Page 13 | Fuming at this guy in the supermarket

Speckledhen2022 · 2022-06-13T17:42:06+00:00

I was in the supermarket this evening and I went to pick up a bottle of fabric conditioner. It was from a good brand and very cheap on offer. A big bottle for a cheap price. It was also the last one of that particular fragrance on the shelf. As I reached out to take it from the shelf, I had almost got it when a guy came by the side of me and grabbed it. He then went over to a girl who I presume was his girlfriend and gave it to her. Presumably, she has asked him to get it for her. I was absolutely fuming. I picked my jaw up off the floor said 'You fucking cunt' and walked off. AIBU for saying that?

Frazzledmummy123 · 13/06/2022 23:56

He shouldn't have done it and was a CF, however to call him a cunt and post on mumsnet a thread about it is ott. I wish the worst of my problems just now was a cheeky git taking a washing liquid from me.

BeaLola · 14/06/2022 00:01

I don't agree with the language used and unless it was the last ever fabric conditioner in the world YABU - I can't get excited about fabric conditioner , if it had been a bar oif Galaxy he would not have wrestled my hand from it - but I wouldn't still have called him a cxxx

Hariboqueen1 · 14/06/2022 00:22

Nope I would have done the same. If I was sure he had done it on purpose. I wouldnt have said the c word thought maybe wanker

Lockheart · 14/06/2022 00:29

Being pissed off (rightly or wrongly) is not carte blanche to verbally abuse another person. Yes, it's frustrating, yes, he shouldn't have taken it if he could see you were about to pick it up (and IMO his behaviour was rude), but two wrongs don't make a right.

MadAntonia · 14/06/2022 00:30

He was rude. Credit yourself with speaking up. People like that depend on others being shocked into silence. Maybe next time he’ll think twice.

PinkStarAtNight · 14/06/2022 00:40

YABU for calling anyone, especially a complete stranger, a 'cunt', especially over something like that.

I consider myself to come from quite a lower class background but even in my circles 'cunt' is a very offensive word that is looked down upon. I know that to some people/in some areas its not seen as so bad, but the only person I know who says that word is a close friend from Sunderland and she ONLY says it to her very close friends, in a jokey way - would never say it as an insult to a stranger in a supermarket.

It's a bit cheeky of him to grab the last item of something that you were clearly reaching for (a bit like when there's only one empty bench in a park and you can see someone else heading for it so you send your child to run ahead and nab it) but it doesn't warrant your aggressive response. Are you by any chance the same OP from the thread about the bar staff trying to force the bottle of wine?

SpidersAreShitheads · 14/06/2022 01:22

When I am reaching for something off a shelf, it's literally a second - maybe less. I'm confused about how someone came alongside while you were reaching for the item, stretched out their arm - while you were STILL reaching for the item - swooped in and grabbed the said item - all while you were STILL in the process of reaching for the item.

Are you a sloth OP? I'm thinking this must be the only explanation.

Gusfringrules · 14/06/2022 02:18

SpidersAreShitheads · 14/06/2022 01:22

When I am reaching for something off a shelf, it's literally a second - maybe less. I'm confused about how someone came alongside while you were reaching for the item, stretched out their arm - while you were STILL reaching for the item - swooped in and grabbed the said item - all while you were STILL in the process of reaching for the item.

Are you a sloth OP? I'm thinking this must be the only explanation.

We need a crimewatch type renactment to see exzactly how this drama played out

onlythreenow · 14/06/2022 02:52

Sometimes you need to call a spade a spade...

I have always found that to be a weak excuse for rudeness.

kateandme · 14/06/2022 03:15

I'm more angry at the posters saying to try a different scent! What s wrong with you people.

SpidersAreShitheads · 14/06/2022 04:01

Gusfringrules · 14/06/2022 02:18

We need a crimewatch type renactment to see exzactly how this drama played out

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Yes! I've got a slow-motion replay going on in my head and I can't be certain how accurate it is.

Definitely a crime watch style re-enactment. I'm not sure how many sloth actors there are though, so that might be a problem if the OP is indeed - as I suspect - an actual sloth.

SunflowerGardens · 14/06/2022 04:39

Marineboy67 · 13/06/2022 20:48

Nope not unreasonable at all, total cunt. A woman had the last Tescos finest lasagne just as I was thinking about having it on Saturday! I didn't call her a cunt but she did kind of barge in to the gap. My girlfriend laughed as she said 'To slow, I could see you had your eye on it! " I think I said 'fucking fat ass" but out of ear shot😆

A woman didn't telepathically know you wanted something, so she picked it up and you called her fat? And you're proud enough of this to post it on here?

