Neighbour telling me to slow down

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I live in an estate and today I was driving in to my driver and getting out of my car. My neighbour from about 6 houses up shouts at me ''can you drive slower?''

I had no idea I was driving fast as I go at the same speed everybody else does driving in. But I'd have no bother if somebody asked me politely and privately but she yelled it over 6 walls with other neighbours out about their business sitting watching.

AIBU to think she was rude and if you have a problem approach the neighbour face to face and not shout over a wall for all to see?

You should always know how fast you're driving!

She should have been polite though.

Some people are rude.
Some people drive too fast.

Tbf, I think I'd be less arsey and more mortified at my behaviour if I were the OP.

Maybe someone hit her cat or her friend/relative's dog recently and she's worried? You just never know.

She wouldn't do it to a bloke. Ignore . So long as you aren't speeding

OP has no idea how fast she was going whichis in itself worrying

Shouting is antisocial, driving to fast is antisocial. So you’re both in the wrong. Slow down

I don’t check my speed whilst driving into my road as I know I’m slow. What kind of person is she? Do you think you were driving fast or is she just a numpty who is insecure and was trying to seem powerful and authoritative in front of your other neighbours?

If you want to positivity effect change shouting loudly at someone in front of others is rarely an effect strategy so it does sound like either way her people skills are poor.

So you cant say how fast you were going?
And you seem to think its ok because there are no children that live near by?

The fact you don't know what speed you're doing makes me think you're not a good judge of your own fast/slow - or anyone else's.

So for that alone, #TeamNeighbour.. Maybe her method of relaying her request will make you more attentive to your driving in future.

Shouting is unlikely to kill people so on balance I'd side with the neighbour.over the driver who cant even give a rough idea of the speed she was doing

I bet her shouting wasn't any more aggressive than your driving.

I'm concerned you don't know how fast you were going.

That argument doesn't really work when the OP (who has s speedo in the car) doesn't know what the speed was. That's appalling and is definitely driving without due care and attention.

The neighbour could have been a rude idiot but the OP blew it by having no idea of speed.

Yeah, she could have come round, ,made a cringetastic 'polite' speech about she's noticed you drive quite fast in the cul de sac and she just wondered...but then if you are a MNer you might not answer the door, and in the moment she was probably just irritated and annoyed that you are zipping down a quiet cul de sac again, and shouted out.

Shrug, and slow down.

Fiats are just as capable as going too fast in small roads as BMWs.

All the homes on our very tight residential streets have cats. Driving fast is fatal for them.

Plus, there's frankly zero reason to drive quickly through residential streets.

You were going the same speed as everyone else going in but you don't know how fast you were going?

Sounds like you were going too fast and you're embarrassed someone called you out.....

I live in a cul de sac. The speed limit is 10mph.

I think she did well to tell you straight away even if it was over 6 walls. She doesn't owe you a gilt edged response in exactly the way you want it.

But all of this annoyance at her is a bit of a distraction from the fact you obviously drive too fast.

Driving badly already then. You should know what speed you are doing because you should be paying attention. You've been embarrassed now hopefully you will learn from it.

I shout at people who drive like that down our cul de sac. Aside from the fact that they are just going too fast, I'm concerned that they could hit one of the many cats that live down here.

When you don't know your speed it's easy to drive way faster than you realise. It's dangerous to not know how fast you are going. I'd say you were probably driving too fast, and from your replies you sound very defensive.

I was shouted at to slow down today too - I was doing 38 on a 40 road

I have shouted at men for driving too fast, being male or female makes no difference to dangerous driving.

I think it would be sensible to check your speedometer next time you're driving into your road, OP. I would suggest that you try to keep your speed below 20mph on straight roads within the housing estate and below 15mph when in a a cul de sac.

I'm fortunate in that my home is on an unmade road, which gets very rutted and bumpy. The maximum speed that any ordinary vehicle can do without getting damaged is about 4mph, so we never have to worry about speeding traffic!

To be fair, the OP admitted they had no idea what speed they were driving at and that is a good indicator OP was driving too fast.

It is shocking for any driver not to be aware of their own speed. After all, they have a speedometer.

Someone screamed slow down to me once, I was driving about 18 down a 30 because I live in the road, know there are kids around, and was coming up towards my house.

I burst out laughing thinking she was taking piss ... and she went MAD!

I was flabbergasted!

To be honest, my car is a hybrid and silent when going that slow - she jumped out of her skin when she turned round after getting something out her own car. So I think she was more shocked I was there than actually worried about (lack of) speed.