Would you have cried?

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Went to Greggs to buy sausage rolls, counted out the cash and put it in the side, turned away to sort something in the buggy, picked up my sausage rolls.

She says you haven't paid. Not rude just politely firm

I insisted I had as I'd paid cash, remember putting it on the counter.

She maintained I def hadn't as till hadn't opened.

I'm checking the buggy in case I've put it back my pockets, my bra the lot. No cash. So I'm saying but I must have, I don't have it any more and start getting upset.

She calls a colleague over, someone offers to pay and by now I'm properly crying because I'm embarrassed someone might think I'm trying to steal sausage rolls.

Someone else offers to pay, staff again refuse to take the money and basically put it through the til as paid.

But by now I'm properly blubbering and saying I'm sorry and that I don't want them to think I'd try and steal it etc. They were v kind, reassured me it was prob a customer who'd picked it up and offered me a cup of tea.

Humiliated enough I thank them and leave.

But as I'm walking through town looking like I've just cried it occurs to me again that this isn't a proportional response, and that everyone must think I'm weird to cry so easily and that at 40 with three kids I should do better.

Is it reasonable to say that I'm being pathetic and need to toughen up already and anyone else would have breezily just laughed it off?

Or am I being unreasonable to myself and my response to stress is normal?

I cried in Lidl once when the shelf at the back (that you pop down to put bulky items on) evilly dented my shin in the car park and it was the absolute last straw after a fortnight from hell. Two concerned, kind women helped me pack the car. I just felt utterly defeated.

I’m similarly a bit disorganised and often stick my bank card in the pocket of one coat, then wear another; only today I couldn’t find which pocket my rail card was in and unpacked my entire laptop bag to find it. I’m a chronic keys-loser too. When the kids were very little, I never used a handbag and once had my wallet stolen from under the buggy in a playground. Sometimes brain overload just leaves me baffled and frantic. I feel for you!

This happened to me in a baguette shop. I ordered a salad and said had to make fresh be 10 mins so I paid and popped to shop next door. Insisted I never paid when went back. Cut long story short I complained head office and it transpired when they cashed up I had paid. I was embarrassed in shop and got upset.

SarahDippity. You sound like me.

Heck no, so many of us are on a knife's edge and that little thing can just tip us over, especially when it's public. Please don't beat yourself up, as you experienced, others just care and want to help. We are ALL vulnerable at times and don't know when we will explode into tears! X

Hey, you’re ok.

There’s something humbling and grateful about people offering to pay for you.

Plenty of people keep valuables in their bra, that’s not weird at all.

Cry your tears, they’re all precious and showing your vulnerability is good for your kids.

No I wouldn’t have cried, I’d have gone on and on getting more angry and then told them to check cameras

No, I would not have cried, however, I have put my MasterCard in my bra wen in an area that's a bit iffy. I locked my bag in with the emergency medical equipment hidden behind the back armrests when getting petrol in Wimbledon late at night.
Please don't stress about it. I would help anyone out as those customers did in Gregg's. I expect that you didn't even recognise that you were either tired or stressed.
Sending hugs your way and take care 💐

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I'm sorry this happened to you OP. I wouldn't have cried - I rarely cry - but I possibly would have got angry and over-reacted. However, I don't think I would have put the cash down and then turned away, I generally hand it directly to the cashier.

YANBU, the shop assistant practically accused you of theft and that's very serious. It's also very embarrassing in front of other people.
If that happened to me I wouldn't be upset , I would be furious 😡

I think I might have cried at this too when under pressure and tired, and looking back I think the times when I have suddenly cried it is when I have been flustered / embarrassed / stressed and the crying was then made far worse (into proper blubbing) by people being kind. Sometimes you just can't seem to recover your composure for some reason. Try not to dwell on it, and unless it is happening all of the time, it doesn't necessarily mean anything is amiss either. No-one will be thinking bad of you, really, everyone is far too wrapped up in themselves to give it more than a glancing thought. Some people will feel better for reading this thinking 'I've done that'...🌺

I'd have cried and I'm 39 tomorrow!, and my bra is like Mary Poppins handbag! So in my opinion you are being harsh on yourself! 😁

Sounds like me. I was actually diagnosed with an emotionally unstable personality disorder, basically bipolar, & I cry at the stupidest things.
Any confrontation at all I cry, stupid stuff on TV I cry, running late for something I cry, let someone down I cry… & on it goes 🙄
You need to give yourself a break & try to take better care of yourself 😘
You are emotionally overwrought & need a break so please reach out for some help 😘

To all the PPs saying that it was an irrational response, it certainly wasn't if that was all the money the OP had. Think about it!

Although I've just read all the OP's responses, and she isn't skint. So, unless extremely sleep deprived, a tad OTT.

If that’s all the money she had then she would be silly for going to Greggs and spending the last money she had anyway! 🤦🏻

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@BiscoffSundae, not unless she was hungry. I mean, it's quite cheap to get a couple of sausage rolls at Greggs. I've since realised the OP isn't skint, but I could imagine a few people today being absolutely mortified, and even crying, that their money was taken, or even that they have to put things back in a supermarket. The way the OP wrote her comment pulled on my heart.

Alas I have beautiful and loud twins, everyone remembers me. Will just brave it out next Wed

Yes, but I wouldn't know where to begin beyond that x

In hindsight I think she was accusing me of being s atty rather than a would be thief, hi think and assumed I was just wrong which was in last what was stressing me because I knew i wasn't

More like long term sleep deprived, I've just not caught up in three years. I'm not sure what it's called when you just don't have enough sleep for years😂 👶👶👶

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Not enough

More like long term sleep deprived, I've just not caught up in three years. I'm not sure what it's called when you just don't have enough sleep for years😂 👶👶👶
I'd say it was the cause for your reaction, sleep deprivation is horrible for messing with emotions.
I know from your previous posts that your older DC has health issues alongside toddler twins I'd say sleep is a luxury for the future.
You're doing a great job. 👍

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