Special Father's Day sex

[curlymam]

I think I've just offended DH. He asked if he was going to be getting "Father's Day sex" after DS has gone to bed. I thought he was joking, when I realised he wasn't I must have pulled a face.

I understand people talk about birthday sex, valentine's day sex etc but father's day is a day for children to celebrate and appreciate their dads. It's given me the ick but he has no idea what I'm talking about, so I was just interested to see what others think?

To be clear, I'm not adverse to having sex on father's day, just the thought of doing it specially to celebrate it!

😬

Snort

My daughter was the perfect child until she hit 16 - and has been a complete nightmare for the past 6 years. She is completely self absorbed, never gives a thought to anyone else and would pick a fight with her shadow if she could. She stays out for nights on end and never lets us know that she’s not coming home even though that is all we ask of her, we’ve given up asking any probing questions because she rarely tells the truth and then that causes an argument. She completely trashes her room and anything else she touches. She did move out for a year which we were glad about but soon moved back when she realised it’s not as good as it first seemed. She has a good job that she manages well and gets paid very well but she never pays her credit cards or store cards and is forever being written to about it. She causes me so much anxiety - I keep thinking she will grow out of it but she’s 22 and seems worse than ever. Any advice would be appreciated.

is this some kind of sad "remind me how i became a father?" routine?

Oh who gives a stuff? We need more laughter in this world, perhaps try it yourself?

Cack-handed way if suggesting he wants another child?

Longtoes49 you need to start a thread of your own. You have posted in the middle of a thread about something completely different

Tell him it's like Christmas Eve boxes and you don't agree with them either as there's no point, you get plenty the next day anyway and it takes the shine off the main fun.

Exactly. I don't see the offense. I expect the full chabadabada on mother's day, after all how did I get there in the first place ?😉

Kwiregirl · Today 12:12

He sounds like a selfish and immature jerk to me. I'd tell him to grow up and I'd deliberately sleep in the spare room tonight to prove that sex needs mutual respect.

Yes, that seems like a calm and measured response to a husband asking his wife for sex in a jokey way.

😆

Mine paid for his own lunch out. He deserves a BJ!

@Longtoes49

Start a thread of your own else people can’t give you any decent advice as it gets lost :)

thenewduchessoflapland · Today 12:53

It's those blokes who try to use special occasions to get their partners to do sexual things they wouldn't normally do eg anal sex,oral sex etc I find vile.

If the man is begging for a blowjob as a special treat he's obviously in a fairly desperate situation sexually.

@Longtoes49

If you’re not on the app. At the bottom of the page theres a blue bar that says Active. Watching. Add post. Etc

Click on ‘Active’.
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It's definitely not uptight to recoil at the association of sex in the same sentence as Father. It is weird, and clueless of the DH not to know how he sounded

Well if we follow that logic, what about birthday sex? What about the association between ‘birthday’ and sex, I mean, it’s literally in the name, ‘birthday’… it’s the day his mother gave birth to him and why would he want to associate him having sex with the thought of his mother giving birth to him? Surely that’s equally grim, weird, clueless, icky, MN adjective of choice?

No.
Just no.
Any entitlement sex is a bit off, but birthday/Valentines etc get a bit of a pass as it is mutual.
Father's Day sex? Sounds like an awful porn idea...
Ick ick ick...

...er...

Asking for sex gives me the ick anyway, regardless of when it is. Its so weird to book it in like an appointment.

Yuck 🤮

Ick!

Came to say this.

Why is everyone so squeamish about sex on this forum?

SlashBeef · Today 15:49

Asking for sex gives me the ick anyway, regardless of when it is. Its so weird to book it in like an appointment.

What's your alternative, just grab and grope?

Ah come on. Cut me some slack! It's not that Mumsnetty, my post. Do you see the words Ocado or kitchen island anywhere in my post?

Eugh. That would give me the ick as well.
”Fathers Day sex” is cringey enough, and then the entitlement of asking for it expectantly. It’s like the guy who goes “and where’s my hug?” - nobody wants to hug that guy.