It's true - can we accept and acknowledge these disgusting subliminal societal messages that MOST of us put out there.
Something very important to me is going on right now - one of the most important things my life for a while, but noone seems interested.
Unless it's a child's birthday or the birth of a child it appears...no one cares once you get to a certain age. Is this it forever? Unless my life is about a child noone will care?
I've had ENOUGH of feeling lesser than, because I decided not to procreate (or can't)
People need to really be much kinder and more sensitive to people that don't have kids whether it's choice or circumstance.
Parents, please stop being dicks to non parents and treating them like they're not as important as you. It sucks.
AIBU?
To think your life and achievements are treated as 'lesser than' when you don't have kids?
josil · 27/06/2022 22:43
Tabbouleh · 28/06/2022 11:08
Menopause isn't a maternity issue?
Tabbouleh · 28/06/2022 11:11
I was referring to @rainbowmilk 's post which I may not have understood.
I think OP has got something else going on though.
CounsellorTroi · 28/06/2022 11:04
A carers network was set up at my work, I joined as I was caring for my elderly mother, but it was dominated by childcare issues and was basically a parents’ network.
YouAreNotBatman · 28/06/2022 09:13
YANBU, at all.
I wonder if most here are parent’s, so they really don’t see it / care about it.
So many women have also disappeared in a selfish me and my kid bubble.
It really sucks.
Olinguita · 28/06/2022 09:50
OP, I totally see where you are coming from. I had DC1 in my late 30s and I often felt that my achievements or life events were "less than" among certain friends and family in the days before I became a mum. I am very mindful now to make sure that I celebrate the achievements and milestones of friends and relatives without kids and to make sure they know I take their problems and challenges in life seriously. Being a woman without kids in your 30s and beyond can feel like a bit of a societal no-man's land. Solidarity.
josil · 28/06/2022 22:47
Sorry I haven't really commented since my OP so I want to set some things straight to fully explain;
I don't want to say too much because outing but I wasn't asking for people to be congratulatory - I was hosting something in celebration of something important to me and a friend has told me she may not be able to attend as she will be putting her son to bed.
Now, as ppl pointed out no one cares about kids birthdays I'm sure but you still turn up right? You don't make the excuse of washing your hair for example? Or something else utterly ridiculous
It's about being there for people even if you don't want to be. That's the point I'm making
josil · 28/06/2022 22:47
Sorry I haven't really commented since my OP so I want to set some things straight to fully explain;
I don't want to say too much because outing but I wasn't asking for people to be congratulatory - I was hosting something in celebration of something important to me and a friend has told me she may not be able to attend as she will be putting her son to bed.
Now, as ppl pointed out no one cares about kids birthdays I'm sure but you still turn up right? You don't make the excuse of washing your hair for example? Or something else utterly ridiculous
It's about being there for people even if you don't want to be. That's the point I'm making
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YouAreNotBatman · 28/06/2022 09:13
YANBU, at all.
I wonder if most here are parent’s, so they really don’t see it / care about it.
So many women have also disappeared in a selfish me and my kid bubble.
It really sucks.
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