Would you have cried?

[SleepingStandingUp]

Went to Greggs to buy sausage rolls, counted out the cash and put it in the side, turned away to sort something in the buggy, picked up my sausage rolls.

She says you haven't paid. Not rude just politely firm

I insisted I had as I'd paid cash, remember putting it on the counter.

She maintained I def hadn't as till hadn't opened.

I'm checking the buggy in case I've put it back my pockets, my bra the lot. No cash. So I'm saying but I must have, I don't have it any more and start getting upset.

She calls a colleague over, someone offers to pay and by now I'm properly crying because I'm embarrassed someone might think I'm trying to steal sausage rolls.

Someone else offers to pay, staff again refuse to take the money and basically put it through the til as paid.

But by now I'm properly blubbering and saying I'm sorry and that I don't want them to think I'd try and steal it etc. They were v kind, reassured me it was prob a customer who'd picked it up and offered me a cup of tea.

Humiliated enough I thank them and leave.

But as I'm walking through town looking like I've just cried it occurs to me again that this isn't a proportional response, and that everyone must think I'm weird to cry so easily and that at 40 with three kids I should do better.

Is it reasonable to say that I'm being pathetic and need to toughen up already and anyone else would have breezily just laughed it off?

Or am I being unreasonable to myself and my response to stress is normal?

Totally normal. Life gets us down from time to time, and often we are burdened with pressures and stresses that we don't realise. Sometimes it just has to come out. Even if you don't suffer with mental health issues, we all experience times like these. My partner is peri-menopausal (not saying you are!) and often starts crying in similar situations. Just accept that you are human and sometimes things get on top of us. No use fighting it, but also no need to be ashamed

I also cried recently on the phone to my bank when I was the victim of a scam, proper blubbed. That was over a lot more than £3 though and I felt so incredibly foolish I've fallen for it. I also cry at doctors' receptionists...in fact, now I think about it, I've turned into one of life's criers when I really didn't used to be like this. Definitely hormonal and time of life.

Females whipping it out there bras are a far cleaner than the pockets of males that don’t wash their hands after taking a shit.

You've made up your own little scenario there haven't you?

I wouldn't have cried, no one was having a go at you.

I'd probably have cried. Sending you 💐

No, I would not have cried. You had your card so could have paid with it? And what is this thing with putting random stuff in your bra? 🤢

I wouldn't have cried, I think it's quite an extreme reaction to a minor issue.

As for money in the bra, nothing wrong with that. There are more bacteria on people's hands than there would be on their chest. If you are that bothered about handling cash from a bra, you probably shouldn't be working in retail.

I wouldn't have cried. I'd have got a card out to pay and would have added a bag of doughnuts for the hassle 😜

I probably would have cried in frustration if they were being dicks about it.

Did you even read the post? She was even offered tea. Treating people with respect goes both ways you know, no need being rude to staff by telling them to shove something..

Probably not, but I can quite imagine some men getting angry and aggressive about it, equally unnecessarily and unhelpfully.

Missing the point, but how do you end up with kids toys in your bra and losing a phone in there?

Ywnbu, but yabu if you don't get some properly fitted bras, you'll feel like a new woman.

Why not?

An aunty of mine kept her dowpies in hers.

@SleepingStandingUp id have probably cried as well. I couldn’t bare for anyone to think I was a thief and I hope you feel better now.

If I was on my own, on my lunch break from work, this sort of thing wouldn't make me cry.

But if I had kids in tow then I'm always already at 95% of my maximum stress tolerance so something like this would tip me over the edge, and I definitely would have cried! I cry when I'm stressed.

But YABU for using your bra as some kind of a storage facility for anything other than your breasts.

God forbid should they see some emotion & learn that being overwhelmed happens.

Yes quite possibly
be kind to yourself , as you be to a friend .
it may make whoever took the money realise what effect it can have .

How much space do you have in your bra op 🤣🤣 is this a thing some women do?!
I don't think anyone on here can judge you as we don't know how you were feeling before the incident, maybe it tipped you over the edge or you're feeling more fragile at the moment due to things goung on in your life or lack of sleep, illness etc. You felt and reacted how you did and that's absolutely fine. Don't worry about it anymore or let it spoil your day. I hope you can enjoy the rest of your day (sausage roll saga aside) 🙂

I’d have cried. And quite possibly just stormed out of Greggs without my sausage roll and then felt I could never go in there ever again

I've cried at various things similar.

Whatever emotions you were having at that time were the right ones. I hope you're having a better day today.

If I would have cried depends on how much I have on my plate. Sometimes things can set me off and other times they wouldn't bother me too much.

Today, no I would not have cried at this.
Another day...sure. And it's OK.
I think you know that you crying is an over-reaction to that particular situation, but unless it happens a lot and is staring to impact you getting on with your day to day life then put it down to just one of those days.

I'm stunned you can lose your phone if your bra mind!

I wouldn’t have cried in the shop. I would have gone cold and been clear and low level cross. Would have blubbered like a three year old when I got home!

We all have our moments and this was yours. It's such a tough time for everyone and your reaction is totally understandable. I'm glad everyone was kind to you.
For what it's worth we've personally stumbled into some horrible real life drama and it wasn't the big ticket items that broke me, it was the small everyday things that had me in floods of tears, but please do reach out if you're struggling, trust me that's super important

You said you were going to town to get cash out, so I assume you had your card in you, why didn’t you use it to pay @SleepingStandingUp ?

I highly doubt I’d cry, unless it happened with something very expensive and the shop claimed I didn’t pay for it when I thought I did.

Paying twice for a £1 sausage roll couldn’t tip me over the edge, no.