Baby Shower Gift List

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CF'ery or not?

This. I've been generously given loads of sleepsuits, nappies, wipes, muslins, toiletries etc which all adds up and is way more practical than a £200 bouncer or whatever.

I can't stand baby showers and would never attend one.

An acquaintance had 120 people turn up for hers! Ridiculous!

My niece is having a baby shower next month - really it’s just an excuse to get everyone together so the two sides of the family can meet. She’s providing food and drinks for everyone. There’s no gift list, and if (and only if) people ask what she wants, she’s asking for a copy of that person’s favourite childhood book, with an inscription to the baby. Nothing else. I think that’s lovely 😊

I think your situation is indeed CF!

Let’s stop throwing the mass murder of children in Americans faces everytime we dislike something ‘Americanised’. The vast majority of Americans I know support tighter gun control and are horrified by the violence. Using it as a gotcha online is far tackier than any baby shower.

Baby showers are bad enough but a gift list is beyond the fucking pale.

Baby showers themselves are bad enough, should be about as socially unacceptable as smoking indoors. A gift list is even worse.

I never bother with baby showers. Mine, or anyone else's.

I don't think it's cheeky at all. I think it's helpful to those who want to know what to get and also helps the new mum. I think a range of prices is necessary though! If it's just expensive things then that's very cheeky.

What about a list of ideas and brands that the mum likes?

Let’s stop throwing the mass murder of children in Americans faces everytime we dislike something ‘Americanised’. The vast majority of Americans I know support tighter gun control and are horrified by the violence. Using it as a gotcha online is far tackier than any baby shower.

It's hardly a gotcha. It's more to highlight the stupidity of the response ("because it's popular in this other society") rather than using a coherent argument to support why an expensive gift registry for a baby shower is needed. Especially when the person in question has already pointed out it's above their budget.

Now that is the kind of baby shower I would like to go to!

Blimey, so fucking cheeky these days. In my day (yeah, I know, I'm ancient) we didn't even buy a pram or cot in advance because we didn't want to tempt fate in any way. Nowadays women have parties and gift lists FFS!

I'm a funeral arranger, and it's not uncommon for us to have parents arranging funerals for pre-term or stillborn babies. Although a good outcome is likely, it's never a given that you're going to end up with a healthy baby.

I mean, this is something I would love to do for my baby shower because it would be really helpful in getting what I actually need and I have bought so much stuff I dont want duplicating but not something I would ever have the balls to do cause yes, it feels very cheeky haha

@Cas112 you probably will get asked for a list or suggestions as people will want to get you things you need and there's nothing wrong with that. It's the cheek of having only expensive or big ticket items on a list and expecting people to cough up exorbitant amounts that understandably annoys people.

I think that's lovely too, and if I may I'll pinch the idea for when (if!) any of my children get round to having their own babies.

Baby showers weren't a thing here when I had my children. The only one I'd come across until recently was in Lady and the Tramp.

@DifficultBloodyWoman and @KohlaParasaurus i know! I thought it was a really lovely idea…books, coffee and cakes! Perfect afternoon party 😊

Urgh, baby showers are the height of CFery anyway, a gift list (even just as a “suggestion”) are just chavvy, grasping and vile.

I am way too superstitious anyway. Not every birth goes according to plan.

Everyone saying baby showers are CF and just for the gifts, this is not true in a lot of cases I’m sure.

I spent a lot more money on my baby shower than I received in gifts, it would of been cheaper to not throw the baby shower and buy the items myself.

It’s a celebration not just getting gifts.

I don’t think a baby shower wish list is cheeky at all.

When pregnant with my first the cheapest thing cost £5 and the most expensive thing cost £500😂 with my son, I had more experience and knew exactly what I needed so the list ranged from £1.75 up to £45.

Not everyone is willing (or able to) spend so much on items but there are some people that are. My Godfather bought my £200 cot from my list which was super helpful. I just put everything I needed on my list so whoever would buy something would be making my to do list much shorter!

I do think asking someone to go halves on something with someone else is ridiculous. If someone can’t or doesn’t want to buy something on your list then they absolutely don’t need too. I do think some people rely on these lists for people to buy essentials because they’re not in a financial position to do so themselves even though it’s their child!

I also think it’s helpful to know who’s getting what. I remember going to my friend’s baby shower when we were 19, three people got th EXACT same thing and it was quite expensive too! At least with the list, people can tick of their names so you don’t have more than one person buying something

I think optional lists are great! I've been to a few showers where people have gotten the same thing from multiple people.
The list should be optional and there should be really cheap options on there.

Would people getting presents off a baby shower list expect more presents when the baby is born?

Let's just say cheapest option was £40.

You see now that’s just ridiculous. She could easily have a small pack of nappies costing around £5 or something. £40 bloody hell

Very naff

Shower-type gift = inexpensive and useful - the sort of thing you (probably) can't have too many of, so list not required.

Also, as a shower is thrown by a close friend, and others invited are also close friends, list not needed as they can all talk to each other.

If you have given a shower gift, then another gift after baby is born is not expected (good way to cut expense is to take part in the shower of gifts). But of course is fine if you want to.

They shouldn't

I find baby showers a bit incomprehensible as I lost 3 before I had DC1 - having lots of lovely gifts and no baby to use them would be so heart breaking. When we came home we had the basics ready basket, buggy, car seat and some white vests and baby gros but everything else was still in its boxes ready to go back to John Lewis if the birth went wrong. (I'll never forget the kindness of the lovely sales assistants in Peter Jones when I explained why I was so stressed about buying the things I needed.) Have a starting maternity tea with colleagues and friends by all means but leave the baby gifts until the little one has arrived.