Neighbour telling me to slow down

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I live in an estate and today I was driving in to my driver and getting out of my car. My neighbour from about 6 houses up shouts at me ''can you drive slower?''

I had no idea I was driving fast as I go at the same speed everybody else does driving in. But I'd have no bother if somebody asked me politely and privately but she yelled it over 6 walls with other neighbours out about their business sitting watching.

AIBU to think she was rude and if you have a problem approach the neighbour face to face and not shout over a wall for all to see?

If the neighbour said something you probably were driving a bit fast.

just slow down in the future especially as it’s a warm day and likely kids are playing out

What speed do you usually do?

My question though was how she confronted me wrong and abrasive.

Are you one of those fierce swing into your drive types? It looks alarming but is mostly benign manoeuvring. BMW types do this a lot

I guess it would depend how fast you were driving. If it was particularly fast maybe she was irritated and reacted without thinking. Or maybe she was nervous you wouldn't take it well if she said it quietly.

I don;t know exactly my speed but it's a 800l fiat scent so it's not a BMW.

Depends if they thought you were driving dangerously/about to hit them/someone else.

oh wait, they were sitting out front, so her husband is Onslow, she is Daisy, I claim my fiver.

I’d shout too if someone came racing in. Maybe think about your speed! How can you not know what speed you were going at?

just slow down in the future especially as it’s a warm day and likely kids are playing out

Not where I am and no kids are around here, it's a cul de sac with all adults;very quiet.

Do you think she was maybe being sarcastic, and meant you were driving overly slowly? Even so, weird thing to shout out!

If you don't have a rough idea of what speed you drive it at, and someone felt strongly enough to shout at you over it, then odds are you're driving faster than you think.

Even in areas without small children, people often have pets about or child visitors. You shouldn't be going over about 20mph in an estate.

I agree with @Coldnoseandtoes

No she wasn't unreasonable, you clearly drive too fast, and she caught you in the act and as she was in the right place at the right time, she shouted over.

You drive the same as everyone else? you soundlike a careful vigilant driver 🙄

Well, it could have been handled better and she could have just come over and asked you to drive slower in a normal voice, but I wouldn't make a big deal of it. Just drive slower.

Everyone else has eyes so I'd imagined they've also noticed you driving too fast.

Someone driving too fast into my colleague’s cul de sac killed her cat.
She was distraught. I had to help her deal with the dead animal. It was horrific.
Just bear that in mind.
The method your neighbour used to communicate was not courteous but maybe she enjoyed getting her point across in front of others, to ram it home?

Why on Earth do you not know the speed you were driving?! It is the most basic of awareness you should have when in charge of a car! No wonder she shouted it in front of everyone; she was probably hoping you felt embarrassed enough to not do it again.

If youre driving the same speed you always do, I imagine she was at the end of her thether with you and it finally got enough and she snapped and shouted.

Also the fact you don't know what speed you were going speaks volumes.

You're clearly going to fast, and its pissing people off. Slow down.

I think it's rude of her, she could have had a quiet word if you were not endangering anyone. No need for her to shout and make neighbourly relations awkward.

No wonder there's so many neighbour issue threads on here if everybody's shouting at each other over any misdemeanour

Just slow down. She was probably "abrasive" because she's pissed off!

Not knowing how fast you drive does suggest you’re a careless and irresponsible driver. You’re neighbour probably has a point.