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to go to Glastonbury?

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greentreesgreengrass · 21/06/2022 14:37

DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray!

We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after!

People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

OP posts:
Gandalfsthong · 22/06/2022 19:28

I left my first baby when he was 4 months old for one night to go to the wedding of my husbands best friend. I was breastfeeding so expressed enough for the baby and pumped whilst I was away because, agony. He was a pretty good sleeper to that point but was a bloody nightmare after and didn’t sleep for any long period for months after. We always wondered if it was a protest about being left with my parents for the night 🤣🤣

tiggergoesbounce · 22/06/2022 19:32

Not a cat in hells chance could we have done that, we just didn't want to leave him.

If your baby is well cared for and you feel comfortable doing it, then go for it, you have to do whats right for you guys and everyone is different.

MumasaurusRex · 22/06/2022 19:41

I wouldn’t have- but only because I personally would have felt bad about leaving my baby with parents for that long. But that’s me. I never left either of mine and I got/get judged for it by partners family because “they will never learn to settle with other people” but I don’t have any need to leave them. I wouldn’t judge anyone though, in fact I am kind of jealous you get to go to Glastonbury..

TomorrowsPrincess · 22/06/2022 19:42

As long as you have the childcare and your parents are happy then go for it.
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!!
Baby will never remember you leaving them!
Take every opportunity you can to enjoy your life, with kids and on your own.

Hmm1234 · 22/06/2022 19:47

Fxck the haters and go! Glastonbury tickets are out of reach for some people enjoy yourself. I bet son is upset he’s missing out though lol

LaDamaDeElche · 22/06/2022 19:49

I think the Glastonbury part is just about fine at a push (wouldn’t have done it myself, but did do an overnight when DD was around four months), but the couple of extra days is a step too far. Your baby is so attached to you at that age. It’s going to be tough on the baby and on your parents. I wouldn’t be able to relax and enjoy myself in your position to be honest.

gimmepeaceandsky · 22/06/2022 19:54

5 days ? 🙈
I could never. But hey ho… if you already done it before and it worked, good for you, but if not I believe that you will be running back in the 2nd day away - I would- unless you are extremely detached already. Which is sad, really.
it’s not about you and your partner anymore, it’s all about the child. You should have thought about it before having a baby… not being horrible, just honest.

good luck

Sparklingbrook · 22/06/2022 19:55

Hmm1234 · 22/06/2022 19:47

Fxck the haters and go! Glastonbury tickets are out of reach for some people enjoy yourself. I bet son is upset he’s missing out though lol

OP says they are going whatever anyone says anyway. Hmm

Somebodyelsestrain · 22/06/2022 20:23

A very chilled baby is perfect to take to Glastonbury. Portable, requires only milk, doesn't run away, doesn't have views about what they want to see, doesn't get wasted and do stupid things. I'm here with older children who might do those things and, lovely as it is, a chilled 12 week old would be a hell of a lot easier.

Take your baby, snuggle them into a sling/festival wagon, have a lovely time.

mel71 · 22/06/2022 20:23

Okay, so my son and daughter in law have had one night away a month since their now one year old was 3 months old. Generally my daughter in laws parent go to their house and stay. It’s not something I could have done - however, I have to say the baby is very sweet, easy and well socialised. That could just be her nature of course - but it hasn’t done her any harm. I think the length of time is little long here though - but I am sure your baby will be fine!

LadyLaSnack · 22/06/2022 20:24

On the subject of

lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!)

as many have already pointed out this is obviously trite bollocks parroted proudly by first time parents and sometimes those around them as ‘something to say’. It’s meaningless.

What I came to say is - it’s not admirable to be super chilled parents. A vulnerable person’s health, mental health, safety and sometimes life depends on parents taking decisions seriously and thinking them through.

Eben just the ability to describe oneself as a ‘chilled’ parent comes from a position of real privilege - where nothing has happened to burst the bubble on the magical unicorn world where nothing bad happens.

