Special Father's Day sex

[curlymam]

I think I've just offended DH. He asked if he was going to be getting "Father's Day sex" after DS has gone to bed. I thought he was joking, when I realised he wasn't I must have pulled a face.

I understand people talk about birthday sex, valentine's day sex etc but father's day is a day for children to celebrate and appreciate their dads. It's given me the ick but he has no idea what I'm talking about, so I was just interested to see what others think?

To be clear, I'm not adverse to having sex on father's day, just the thought of doing it specially to celebrate it!

I have shopped in Ocado in the past

Yes DH is the same. Two arse squeezes and a so-he-thinks sneaky Boob brush?

And the divorce inches ever closer

Vom.

If you didn't gave sex with him, he wouldn't have become a father. I can totally see why his brain would link the two.

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Can you really now

Funny how women don't go around on mothers day asking for cunnilingus

...er.

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Ah come on. Cut me some slack! It's not that Mumsnetty, my post. Do you see the words Ocado or kitchen island anywhere in my post?

To be fair @TheVanguardSix "angelcare nappy bin" is skating perilously close to "toilet brush holder", & you know what a furore THAT created.
This could be the schism that finally breaks mumsnet.

We've got a toddler who still doesn't sleep through the night, if we didn't book an appointment we wouldn't do it 😆

I have shopped in Ocado in the past
😂😂😂

You're in denial @Tilltheend99
They all say they USED to be an addict, but are cured now.
You are an Ocado user in remission.

Sorry to be harsh, but tough shopping habits call for tough love.

I think it totally depends on the context.

Joking about sex on Father’s Day - bit odd to make that connection, but maybe it was a joke gone wrong and you can both laugh it off.

Expecting sex for real, because it’s any “special day” or for any other reason is gross and a total turn off, at least for me. But maybe that is because the men I have been with usually voiced their complaints about feeling sexually neglected in a similar “jokey” way, and in the case of EXH the jokes lead to actual complaints, which lead to him sexually assaulting me in my sleep and raping me, because, you know - he had needs that hadn’t been met, poor lamb, and he was done with asking/joking.
So for me a “jokingly” phrased request for sex or any sexual act makes my skin crawl, because in my experience it’s not a joke - it’s saying “I am requesting you perform this sex act because you owe me, but I will make it sound like a joke because I don’t want to come across like an asshole”.
But I understand that this might not be the same for other women 🤷🏻‍♀️

I can't see anything icky about this. It's really weird to think there could be. Are you implying it's incestuous or abusive or something? It's not as if he's expecting a performance in front of your kids, I assume it's reasonably routine for you to have sex in the same house as them, and after all they wouldn't exist at all but for sex with their father.

I suspect the underlying message here is that he wants sex - or more sex than he is getting now...!

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Shit. I bought steak for dinner today.

No wonder he's currently titivating himself in the bath.

We've got a toddler who still doesn't sleep through the night, if we didn't book an appointment we wouldn't do it

Oh this sounds so very familiar 😩🤣🤣

As a bloke and a dad ( for reference) that's giving me the "boak".. associating a lovely "dad / family" day with something sexual isn't right.

It's prob just cos he had a nice day so wants to enjoy it with u too. I just had sex lol

Snoooooort!!!

He may want more than he is having.
It makes me uncomfortable when people talk about getting though.
Too transactional & one-way.

Apologies @bembridge11 - this is NOT a dig at you personally, I appreciate that for many, it's just semantics.

I imagine some PP will recognise the discomfort with it though.
@Hanswurst - I am so sorry about your brute of an ex. And YES, I understand where you are coming from.
Jokes that might be hilarious to more robust people, in the context of a mutually respectful relationship, land differently on some survivors - not that I want to bring gloom to a rare thread when most PP are simply arsing about & enjoying light relief (pharff phnarff - see? I CAN do it) & not bitching for the sake of it just 'cos it's AIBU.

I think it’s pretty grim…

Mostly because Father’s Day and sex just don’t belong in the same sentence it my opinion

Father's Day sex is most definitely a thing. It's pretty common, too. It's a day to celebrate him, and (as any mom of young kids knows) that includes celebration/help from the mother. He probably gets you a gift for Mother's Day, so why wouldn't you give him a "gift" for Father's Day? (Mine actually got me the same "gift" for Mother''s Day, and it was probably the best gift I got that day.)

Do you not also not do birthday sex because you aren't the one who birthed him? How boring your marriages must be.

What's really gross is those of you who are associating this with children. That's sick. Father's Day is about celebrating the man and all he does for your family. Celebrate him the way he wants to be celebrated, and leave the kids out of it.

Arguable it was having sex that made him a father so a celebratory shag seems appropriate to me. Sex s sex doesn't matter when or why!

Oh dear. Normally I'd roll my eyes at these threads and give them the benefit of the doubt, but this did make me pull a face 😳

Did you at least shower before you came on here for show and tell?

I’d ask him if that wasn’t how triplets get conceived… Then let him know that you’d better not risk it. Blaaaah!