To want to know WHY my child isn't included

[Cakemamma19]

So my DC is 2.5 years old and has been going to nursery since 9 months old. DC has a few friends there and gets on pretty well day to day. DC has had birthday parties only small because thier birthday is in December and covid/lockdown was rife both years we celebrated. I recently learned that 3 children have had birthday parties at softplay and community centres and invited the rest of the class but not my child. Its upset me a little for my little one but more than that i am left questioning why my child isn't included. DC is absolutely lovely, gets on with everyone, is kind and very bright.
I cant think why they would leave her out.
my baby is deaf and wears double hearing aids so does struggle a bit with communication sometimes. I'm not saying this is the reason at all. But just don't want to drip feed . Should I mention this to any of the parents in passing or just keep my mouth shut? What would you do in this situation?

Actually I was on the side of thinking they were being dicks but the timing is a v good point. Tb

Its probably just a case of inviting those children whose birthdays they were invited to rather than deliberately leaving her out. Do you ever invite other children back for playdates? Maybe they've just got it in their heads that you're a bit antisocial.

Big difference between a 5 year olds party and a 3 year olds.
Lots of 3 yos would be totally overwhelmed having 20 odd kids at a party.

Big difference between a 5 year olds party and a 3 year olds.

Lots of 3 yos would be totally overwhelmed having 20 odd kids at a party.

3 year olds go to soft plays full of people all the time. Many nurseries have 20 kids in a room. Our own party at 3 was her whole nursery class of 22 at a gymboree. Nobody was overwhelmed.

Was it the whole class invited? In my children's nursery there was 20 in each class but they were broken up into smaller groups of 10. So when we asked for a list of children they would just give us the list of children who's group they were in. I know the feeling though my children with SN hardly got invited to parties either.

@Wetblanket78 @mnhq zombie thread!

This is bringing back sad memories of years gone by. In my experience, it's most likely your child's deafness.
Disabilities freak people out, a lot of my friends children were scared of catching cerebral palsy. Not one friend ever corrected their DC.

The majority of people tend to be hideously ignorant.

That’s so sad @Enouf
My DS has Down syndrome and has a better social life than I do since starting school in September! (he’s in mainstream school)

I found that people just don’t know how to react with disabilities, one of my dd’s is disabled and we have had all sorts of strange assumptions made about her.
When Dd was at nursery there was a little boy in her group. I didn’t know what his condition was at the time but I knew he didn’t speak. Dd wanted to invite him so we did. A member of staff came and spoke to me the following day and apparently his Mum had been in floods of tears at getting the invite as in the 2 years he had been at the nursery he hadn’t had a single invite.