Baby Shower Gift List

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CF'ery or not?

Fgs. Even in Australia we have baby showers and gift registries. Saves walking around the shops trying to figure what they already have.

Let's just say cheapest option was £40.

No cheaper stuff because "she can get them herself" 🤣🤣

Thing is I'm not even angry, just laughing about it now. She's booked her wedding for 2 years time......can't wait for that one!

Someone I know has put their baby shower gift list on FB for all to see. People really have no shame about being grabby bastards these days.

It’s not the concept, is it, that’s an issue, of buying a close friend or relative a present for their new baby and asking what they’d like. A nice organic feel to it.

It’s more a reaction to the introduction of the terms ‘baby shower’ and ‘gift registry’ and the concept of the whole thing being choreographed, seemingly by an event planner, with some occasional ‘out there’ expectations that make close friends and family feel uncomfortable.

Assuming you are in the UK, I'd bring a pack of Aldi newborn nappies. Though tbh I'd have already turned the invitation down as I don't indulge this hogwash.

I think ten years ago baby showers were unusual and, like any new thing, viewed with suspicion. But they're increasingly normal now, and I only really see hostility to them on mn. But a gift list should have a range of items at various prices. Are you sure it didn't start off that way but the cheaper items were snapped up? I think gift vouchers should always be an option for that reason.

Yes. Tbh a baby shower is abit CF but each to their own. I never ever buy a present for a baby before birth so invited to baby shower either don't get anything or bring a small gift for mother to be .hand cream etc. The shower I been to I phoned and explain ed before. Mother to be for shocked anyone bringing anything as she saw it as a get together with friends before baby. It was perfect...lots of laughter

Gift lists for baby showers are really practical and very helpful for most of us. The whole point of a baby shower is the gifts, so the idea that it's entitled as is sometimes used about wedding lists, doesn't hold (at least, not if you accept the invite to the shower).

Not having plenty of stuff at lower prices is CFery and trying to get you to go halves with someone else when you've said you're doing something different is pretty rude.

But unless you're best friends with the mother-to-be and know of something she would adore but would feel bad about putting on the list, why on earth wouldn't you get her something you know she wants and doesn't have?

The whole point of baby shower is the gifts...... well that's nailed it! Pisses me off how some try to pass it off as a "celebration" and not a grabby gift receiving event.

That’s ridiculous.

Her aunt asked if she needed anything and she did need something. Obviously the aunt would rather gift something that your DD actually needed (which is why she asked) and your DD would rather receive something she needed?

Hugely CF, not to mention utterly classless. However, I also think baby showers are the height of tackiness. I feel the same about ‘hen dos’.

Essentially, any event that involves balloon arches, ‘bubbles’ and endless inane chatter about babies or menz is a ‘no’ from me.

I think it's similar to asking for cash as a wedding gift.
Personally I avoid baby showers like the plague, boring as hell. Not my idea of fun.
I also do not buy gifts until the baby is born, call it superstition. Same as I would not give a wedding gift until the register us signed.
Why can't people be happy that you attended their do and if they get a gift that is an added bonus. No obligation at all to buy a gift especially if the mother and father are well off enough not to welcome clothing and nappies.

Right I'm going to be completely honest here.

I didn't want a baby shower but friends at work threw me one with the women from the office and some people who had left. I had been building a gift list on Amazon as I got a pack for free when you signed up to build a baby gift list.

One of my friends contacted my partner (who shares my amazon account) and asked him for gift ideas, so he shared the list as it was easier.

I did not know about this or the shower. When I went round for coffee, everyone was there and it was lovely. They had purchased about half the gift list! I was quite embarrassed but it was lovely.

If you are being demanded to buy from the gift list, yes it is total cheeky fuckery but if they are just using it as a guide so people can actually buy what she wants, it's probably easier.

For the record, I would have been happy with zero gifts or shower but it was so lovely to have my friends all together drinking decaf coffee and eating mini sandwiches!

Numbertheory unless you are the baby's mother or father it is not your responsibility to buy anything for that child. Expecting others to buy your child stuff is just grabby. If you can't afford to buy the stuff don't have a child it really is that simple. Bloody hell. I'm going to 2 weddings soon, both night dos. I'm not asking what gift they would like as both couples live together and have what they need. They have asked me to celebrate their marriage not subsidise their trip around the world/new car/ swimming pool or whatever.
neither did I ask for money or gifts or anything else for that matter when I got married. Oh and both couples are having a register office wedding so no showy palavour either.

I don't like baby showers and when a friend wanted to do one for me I said no. A get together is fine, it is all the weird games and stuff like a kids party that goes with it.

I've always really enjoyed buying new baby clothes and toys but would be happy buying from a list or contributing towards a big item if that is what they preferred.

As a mum, I received some items that I never would have thought of beforehand and it is lovely to see everyone's taste.

Hand knitted cardies and a crocheted blanket were amongst my favourites.

I love going to meet the new baby and I loved people coming to see my new babies.

That is utterly ridiculous and I can't believe how rude they were about you not getting something from the list. I hate baby showers (and I'm American). My SIL threw me a surprise one when I was pregnant and I absolutely hated. In your position I wouldn't go.

This tbh

Ha!!! How ridiculous!

I personally like to wait until baby is born so often turn up empty handed to these things or just with some nice shower gel for mum.

I think the problem is the "shower" concept means it is about gifts. So maybe it needs renaming. I didn't have one as hated the idea of people showering me with gifts.

Oh dear I really hate this. I had to attend one a few years back with a list of expensive items like Tommy Tippee Prep Machine to baby monitor which were specific brands where the event coordinator (cousins sister) created a WhatsApp group and shared an excel file with the links where the invitees had to declare infront of everyone in the group which item they will be buying so there wouldn't be duplicate purchases. I just got gift vouchers from John Lewis. None of the items on the list were below £80. What peed me off was the fact that everyone in the group saw who was buying what which was tasteless. I've given cash in weddings before but no one knew how much I put in the card which creates a safe space between you and the host as your income can be different to the other attendees especially depending on how close you are.

I don’t know why I hate the idea of doing a registry so much. I had one for my wedding and this shouldn’t be any different.

A meet and greet?! Did she give birth to a royal baby?

She needs to reconsider having a child if items over £40 are a stretch for her to afford.

Not to mention she's in for quite the shock when she realises the cumulative cost of nappies, muslins, wipes, simple sleep suits and other such basic items.

I got back "Well they are all the rage in America"

So are mass shootings in schools, racism and reduction of female rights.

It is different. Weddings usually have guest lists. In the uk, a baby shower is usually a social gathering without a long tradition of taking large presents. The host hasn’t spent thousands of pounds putting on a party for their guests. Most people also buy presents when the baby is born. It’s not comparable to a wedding.

Whaaaat?! If you want overpriced stuff the baby will barely use buy it yourself, don't expect your friends to fork out for it!