Baby Shower Gift List

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CF'ery or not?

Yes

The height of cheeky fuckery.

Yes.

Thank you!

I've been asked to purchase something from "the list". I replied back stating nothing on the list is within my budget so will get what I had already planned, and was asked whether I would go half's on an item with another friend who is in a similar financial position. Gobsmacked!

Bloody hell! That's massive CF!!

Wow! I'd just bung some Mamas and Papas vouchers in a card and make my excuses.

Shocking, I wouldn’t bother going!

Wow.

I think it is very rude to do this in the first place - but if you must, at least make the items on the list at the lower end of the price range.

I never bother with gift lists

It depends. If you ask if there is anything in particular they would like and they send you a link to a amazon or other list with a range of differently priced item then fine but other wise no.

I said no, and that I wasn't aware gift lists for baby showers were a thing.

I got back "Well they are all the rage in America"

I replied "but we are in the SE of England"

No reply as yet! 🤣🤣

That's full on cheeky!

I think these lists for any event are cheeky. Yes it would be nice if we could all select exactly what other people bought us or ask specifically for money for our wedding present but the whole point of a gift is the fact you’re not buying it and don’t get to know what it is! Hate them 🙈

Now that's really cheeky.

I recently got a baby shower invite, with a link to the gift list... and had no idea the person was even pregnant. Just seemed like something that had been fired to whatsapp contacts.

I recently organised a baby shower (I fucking hate them but it was for a close friend). The co-host ordered fucking bracelets to give out as favours. It's not a fucking wedding!

I think (optional) gift lists are really helpful. Especially if you don't have a baby/any experience with babies. Before I had my own I had no idea what to get, and found it stressful. Just like with weddings, a list makes it easy and takes out the stress.

However... they should be OPTIONAL and being told to go halves is crazy level CF

I’m old so I think baby showers are CF in themselves, but I’m growing to accept them. This is next level.
When I had my babies there were some close people who asked me what we would like - eg my work colleagues clubbed together and bought a Moses basket which was lovely, but the done thing was to turn up with a cute outfit, teddy and/or something for the mum.
Expecting gifts for anything is cheeky. Even wedding lists should have lots of very cheap items to cater for all budgets - if people want to spend more they can but it should never be expected. Controversially, I prefer requests for cash.

Hi Op

So I might get flamed here, but I created an amazon gift list.

I made a point in saying I under no circumstances expected a gift, that the pleasure of everyone's company to celebrate my upcoming arrival was more than enough. However if anyone did want to buy something for little one, and wasn't sure what to get, here is a list of things of we need.

I also said they didn't need to buy off the list, it could just serve as an idea. I was really worried about coming across rude but I've had nothing but positive feedback from it, and I think my friends and family would feel comfortable enough to tell me it was inappropriate if they thought that.

24 guests (big family both sides and 10 friends) 30 items on the list and 6 have already been purchased. Prices range from £5.99 to max £40.

I had a lot of anxiety about it to be honest, and my first thought was this post was about me 😂 but I would never tell you someone to go half's with someone else or demand a gift.

Also there are only 2 items at £40, the majority is between £10-20.

Not CF if there are a range of budget options. CF if there aren’t. I don’t have a problem with buying something someone actually wants and is actually useful rather than something that will end up in landfill.

I think your approach was fine @Cannotstandthisheat and I’m a stick in the mud. It’s the expectation that’s the issue. If someone had arrived with a hand knitted blanket, I’m sure you’d have been delighted at the love they had put in, not screeched ‘but THIS ISNT MAMAS AND PAPAS!!!’ That’s the difference

I was asked to buy from a friends baby shower and the cheapest thing apart from the perineum gel or nipple cream was a car seat at £270 so I bought her perineum gel 🤷‍♀️

I’ve specifically asked for no presents at my baby shower (so I guess it’s not technically a shower?). Mostly for superstitious reasons.

My french sister in law thinks it’s ridiculously British that I don’t have a gift list. She says everyone’s going to buy presents, and it makes it easier for them if they know what I want. My best friend also pointed out that if I don’t have a list, it’s my own fault if I end up with 8 jelly cat bunnies.

Someone put a £270 car seat on a gift list they sent to their friends? I thought I was past being shocked by what I read on Mumsnet but that is next level dickwittery

Maybe it was also to family and they’re all really wealthy and love buying big gifts for each other, we don’t know them. I’m more shocked by the perineum gel (but normalise bodies I suppose)!