To ask how many of you are actually happily married

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Meaning you genuinely like your partner, would marry then again given the chance, enjoy spending time with them...

32 years married this year. He is my favourite person in the world and my best friend. I absolutely would marry him again.

we weren’t able to have children but I’d sooner be childless with him than a mother with anyone else.

Yep. I'm very happy. Married 12 years together 15.

Yes I would but what's going on with you OP?

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I may have missed additional comments from OP.
What’s happening in your relationship that prompted this enquiry.
Marriage is not a bed of roses all the time. A garden is helpful to escape to when things get rocky as they sometimes do. A decent size house is also useful so that we have our own space.
Reading through some responses - well it’s fairy tale living.

Im thinking some are in denial. However I would marry my husband again and I love him. Over the years we’ve grown to accept each other and love has grown too.
Whatever prompted your question, I hope has settled over the weekend.
If possible, taking care of each other is a good starting place.

@WhichSideOfTheMoon same here. Until around8 yearsago I would have been jumping in saying 'very happy' - a lot has come out since then- an old emotional affair, really bad secretive porn habit and very bad moods/temper now I am post menopausal and not just going along with everything for an easy ride. Some people change and not for the better. There's no hate and we co exist totally fine, but if money was no object at all I would choose to be single , because I don't like sleazy secrets in relationships unless it's a suprise party etc!!

Ah OP I don't think this thread is going to do anything for you except make you think everyone else's marriages are amazing, which is going to make you feel bad if yours isn't great. You need to look at your own relationship and decide if it's just a rough patch, or if you're with the wrong person. Can it be fixed? If not then think about next steps, life is too short to be unhappy.

No not a chance I'd do it again.

I was always head over heels for him but I don't think he's ever felt that way about me.
And as I've got older it is more apparent.

I mean we don't row and get on but he's more like a housemate. I don't try and fix it anymore because he just closes it down. I'm indifferent as a result.
We just exist next to eachother but miles apart.

For the first time in years ( having 3 dc etc) I've become financially independent which was a worry before.
Now that worry has gone I know that it has run its course and I need to get out. We have a couple of family milestones first as I don't want my dc looking back on those times as " that's when mum left dad" but once those have been and gone I'm seeing a solicitor.
My 3 dc are all older now and fairly sensible so I do hope they understand.

I'm only 39 and we haven't been intimate for over a year. He says " well we are getting older now"
He's 41 btw.
Like he expects me to accept this is how life is now. No chance.