Neighbour telling me to slow down

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I live in an estate and today I was driving in to my driver and getting out of my car. My neighbour from about 6 houses up shouts at me ''can you drive slower?''

I had no idea I was driving fast as I go at the same speed everybody else does driving in. But I'd have no bother if somebody asked me politely and privately but she yelled it over 6 walls with other neighbours out about their business sitting watching.

AIBU to think she was rude and if you have a problem approach the neighbour face to face and not shout over a wall for all to see?

But in turn the neighbour might just be a twat

yesterday I was out doing recycling and she was eyeballing me and muttering passive aggressive stuff loud enough so I'd hear ''I'm not 1 bit afraid of you...''

I think YOU missed the point that many of us think your neighbour might have been justified if you're frequently speeding in a residential cul-de-sac.

Why should your neighbour treat you with respect if you're not respectful enough to consider that you may be at fault also? If you're acting like a twat then people tend to treat you like one. You couldn't even give an estimate of your speed or say that you weren't speeding, it seems likely that you were.

I never gave an exact speed because I can't recall but I was going slow enough but was roasted for it.

Why should your neighbour treat you with respect if you're not respectful enough to consider that you may be at fault also? If you're acting like a twat then people tend to treat you like one

I don't know how your parents raised you but mines did with the values of being diplomatic and assertive if you have a problem with somerbody or something and not going into a shouting match or being aggressive which she was.

MN is a funny place-posters get roasted for raising their voice to a child as ''it achieves nothing and sets the wrong example in communication'' yet it's fine for adults to do it a other adults.

The fact you don’t know what speed you were driving makes me think you are not quite a good a driver as you seem to think you are. I’m with your neighbour

I’m with your neighbour

ok so you think that if somebody or something irks you then the best way is to challenge it by being screaming and hostile like a child? Hope you never have kids.

What is wrong with you?? If you think that's acceptable to say to someone then that really shows the sort of person you are and why your neighbour spoke to you the way they did.

What is wrong with you?? If you think that's acceptable to say to someone then that really shows the sort of person you are and why your neighbour spoke to you the way they did

and if you think it's acceptable to scream and shout at people then what is wrong with you?

OP: AIBU?
everyone: yes
OP: IANBU

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Why post if you’ve decided?

I’d look at is as if you see someone doing something you believe is an imminent danger to the health and safety of people around them (e.g., speeding in a residential area) then a person is in the right, if not even obligated, to alert them to the hazard they are causing. Even if it embarrasses the person in the wrong. Better you humiliated than little Susie from next door hit by your car.

Screaming got your attention. In the moment, it was arguably the right action to take if the neighbour thought you were a big enough hazard.

The trouble with living in a cul de sac as there's almost an assumption that there are no children or pets around.
Maybe someone has child relatives visiting?

Just slow down.

If someone has plucked up the courage to say something then maybe you're driving a bit too sharpish .

Familiarity breeds contempt.

YABU. I've bollocked a couple of dickheads for speeding round our village before now and dont give a shit if they thought I was rude.

You obviously don't think you're unreasonable so why bloody ask?