To want to enjoy my garden!

[FunLovinGal]

DP and I have spent a large amount of money and effort building a tikki bar, built in BBQ and hot tub in our garden (it’s a proper one - not inflatable).

As the weather was so nice yesterday and DP’s kids were at their mums we decided to have a garden party/BBQ and invited a few of our friends round early evening.

It was so great to try out the new BBQ, hot tub, and the bar is fab - really fun and quirky decor, inspired by our holidays. Made everyone cocktails!

Only thing is, we’ve put in a new sound system, so wanted to test it. But before you criticise me, it’s not like we expect to be able to play loud music all of the time - only thinking in the afternoons and perhaps a couple of hours on Friday or Saturday nights when kids aren’t staying with us.

Anyway, at 10.30 (so not exactly middle of the night!) our neighbour came and screamed at us over the fence to turn off the music and to stop talking. We weren’t even playing it that loud at that point as had turned it down - so we could all hear each other talk over it without shouting.

She said if we don’t shut up she will call the police! FFS! We’ve only just put it in so of course we wanted to enjoy it.

I’m so angry! We’ve spent thousands and fully intend to enjoy our new outdoor space. We would not play music to the early hours but it really wasn’t that late.

AIBU to just keep using it and make sure music is off before 11? The thought of not being able to enjoy our lovely garden is heartbreaking!

OP playing music loud enough that your neighbours can hear it is really selfish no matter the time of day. If it’s loud enough that you have to shout to each other then no wonder she’s angry.

Maybe they want to sit and enjoy their garden too and don’t want to hear your music? What makes you think it’s ok for your neighbour to put up with your loud music, shouting, and bbq smoke on a regular basis?

It would annoy me if I wanted to sit out in my garden and had to put up with all that.

If your DH is that much into his music, he should get a job as a DJ.

I imagine your neighbours spent a lot of money on their homes and would like to enjoy them, too.

YABU

Music in the garden any more than twice per year is unacceptable. If you have 6 neighbours all doing it that’s potentially 12 weekends in the Summer with music playing in gardens.. No!
Music is for indoors, or Bluetooth headphones.

I expected some negativity about the music but WTF is wrong with a hot tub?! Every one has one these days.

All the proof I needed that this thread is a wind-up. 😂

I'd hate to be the OP's neighbour. I, too, want to enjoy my garden. I want to sit and chat, without being blasted by music from next door. I want to read whilst listening to the birds. I want to deadhead and weed with natural sounds around me. I don't want to be forced to retreat indoors because somebody turns their garden into a nightclub. Once in a while for an event is fine, but this appears to be a daily plan. You would drive me mad. Selfish.

You sound a bit of a fanny tbh. Making sure you tell us you have a sound system, not just playing music and a real hot tub and not an inflatable 😂

I’m a peasant obviously as I’ve got an inflatable hot tub 😱 and I’ve also got a great sound system. It’s an open window with Alexa on the window ledge !

I have a detached house so less likely to disturb neighbours but even so I’m respectful and would not have music on in the garden at 10.30 at night. Unless of course I invited my neighbours.

Well done on your stealth post. Must try a bit harder next time.

Erm...children are in bed by then. Ignorant fuckers (you not the children).

Well they are very common but not in the way the op means it 😏

lol

You've basically turned your back yard into a pub garden. Did you really not think anyone would mind??

i think you would have likely been ok without the sound system. I dont think you really need a bloody sound system in a residential area.
I mean, if it was me, I wouldnt have complained, as my neighbours do have parties that get a bit loud with guitars and singing, and also lived next door to pubs. Im not bothered that much by stuff like that, but lots of people are, and tbh, its not as if my neighbours never ever bother me, because they do, but I think neighbourly relations need give and take

You sound so entitled – 'we've spent thousands doing this so why can't we enjoy ourselves'. I imagine your neighbours saw the work being done and their hearts sank, knowing their peace will be disturbed on a regular basis now. Eight people drinking and braying in an icky sex pond with music blaring out will be far louder than you think it was, OP.

Thank goodness you aren't my neighbours.

The thing about playing music outside, especially in the evening, is that the sound carries far more than you realise. I think it's antisocial to play music outside in close proximity to other houses. As a one off for a party then I could live with that, but always good to forewarn surrounding neighbours.

Also, I'm willing to bet your chatting was pretty loud and got louder the more you and your guests had to drink.

One neighbour complained when at the end of her tether. There will be more you pissed off who just haven't said or done anything.

You and your tacky tiki bar and hottub would be nightmare neighbours for me. Maybe if I knew you and you invited me round from time to time I'd feel differently.

It’ll all be ok op

you just need to reassure your neighbours you won’t be having a party every weekend

compromise works both ways.

Your neighbours have to give and take some times too! If you’re a good quiet neighbour 90% of the time then they can bloody suck up you having the occasional party! As I say compromise works both ways.

But mumsnetters tend to hate any kind of socialising especially Parties! They like cosy, quiet evenings “tucked up with my little family “

I hate music in the garden. I want to hear the birds chattering away. They don’t want to have to shout over your music either.

Report if that's what you think. Troll hunting isn't permitted.

Hrtft but you don't play loud music when his dc are there but you'll happily disturb the neighbours kids? Yabu

Bet they’ve got a barking dog too…. Go on OP do you have dogs in garden barking all day too? “But he won’t urt a fly, e’s a nanny dog” Annoying neighbour bingo. I’d be listing my house on rightmove immediately.

It’s not like it’s every weekend, a party every now and again is fine.

I’d tell my neighbours but they don’t often tell me.

Some of these posts are putting their needs before others. You like a quite garden they don’t. Parties every now and again hardly ruins the garden for you.

I take it people on MN aren’t planning any DIY, Extension or garden work. They’re all living in perfectly quiet houses and in bed for 9 on weekends.

Our previous neighbours were dreadful for holding noisy gatherings which went on until the small hours. And they were really noisy and loud in general, not just when having parties. Thank god they moved. We barely hear a peep out of the current neighbours.

No way this can be real but I'll bite anyway. You want to enjoy your garden, but so do your neighbours, and your noise pollution is preventing them from doing so. You sound selfish, self absorbed and puerile.

I've never seen so many sharks jumped in one go, and that's just in the OP. The name alone was too much.

Am I the only one who had to Google tikki bar?

Do people really have them in their gardens?