This is probably going to sound petty, I’m pregnant and having a difficult one so maybe I’m just being silly and emotional and ridiculous.
so dp and I live together, he has a child from previous, and I have 3 from previous. My children are with us mon-fri, his fri-mon, apart from holidays where we have them all together for at least half the week.
when my children are here, I tend to give them their tea about 5.30-6, and then me and dp eat later usually around 7.30 as he’s not normally home till then. By this time kids are in bed or at least having quiet time in their rooms so we eat and watch some tv, this is our time I suppose. We both work full time so evenings are the only time we get really like most parents I guess.
when his son comes to us, he always has tea with us, and it’s not because we eat earlier weekends, we don’t, we still eat around 7.30 as that’s just our routine now, but he always eats with us, even if it’s a takeaway. My partner likes my children in bed by 7.30, so we can have some us time, that’s fine, I totally agree with it, but at weekends For my step son it’s different. He eats with us, and doesn’t go up till 8.30-9. He’s 5 if that makes a difference. My kids are a bit older, youngest being 8. I brought it up with my partner that I think his son should eat earlier then we eat separately like we do in the week, but he thinks I’m being absolutely ridiculous.
just to add, in the holidays when we have all together, they all eat separately and go up, we eat tea just us 2. So it’s only the weekends.. but I don’t think it’s very fair to be honest. He has this rule for my children but not his own? Shouldn’t it be the same for all of them? I honestly don’t know if I’m being a knob here so please tell me if I am and I’ll drop it.
AIBU?
Stepson eats with us but my kids don’t
Leftie202 · 24/06/2022 16:35
Am I being unreasonable?
1746 votes. Final results.
POLLElla100 · 24/06/2022 21:04
Hi so sorry, I didn’t mean to post on your thread. How can I delete this please? Thank you x
washingwakeup · 24/06/2022 20:52
@NoddyMcdoddy
No, this OP said it. Read it again in the context of the actual original post on that thread.
This OP claimed to have an almost 15yo and a 1 yo. The thread OP had an almost 16yo and a "toddler".
Either we're not getting the full story or we're getting played.
mam0918 · 24/06/2022 19:43
People are acting bizaarely... 8pm is a perfectly normal and acceptible bed time for an 8 year old and older too.
Are people here really trying to make out that on school nights your 8 year old kids are up past that as if they are adults?
Even our teen is in his room by then, its out time to unwind after a long busy day... theres plenty of DAY time for family time, they dont need to be up past the water shed listening to our work stories, watching inappropriate tv and struggling to get up for school because they're knacked.
A lot of parents here must be the kind that let their primary school kids watch GOT and Squid games etc...
The problem OP has is inequality not a pefectly normal bedtime routine.
mam0918 · 24/06/2022 19:43
People are acting bizaarely... 8pm is a perfectly normal and acceptible bed time for an 8 year old and older too.
Are people here really trying to make out that on school nights your 8 year old kids are up past that as if they are adults?
Even our teen is in his room by then, its out time to unwind after a long busy day... theres plenty of DAY time for family time, they dont need to be up past the water shed listening to our work stories, watching inappropriate tv and struggling to get up for school because they're knacked.
A lot of parents here must be the kind that let their primary school kids watch GOT and Squid games etc...
The problem OP has is inequality not a pefectly normal bedtime routine.
lunar1 · 24/06/2022 22:01
You have a 13 year old eating at 5.30 and sent to his room by 7.30 because a fucking man says you should.
What a life your children have, is the wanker worth it?
Lalliella · 24/06/2022 22:14
The whole family should eat together. Family mealtimes are really important. I’ve voted YABU for that reason.
mam0918 · 24/06/2022 19:43
People are acting bizaarely... 8pm is a perfectly normal and acceptible bed time for an 8 year old and older too.
Are people here really trying to make out that on school nights your 8 year old kids are up past that as if they are adults?
Even our teen is in his room by then, its out time to unwind after a long busy day... theres plenty of DAY time for family time, they dont need to be up past the water shed listening to our work stories, watching inappropriate tv and struggling to get up for school because they're knacked.
A lot of parents here must be the kind that let their primary school kids watch GOT and Squid games etc...
The problem OP has is inequality not a pefectly normal bedtime routine.
Leftie202 · 25/06/2022 09:29
Ok, so From Monday, I will be eating with my kids, dp can have his when he comes in, and my kids are not being sent upstairs before 8. If he doesn’t like it, well I’ll have to deal with that when it comes.
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Ouchmytoe100 · 25/06/2022 11:08
Why do so many British parents eat separately to their children? At different times and often even different meals? I cant get my head around this.
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