HandScreen · 14/06/2022 05:38

pixie5121 · 13/06/2022 23:13

Why do you think you had any more right to it than he did? If he grabbed it before you did, he must have spotted it before you did. From his perspective, he was walking to get the fabric conditioner his girlfriend wanted and some woman rocked up and reached for it as he was taking it off the shelf. Why do you feel the right to have it?

I had a woman yell obscenities at me the other day for getting to an ATM before she did. We were both heading for it from opposite directions and I got there first because I was walking faster. What the fuck what I meant to do, stand back and wait for the Queen of Sheba? If she had 'got there first' then she would have put her card in first, wouldn't she?

Some women (and it is nearly always women) have a very weird, entitled attitude to stuff like this. If someone manages to get there first, then they got it fair and square. Seeing something doesn't give you first dibs on it. Sometimes someone else has had the same thought and they get there first. It's called life.

100% this

Surgarblossom · 14/06/2022 06:09

Oh dear, I've heard it all now!

girlmom21 · 14/06/2022 06:27

The bottle wasn't particularly difficult to get. It was on its own in the middle of the shelf. He saw me going for it and was quick.

Was he Usain Bolt?

Lunar27 · 14/06/2022 07:43

Sorry, what does CF stand for?

Comfort Fucker?

butterpuffed · 14/06/2022 08:15

OP , you've said more than once your hand was 2cm away from the bottle. That's virtually touching it, so surely if he was 'rushing' at it, he must have knocked your hand but you haven't said this.

Was it the case that you weren't really very near the bottle of conditioner ?

frydae · 14/06/2022 08:19

MadAntonia · 14/06/2022 00:30

He was rude. Credit yourself with speaking up. People like that depend on others being shocked into silence. Maybe next time he’ll think twice.

OP didn't 'speak up' - OP just name called the man. Speaking up would be addressing the problem, with different words.

onlythreenow · 14/06/2022 08:29

He was rude. Credit yourself with speaking up. People like that depend on others being shocked into silence. Maybe next time he’ll think twice.

If OP had spoken to me like that I would have been inclined to follow her around the supermarket and grab everything she reached for, just to teach her not to be so entitled and so bloody rude!

wilddreams · 14/06/2022 09:07

I think you were wrong to use that word, yes. But I don't think you were wrong to react to his rudeness and selfishness.
I would probably have looked him up and down in disgust, wafted my hand under my nose and said 'phewww you probably need that more than I do', then selected another fragrance and carried on with my day.
That way you let him know he was rude but it's doubtful anyone was seriously offended. I tend to find making lightheaded fun of people like that wins over obscenity.

MissStarry · 14/06/2022 09:09

Gosh OP haven’t you earned your supermarket stripes by training in the yellow ticket zone?

I bet that’s where “QuikSnatch” learned the art of the darting undercut grab to secure the softener win.

If you snooze, you lose and its everyone for themselves until it’s in your greasy mitt.

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Speckledhen2022 · 14/06/2022 09:14

MissStarry · 14/06/2022 09:09

Gosh OP haven’t you earned your supermarket stripes by training in the yellow ticket zone?

I bet that’s where “QuikSnatch” learned the art of the darting undercut grab to secure the softener win.

If you snooze, you lose and its everyone for themselves until it’s in your greasy mitt.

My greasy mitt? How dare you. So you are seriously saying you would not be annoyed if someone snatched something you were clearly going for?

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Speckledhen2022 · 14/06/2022 09:16

butterpuffed · 14/06/2022 08:15

OP , you've said more than once your hand was 2cm away from the bottle. That's virtually touching it, so surely if he was 'rushing' at it, he must have knocked your hand but you haven't said this.

Was it the case that you weren't really very near the bottle of conditioner ?

I was virtually touching it and he snatched it quickly so I couldn't. No he didn't knock my hand

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Speckledhen2022 · 14/06/2022 09:18

wilddreams · 14/06/2022 09:07

I think you were wrong to use that word, yes. But I don't think you were wrong to react to his rudeness and selfishness.
I would probably have looked him up and down in disgust, wafted my hand under my nose and said 'phewww you probably need that more than I do', then selected another fragrance and carried on with my day.
That way you let him know he was rude but it's doubtful anyone was seriously offended. I tend to find making lightheaded fun of people like that wins over obscenity.

That does sound like a good response! haha

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