needs bolstering, get therapy.

And in a relationship it is never about duty, it is about wanting to support the person you love.

Lastly, nothing is more of a turnoff than a partner who is lazy at home and then expects to be pandered to in the bedroom.

oh for gods sake. No one is obligated to do anything in any relationship. I’ve been married happily for 25 years and not once has there been any obligation on either side.
Kindness, understanding and compromise that’s the main 3 ingredients.
Sounds like in your relationships it’s fear, obligation and guilt. Thank god I wasn’t unlucky enough to end up married to you.

Come on now.
I don't ever rememeber any conversation ever with any woman discussing housework when dating.
Sex for chores.
Nope.
Transactional sex is bullshit.

@HeadOnShoulders 😅🤣😂🤣😅😅🤣😂💩 where is your head at?

@HeadOnShoulders I don't think sex is about being 'obliged' - if we are talking about obligations, then my H has never fulfilled obligations to put loads of washing on , remember to put bins out or cook meals more than once a week at absolute best - why therefore are women 'obliged' to fulfill obligations - but men seem totally exempt.

You need to sit down and talk about both of the problem areas.

Hello there, @Lemoncurd2‘s lazy dh!

Start trying to find a solicitor. You are going to need one

Why don't you tell him that women get divorces because the person they want is an utter lazy manchild cunt?