Fuming at this guy in the supermarket

[Speckledhen2022]

I was in the supermarket this evening and I went to pick up a bottle of fabric conditioner. It was from a good brand and very cheap on offer. A big bottle for a cheap price. It was also the last one of that particular fragrance on the shelf. As I reached out to take it from the shelf, I had almost got it when a guy came by the side of me and grabbed it. He then went over to a girl who I presume was his girlfriend and gave it to her. Presumably, she has asked him to get it for her. I was absolutely fuming. I picked my jaw up off the floor said 'You fucking cunt' and walked off.

AIBU for saying that?

Lenorful behaviour. If it's any Comfort I think he was a cunt too

I probably wouldn't have called it him though, only because I've heard of a few RL incidents recently where minor spats have escalated really quickly, and I kind of like my nose where it is, in the middle of my face. But yes, it was a dick move from him.

I don’t think you were unreasonable. He sounds like a fucking cunt.

Uh huh.

I might have been tempted to follow them round the supermarket at a discreet distance, wait until their backs were turned, and liberate the thing from their trolley.

Then he was taking the biscuit, and that should of been yours, he was rude.

I probably would have been annoyed too but that was a little over the top.

And what about all the people who don’t want to hear you being rude and aggressive in a public place? You could have made your point without shouting obscenities.

Being stressed out is no excuse. It’s really upsetting for everyone else to see people being aggressive to each other in public places over very minor things.

Totally OTT - and exactly the sort of thing I would do/have done.

His gf might have put him up to it.

The most recent time someone did something so overtly cunty to me (jumped past me at the front of a long queue because, for about 4 seconds, I hadn’t realised a second counter had opened further up) I just shouted “RUDE!”, which sounds just as unhinged imo.

🤣 complete windup!

I would have tracked them to the next aisle and snatched it out of their trolley as I glided by.
I probably would have called him a cunt, too.

YANBU - rude cunt (him not you)

Def not ott. He was/is a cunt

This guy and his girlfriend are going to be laughing at you all week, whilst folding their scented soft laundry.

Is it really worth using verbal abuse in petty situations like this? This guy could have been a short tempered small man syndromed roid head and could have turned physical very quick. Same for the girlfriend. I’ve known more women to be violent in random public altercations.

How can a person be fiminv over loss of a bottle of fabric conditioner. Yes, if he did it on purpose then he was a rude idiot, but to react the way you did is totally uncalled for.
I often laugh at how easily some mumsnet members get angry, nut yours is the best so far!

Fuming

Massive overreaction. I probably would have sworn under my breath and then moved on. I certainly wouldn't have said what you did, so yes, YABU. You must have been doing a very slow reach for him to have been able to grab it from in front of you - it's a jungle out there!

YABVU

Treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself. It's the Golden Rule. You wouldn't like to be called a "fucking cunt" so don't do it to someone else. This thread is about assuaging your conscience because your conscience is telling you that you did wrong.

What the man did isn't your problem. How you behave towards others is what you have to consider.

Why do you think you had any more right to it than he did? If he grabbed it before you did, he must have spotted it before you did. From his perspective, he was walking to get the fabric conditioner his girlfriend wanted and some woman rocked up and reached for it as he was taking it off the shelf. Why do you feel the right to have it?

I had a woman yell obscenities at me the other day for getting to an ATM before she did. We were both heading for it from opposite directions and I got there first because I was walking faster. What the fuck what I meant to do, stand back and wait for the Queen of Sheba? If she had 'got there first' then she would have put her card in first, wouldn't she?

Some women (and it is nearly always women) have a very weird, entitled attitude to stuff like this. If someone manages to get there first, then they got it fair and square. Seeing something doesn't give you first dibs on it. Sometimes someone else has had the same thought and they get there first. It's called life.

I once had a tussle with the lead singer of Bad Manners over a reduced packet of Cumberland Sausages in my local Tesco

Shit happens

No one died

He smirked, so I doubt it bothered him too much. Probably going to remember you fondly every time he pulls the bed covers up and gets caught in the Lenor updraft. To the victor the spoils.

YANBU. If he hadn't intended to sneak in, he would have handed the bottle to you when he realised you were there first. I probably would have muttered under my breath but actually think it's better for him hear that he behaved rudely.

YANBU. Well done!

Sometimes you need to call a spade a spade...

There are so many CF's around OP. I would have probably said something of a similar vain. I might have laughed and applauded them for being such CFaces but I would have said something.