ALSO like you. Nobody is any less or more important - we are all equal. So where's your compromise, given that you literally deny their identity?
I deny theirs only to the degree that they deny mine. That's what you are missing. There is no compromise not because one side or the other is unreasonable, but because the two definitions of the word woman are mutually exclusive. If a trans woman is a woman then I am not, and vice versa. (And as an aside, given that we are all equal, I'm really interested why your preferred solution here is the one that takes away from female people to the benefit of male?)
IMO the only way to resolve this paradox is to have different words.
Personally I believe that the female bodied meaning of the word, being the one that has been in use for hundreds of years and most importantly the one in use when the various women-only rights and protections were created, is the one that should stand and a new word coined for the gender identity that trans- and cis- women share. (The latter of course would have both words, because since sex and gender are different clearly one person can have both a gender and a sex and wouldn't it be wonderful to just have separate words for these separate things and stop fighting about it?)
But I'd accept a brand new shiny word for female people if necessary as long as we can use it to support female rights, spaces and protections.
I see you didn't address my question on the existence of transmen (and the fact that young trans people in this country are overwhelmingly FTM). Without using the misogny card, can you explain how that relates to your post?
"Without mentioning that society is sexist, explain why different sexes may result in different dynamics in ostensibly the "same" social scenario?" 😂
I entirely support mens' right to say "being male is meaningful and needs a word that does not include female people regardless of their inner gender".
I don't spend much time discussing the impact of TM (other than when someone tries to use them as a gotcha, or if the topic is particular individuals who use their transition as a political platform to agitate for a version of trans rights which is da aging to female rights) because I personally don't have as strong concerns about female people identifying as men. And that is because men have not historically had men-only provisions to protect them from women (protect in the widest sense here, meaning not just physical risk but also being marginalised and disempowered by a dominant social group), and therefore in practical terms men stand to lose very little from transmen redefining manhood to include them , while women lose a lot when womanhood is redefined to include trans women.
More generally I also don't believe in arguing on behalf of a group to whom I don't belong, because I believe putting words in others' mouths takes away their voice and agency. Allies should support authentic voices not speak over them. Ironic for a woman to worry about male agency but there you are.
I do find it very concerning that young (say under 30) FTM people are having gender reassignment surgery because it's drastic body modification and I think a society where people feel they need to become a facsimile of the opposite sex to be happy is doing something wrong. I would of course say the same about young MTF.
That said, although I think the harms of gender ideology fall mainly on transmen when the transition is FTM, and on female people when the transition is MTF (and I wonder what those two groups might have in common that would be very clear if we hadn't repurposed the words for our sex), I realise that if I reject TWAW (or rather the undefining of sex that comes with it) because of the harm it risks to female rights, I must reject TMAM because they are two sides of the same coin.
So there you go. I don't especially worry about MTF as a general concern for male people because the impact is mostly limited to the TM themselves. I do have concerns about those TM when they medically transition. Overal, if society said "hey, given the underlying differences in physical power and in how society treats male and female people, we are going to decide TMAM and FTM is fine but TWANW and MTF will come with some limitations", and if we put a lot more support around young women identifying as men with a view to finding non-medical outcomes that make them happy with surgery as a last resort, I'd actually be fine with that. But realistically, TRAs will never separate TWAW from TMAM exactly because it allows them to pretend that female people encroaching on male is simply the equal and opposite side of male people encroaching on female.