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greentreesgreengrass · 2022-06-21T13:37:50+00:00

DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray! We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after! People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/06/2022 21:53

Sparklingbrook · 22/06/2022 21:49

OP hasn't been back to the thread for over 24 hours, their last contribution to it was deleted by MNHQ.
But before all that they said they were going anyway whatever anyone said.

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@Sparklingbrook

Good! I’m glad she is going regardless of what is said to her on here

kennycat · 22/06/2022 21:53

I wouldn’t have been able to leave my babies because they were so bloody needy and I was pathetic about it. In hindsight I wish I’d been less like that.
please go to Glastonbury. I’ve lost so much of myself since having children it makes me so sad. They don’t like me any more than they would if I’d worked full time and gone on holiday without them every year. I’ve wasted all those chances. Don’t make the same mistakes I did!!

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/06/2022 21:55

kennycat · 22/06/2022 21:53

I wouldn’t have been able to leave my babies because they were so bloody needy and I was pathetic about it. In hindsight I wish I’d been less like that.
please go to Glastonbury. I’ve lost so much of myself since having children it makes me so sad. They don’t like me any more than they would if I’d worked full time and gone on holiday without them every year. I’ve wasted all those chances. Don’t make the same mistakes I did!!

@kennycat

A lot of women lose themselves when they have a baby.

It’s what’s of expected of them in our society

if you do something like leave baby with dad so you can go to gym or get your nails done then you are see as selfish and non maternal.

It’s shite.

Sparklingbrook · 22/06/2022 21:58

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/06/2022 21:53

@Sparklingbrook

Good! I’m glad she is going regardless of what is said to her on here

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Well it did make for a pointless but occasionally entertaining thread.

pictish · 22/06/2022 22:10

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/06/2022 21:45

Ah OP you’re blowing so many peoples minds on here!!

Most mumsnetters are obsessed with “staying home for baby snuggles” until their child is about 2.

Babies or not lots of mumsnetters also hate socialising and can’t abide to be around alcohol and other people. They like to be home at around 9pm at the latest in their Pj’s

Pay them no heed OP! You keep doing you

There’s an element of truth in this. This is playing to the wrong audience. Of course all human life IS here but there is a definite swell of conservative women who post on Mumsnet.
I’m trying to be careful with what I say because actually, there’s no right or wrong in this, just people who are different.
What I can’t abide is the sanctimony. Perhaps that’s why you posted here, to worm those ones out. If it is, it worked.

blondieminx · 22/06/2022 22:28

If you have willing babysitters then go, and enjoy it!

life is short…

inappropriateraspberry · 22/06/2022 22:48

I’d go and take the baby with me! At that age they’re needs are relatively basic and they’re very portable! It would make it a different Glastonbury experience to what you had originally planned, but you’re a parent now. It would still be great fun.

inappropriateraspberry · 22/06/2022 22:51

Oh, and I wouldn't worry about a heatwave - it's going to rain!

Elle2018 · 22/06/2022 23:13

Go and enjoy yourselves - it’s as important to get some you time as it is to ensure your baby is happy as healthy - and happy parents make happy babies! The first three months are tough so I imagine you will welcome the break, especially as you trust your parents and so can relax. Being a good parent does not mean you have to be strapped to the little one 24/7 for the rest of your life and this will also help with lessening separation anxiety in the baby later on.

And yes I did leave mine for breaks away, they grew up fine, don’t resent me and have not been negatively impacted by spending the extra time with their grandparents 😊

Daisymaybe60 · 22/06/2022 23:31

I’m a grandmother and love looking after my DGC, but I’m very surprised that the grandparents are so enthusiastic about having total responsibility for a near newborn for a week. I don’t know anyone of my age group who’d say yes to this, unless of course it was for an emergency.