I thought I would be a mega chilled parent until my first was 12 weeks and developed sepsis. Thankfully I wasn’t as nearly chilled as I thought, natural anxiety kicked in and I got him to hospital early enough that they saved his life.

Backachesandheadaches · 22/06/2022 20:51

No I wouldn't leave my children when they were this age, in fact I'd go as far as to think you haven't properly bonded with your child to be happy to leave them at such a young age.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 22/06/2022 20:52

Backachesandheadaches · 22/06/2022 20:51

No I wouldn't leave my children when they were this age, in fact I'd go as far as to think you haven't properly bonded with your child to be happy to leave them at such a young age.

At all? Over night? A week? Where is your cut off?

Mirw · 22/06/2022 20:53

You should have given up on Glasto until DS is old enough to go to. 12 weeks is far too young to be left with grandparents when it is not an emergency. How selfish can you be?

Topgub · 22/06/2022 20:58

@Backachesandheadaches

When would you be able to leave them without worrying about a bond?

Do you think dad's who leave them to go back to work after a few days or weeks aren't bonded?

Backachesandheadaches · 22/06/2022 21:04

To answer the 2 who tagged me, not until the first 6 months had passed.
A couple of hours maybe but a whole night? Not a chance. My kids are older now and regularly stay at grandparents houses but I'd never of allowed it before 6 months.

About the Dad's.... show me a dad who has the bond a mother does (or even stronger bond) dad's (most) love their kids but as society has shown us it's the mothers main job to do everything with the children.

Topgub · 22/06/2022 21:12

@BlackandBlueBird

Fuck that shit

It is not my job to do everything with the children. They're his kids as much as mine.

orwellwasright · 22/06/2022 21:20

Making a generalisation here but the difference in posting styles between those in favour and those not is quite noticeable.

Articulate posts wondering about studies into bonding vs fuck the h8ters, go live your best life, hun.

Sparklingbrook · 22/06/2022 21:26

orwellwasright · 22/06/2022 21:20

Making a generalisation here but the difference in posting styles between those in favour and those not is quite noticeable.

Articulate posts wondering about studies into bonding vs fuck the h8ters, go live your best life, hun.

Yes there's more effing and jeffing from the 'just go' contingent. Grin

Topgub · 22/06/2022 21:26

An inaccurate generalisation...

Sparklingbrook · 22/06/2022 21:31

Topgub · 22/06/2022 21:26

An inaccurate generalisation...

I think it's fair enough.

Topgub · 22/06/2022 21:38

@Sparklingbrook

Course you do lol

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/06/2022 21:43

Somebodyelsestrain · 22/06/2022 20:23

A very chilled baby is perfect to take to Glastonbury. Portable, requires only milk, doesn't run away, doesn't have views about what they want to see, doesn't get wasted and do stupid things. I'm here with older children who might do those things and, lovely as it is, a chilled 12 week old would be a hell of a lot easier.

Take your baby, snuggle them into a sling/festival wagon, have a lovely time.

@Somebodyelsestrain

why would they want to take the baby when they have loving grandparents to leave him with ?

The OP and partner can really let their hair down and get into the festival vibe

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/06/2022 21:45

Ah OP you’re blowing so many peoples minds on here!!

Most mumsnetters are obsessed with “staying home for baby snuggles” until their child is about 2.

Babies or not lots of mumsnetters also hate socialising and can’t abide to be around alcohol and other people. They like to be home at around 9pm at the latest in their Pj’s

Pay them no heed OP! You keep doing you

Sparklingbrook · 22/06/2022 21:49

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/06/2022 21:45

Ah OP you’re blowing so many peoples minds on here!!

Most mumsnetters are obsessed with “staying home for baby snuggles” until their child is about 2.

Babies or not lots of mumsnetters also hate socialising and can’t abide to be around alcohol and other people. They like to be home at around 9pm at the latest in their Pj’s

Pay them no heed OP! You keep doing you

OP hasn't been back to the thread for over 24 hours, their last contribution to it was deleted by MNHQ.
But before all that they said they were going anyway whatever anyone said.

Grin
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