Fuming at this guy in the supermarket

[Speckledhen2022]

I was in the supermarket this evening and I went to pick up a bottle of fabric conditioner. It was from a good brand and very cheap on offer. A big bottle for a cheap price. It was also the last one of that particular fragrance on the shelf. As I reached out to take it from the shelf, I had almost got it when a guy came by the side of me and grabbed it. He then went over to a girl who I presume was his girlfriend and gave it to her. Presumably, she has asked him to get it for her. I was absolutely fuming. I picked my jaw up off the floor said 'You fucking cunt' and walked off.

AIBU for saying that?

That's Fairynough

What a total overreaction!

How you are relating this back to childhood bullying, it's such a stretch!

Maybe do online shopping, if the risk of this type of thing means you're going to be so angry?

Standing up to rude and obnoxious men is great.

Calling them a cunt in a supermarket is just pathetic. And I'm the least ladylike bastard you're likely to find...

I have always shopped in the supermarket and I will continue to do so. I have never had an argument or called names before fabric softener guy

Men have been rude to me on many occasions (at school, in work, and in life in general) to impress their girlfriend. Now I am not taking it anymore.

Fair enough, but you might find that next time you all someone a fucking cunt in the supermarket (or anywhere for that matter), they make call you out on it?

I'm not sure how that is going to help your feelings that men are rude to you, to impress their girlfriend.

But now it's the "new you", that isn't putting up with men being rude anymore, then you'll presumably being calling them cunts more frequently?

Maybe OP will take some comfort from the fact that she got the opportunity to call him a cunt.

😂

I have never had an argument or called names before fabric softener guy

So you’ve gone from 0 to 60 in one incident. Just to clarify, it wasn’t him who was the rude one. I don’t take any shit from anyone but I’ve never called a random stranger a fucking cunt. Ever.

If they call me out on it, I will very gladly tell them why I called them a fucking cunt.

If the genders were reversed here, and a woman quickly took the softener when s man was reaching for it and he called her a fucking cunt there would be an absolute outcry,

as women we can’t expect better if we don’t behave better.

in future, keep it classy op. What he did was annoying, what you did, irrelevant of gender was unacceptable

If they are rude to me totally unprovoked, then I will certainly tell them they were very rude. Perhaps next time I will not use the words 'fucking cunt' but I will certainly give them what for. Men have always been generally vile to me, so I don't see what they problem is by scolding them for it.

Instead of calling him a fucking cunt, you could have followed him around the supermarket and whipped it out of his trolley when he wasnt looking and then hot footed it to the till. 😂😂😂😂😂
Since it doesnt belong to him or his girlfriend until they have paid for it.

I called you a fucking cunt, because you took the last bottle of fabric conditioner........ perfect explanation...... try anger management, because I have a feeling that you might get into a few very stressful (and highly entertaining, for other shoppers) public arguments.

I am sure that any counsellor that you approach for dealing with previous bullying etc, would not be recommending, "just call anyone that you deem is trying to impress their girlfriends, a fucking cunt".

In my opinion, men and women are equal. If I had snatched fabric softener that a guy was obviously going for, I would understand if he reacted rudely to me.

"I called you a fucking cunt because you snatched the last bottle of fabric softener I was very clearly reaching for to give it to your darling girlfriend" would be more accurate.

Also, anyone who is being nasty to me or mocking me to impress their girlfriend would be more accurate.

So do you really think it is ok that men have always laughed at me or been horrible to me to impress their girlfriend is alright and that I should just put up with and take some anger management classes?

If I snatched fabric softener and a man called me a fucking cunt I’d be revolted by him. You were not just rude, you went unacceptably way beyond that.

however if in your world calling people a fucking cunt in public becayse rhey have the temerity to take a bottle of softener you want then so be it. I simply hope I never have the misfortune to witness you in action.

You have a real issue with men deeming to be trying to impress their darling girlfriends? What is all that about? I'm not sure I would ever have associated the action of the man "snatching" the conditioner as an attempt to impress his girlfriend? Such an odd thing to think!

I am stressed because I have been bullied and picked on by men my entire life. School and workplace bullying and mocking. Totally unprovoked.

And no, I am not saying fabric softener guy was bullying me, but he was very rude. I have decided to take no more of that shit

OP, there are better ways to work through psychological trauma than calling someone a cunt about a bottle of fabric softener. You were a million times more rude than he was. I suggest you try to work out why you're so angry and take things from there.

Yes I do. It is possible (as another poster also said) that he wanted to impress her or please her by getting it for (and snatching it before I could get it).

Men have laughed at me/mocked me/been nasty to me to impress so girl they are dating/want to date all my life

I am stressed because I have been bullied and picked on by men my entire life. School and workplace bullying and mocking. Totally unprovoked.

And no, I am not saying fabric softener guy was bullying me, but he was very rude. I have decided to take no more of that shit

Yes, you clearly are stressed, but calling a random man a fucking cunt and deciding that he was doing it to impress his "darling girlfriend" is just so over the top!

Honestly, you are not going to help yourself.

So how I help myself then? I can't exactly stop men being vile to me/mocking me/laughing at me for no reason, can I?

I am angry because men have been vile to me all my life

Ok, you may have had that, but I still say calling a man a fucking cunt and assuming he was trying to mock you to impress his girlfriend, is just such a reach.

Maybe he was rude, but come on, it's nothing to do with his girlfriend, if she hadn't been with him, would you have been ok then? Because, its all nasty about the "darling girlfriend"? Would you not have called him a cunt then? Or would you have decided that he was stil la fucking cunt, because he was probably going to take it home to his darling girlfriend and present it as "I snatched this from the hands of another woman for you my darling"?