Lizzy53 · 22/06/2022 23:59

Why are you asking when you said your going anyways?? Your child is too young to be left and is a huge responsibility for the grandparents but that's my opinion

ladydimitrescu · 23/06/2022 00:08

My son was a very chilled baby too, I'm the opposite of chilled, regardless, he's now 5 - and fucking mental. So good luck with that.
You are so smug with that "we are chill so baby is chill" comment and you know you are, at least own it.
I can't fathom leaving a 12 week old for the best part of a week, I find that desperately sad. You are all he knows, it's an extremely long time to be away from you when he's so very small. But that's my personal opinion.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 23/06/2022 00:21

i think it is a perfectly great idea

Mamanyt · 23/06/2022 00:25

I am assuming that your parents DID rear you themselves, without relying on nannies, etc? And that you grew up into a normal, rational adult? Weren't dropped on your head? They have MILES more experience than you do at child-rearing. Since, apparently, your child is not breast dependent, go. Enjoy yourself. AND bring something nice to your parents.

Sorrynotsorry22 · 23/06/2022 00:57

Lucky you ! Bet GP are happy to help out

miaows · 23/06/2022 03:04

100% go! If I was in your position I would go. Baby will be fine. Go and enjoy yourself. People will always judge and thats none of my business or care.

hamdden12 · 23/06/2022 05:11

I absolutely love threads like this, they turn into a competition for who's never left their child overnight and then Sharon wades in with her 'I've never left my 22 year old DS for more than an hour because of abandonment issues, your life should be sacrificed as soon as you even think of trying to conceive OP'.

Hope you are having a good time OP and the other poster who's there on the Jäger's!

Onedaylikethi5 · 23/06/2022 05:16

Babies brains are being rapidly built at this stage, based largely on their connection with primary caregivers. So no, I couldn't do it.

But why ask?

PrincessAnnaOfArundale · 23/06/2022 05:44

You know what?? I wouldn’t have done it but I wish I could have if that makes sense. If you have the family you can rely on to take care of the baby, please just go. Zero guilt. Just go and have fun. You’ll be back before you know it and the baby will be none the wiser. I only wish I’d have been able to do stuff like this because my kids are now 14 and 10 years old and we still have no one to rely on or trust to have our children and I miss so much of my old life. Anyone wanting to flame me. Feel free. I don’t regret having my kids for a second but I do wish I’d have had a support network and that my sense of self hadn’t been eroded away to nothing. Go live. Being a parent doesn’t mean you never get to do nice things without the baby.

CandyLeBonBon · 23/06/2022 07:25

I imagine the op is already there and has forgotten all about this thread by now - especially as the phone signal is so rubbish!

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/06/2022 08:00

inappropriateraspberry · 22/06/2022 22:48

I’d go and take the baby with me! At that age they’re needs are relatively basic and they’re very portable! It would make it a different Glastonbury experience to what you had originally planned, but you’re a parent now. It would still be great fun.

@inappropriateraspberry

why would she wanna take the baby?!

when she can leave the baby with loving grandparents and then she can really let her hair down and enjoy the festival!

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/06/2022 08:02

Onedaylikethi5 · 23/06/2022 05:16

Babies brains are being rapidly built at this stage, based largely on their connection with primary caregivers. So no, I couldn't do it.

But why ask?

@Onedaylikethi5

and just exactly what do you think is going to happen?

baby is going to be cared for a couple of days by loving grandparents

it’s all fine

you’re just looking to critcise

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/06/2022 08:02

tiggergoesbounce · 22/06/2022 19:32

Not a cat in hells chance could we have done that, we just didn't want to leave him.

If your baby is well cared for and you feel comfortable doing it, then go for it, you have to do whats right for you guys and everyone is different.

@tiggergoesbounce

Not a cat in hells chance could we have done that, we just didn't want to leave him.

why not?!

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/06/2022 08:04

All these people saying they couldn’t possibly have done it, would miss baby too much etc etc

did you not crave a break?!

cos looking after a baby is hard and relentless and often boring and as with everything and anything in life people deserve a break

Sparklingbrook · 23/06/2022 08:08

I am going to be honest, after getting pregnant and eagerly awaiting the baby after nine months I didn't personally crave a 6 day break after 12 weeks, no. I had nine months maternity leave and wanted to spend it with the baby.
I counted a break as my parents having the baby for an hour or two maybe.