To want to enjoy my garden!

[FunLovinGal]

DP and I have spent a large amount of money and effort building a tikki bar, built in BBQ and hot tub in our garden (it’s a proper one - not inflatable).

As the weather was so nice yesterday and DP’s kids were at their mums we decided to have a garden party/BBQ and invited a few of our friends round early evening.

It was so great to try out the new BBQ, hot tub, and the bar is fab - really fun and quirky decor, inspired by our holidays. Made everyone cocktails!

Only thing is, we’ve put in a new sound system, so wanted to test it. But before you criticise me, it’s not like we expect to be able to play loud music all of the time - only thinking in the afternoons and perhaps a couple of hours on Friday or Saturday nights when kids aren’t staying with us.

Anyway, at 10.30 (so not exactly middle of the night!) our neighbour came and screamed at us over the fence to turn off the music and to stop talking. We weren’t even playing it that loud at that point as had turned it down - so we could all hear each other talk over it without shouting.

She said if we don’t shut up she will call the police! FFS! We’ve only just put it in so of course we wanted to enjoy it.

I’m so angry! We’ve spent thousands and fully intend to enjoy our new outdoor space. We would not play music to the early hours but it really wasn’t that late.

AIBU to just keep using it and make sure music is off before 11? The thought of not being able to enjoy our lovely garden is heartbreaking!

It's inconsiderate yabu

Yes definitely!

Your poor poor neighbours. Did it occur to you that they had no idea what time the music would be turned off at? It had been going for hours and they just freaked. Fair enough

You're neighbours from hell. Thank God everyone isn't like you.

I hope your poor neighbours contact the council about your antisocial behaviour and have your equipment seized.

Playing music loud enough that it annoys the neighbours at any time of the day is inconsiderate. If you want to do that then don't live in a built up area. Remember the neighbours have a right to enjoy their garden too.

We have a neighbour over our back fence who clearly thinks everyone shares her choice of music. I certainly don't and neither do my next door neighbours. My DH told her to turn it down last year and so far this year it hasn't been too loud. Don't object to her playing music, just not at a volume that imposes on my ability to hear myself think on my patio (which is as far as I can get away from the fence).

Definitely being unreasonable!

New NDNs are constantly in garden, parties etc. Quietened down a bit but still...

Last weekend I was woken at 4am by a man loudly speaking in their garden, naturally because it's hot I have windows open. He was sat right down the other end of the garden in a swinging chair and was speaking so loudly I could hear him. But I just shut my windows. They came inside, loud music ensued.

Brother's close friend lives in a maisonette (bottom half of a 1930s house) with his 3 DD's (1 moved out to go to uni) and his DP and young son. He used to, think didn't have that many before, but used to have loud parties, he had a bar built, fire pit etc. I went round sometimes with brother and friends for a party but must've really pissed off upstairs neighbours because when they planned on moving and selling they sold straight away and didn't tell brother's friend who'd have like to have bought the top half flat and could afford it!

Brother's GF a few years back had a 1930s semi in a very posh area of SE London - backed onto cricket ground and sports club spanning length of gardens behind houses, had a long garden, her NDN's were students and old man who was deaf. She had parties, sometimes a bit loud, but deaf man couldn't hear, students were having their own parties and cricket ground/sports club had no one to complain there and had their own parties and events anyway. She's since sold up and moved after 10-15 years of being there, fine and no issues (Dulwich Estate actually, so when they complain and want to make life difficult trust me they do!).

I really don't understand why if you want a party or loud music just go out to a pub/bar with music!

Also remember that if you do come to sell, if you do piss off the neighbours with noise they can prevent the sale if they've reported you for this.

If this is genuine, it's the most selfish OP I've come across on MN.

On what planet are there 7% who think this is reasonable?!

Yes had a neighbour like this and moved. She thought her garden was another room in her house.. proper prick.

My DM used to blast out opera when she had party loving neighbours! Four Seasons by Vivaldi at 10am on Sunday morning soon put that problem right!

That wasn't nice of you op. I'd be annoyed by your surround sound music, at 10.30pm too. I'd expect music off by 9pm.

OP how would you like to be subjected to someone else's choice of music "in the afternoons and for a couple of hours on Friday or Saturday nights".

Take out the TIki bar and rent your local hall or a pub with a garden if you want to have parties.

Lots of things that are theoretically legal are still cunty.

We weren’t even playing it that loud at that point

If you weren't playing it loud, how could it have been disturbing anyone?
Why should anyone (everyone) else have to listen to your shit music?

Churches are an established part of British society and realistically most people accept that noise after 10am any day of the week is acceptable and not anti social. Playing music late in the evening can encroach on others in a way that church bells do not. Not that I think that the neighbour shouting aggressively at the OP was a good way of dealing with issues. I would rather go around and ask what time the music was playing until and maintain good neighbourly relations if at all possible. Much easier to achieve what you want by being polite.

There is nothing worse than playing music in the garden for hours. Noise and music go beyond your garden, not just your immediate neighbours.

Also remember that if you do come to sell, if you do piss off the neighbours with noise they can prevent the sale if they've reported you for this.

Genius! so you can prevent the annoying noisy cunty neighbours from fucking off somewhere else? Brilliant.

A sound system in your garden is selfish and unreasonable. Your enjoyment of your music should not be at your neighbour's expense - they don't want to hear your tunes at any time of the day and night. Enjoy your bar and hot tub, up to 11pm, without inflicting your music on your neighbours.

Agreed on both counts.
It's so shit I suspect it is actually a wind-up.

Our neighbours used to do this, though minus the hot tub, thankfully. They genuinely didn't see why it would be a problem for anyone else!
They moved recently. I'd bet they had a loud barbecue over the Jubilee weekend!

You lost me at Tikki Bar. Reverse, troll or galloping narcissist.

You sound like an absolute nightmare neighbour! A bar,a jacuzzi,a sound system in the garden?! What a chavtastic set-up. You also seem completely oblivious at how much you are intruding on your neighbour’s right of peace and quiet to enjoy their own garden.

This.

OP, you are very mistaken in thinking everyone has a sex pond.

Bet the OPs DCs are twins

@GonnaGetGoingReturns

The description you give about the cricket ground ect reminds me of my childhood home. In Sidcup. I loved it there.

I bet you were playing fucking Coldplay.