When did you know your parents do not love you

[NEVERwilnever]

Accepting my parents have never loved me has taken me up until now in my early 40s. It's always been about them. My entire family is self-absorbed, competitive and generally toxic to an extent I fear they may harm my children.

I am no contact because I tried all I could, but nothing can ever change what is.

How long did it take you to accept it? Is there anything that triggered?

I honestly don’t know if my dm loves me or not.
I always suspected she didn’t like me.
As a teen she gave gifts bought for me to other people if she decided I had too many gifts, when I was car sick she would fuss over my dsis and ignore my discomfort, dsis was not car sick. When dh and I bought a very nice home she told me that I didn’t deserve it and my db was cleverer and should have the nice house.
When I was in my 50’s. my db and I didn’t receive family wedding invites. Dm rang me complaining that db hadn’t got an invite.
Her exact words were
I can understand you not getting an invite because nobody likes you but not db name. He should have an invite.

@Floella22
You mother is a pathetic coward who probably wets herself in front of strangers and needs to pick on her own daughter to make herself feel better. Cut this piece of rubbish out of your life.
That's what I've done.
The rubbish that calls herself mum is viscerally angry that I don't visit, call her. She needs to find another target which won't be so easy.