To want to enjoy my garden!

[FunLovinGal]

DP and I have spent a large amount of money and effort building a tikki bar, built in BBQ and hot tub in our garden (it’s a proper one - not inflatable).

As the weather was so nice yesterday and DP’s kids were at their mums we decided to have a garden party/BBQ and invited a few of our friends round early evening.

It was so great to try out the new BBQ, hot tub, and the bar is fab - really fun and quirky decor, inspired by our holidays. Made everyone cocktails!

Only thing is, we’ve put in a new sound system, so wanted to test it. But before you criticise me, it’s not like we expect to be able to play loud music all of the time - only thinking in the afternoons and perhaps a couple of hours on Friday or Saturday nights when kids aren’t staying with us.

Anyway, at 10.30 (so not exactly middle of the night!) our neighbour came and screamed at us over the fence to turn off the music and to stop talking. We weren’t even playing it that loud at that point as had turned it down - so we could all hear each other talk over it without shouting.

She said if we don’t shut up she will call the police! FFS! We’ve only just put it in so of course we wanted to enjoy it.

I’m so angry! We’ve spent thousands and fully intend to enjoy our new outdoor space. We would not play music to the early hours but it really wasn’t that late.

AIBU to just keep using it and make sure music is off before 11? The thought of not being able to enjoy our lovely garden is heartbreaking!

I did notice that B&Q are advertising around the new LI series 😁

Yes.

I manage to enjoy my garden without disturbing anyone. Get some headphones then you can have it as loud as you like. You sound totally unreasonable

Good point. I didn’t view a house I liked for that reason,

I’d seen in the images on Rightmove the neighbours had turned their garage into ‘homeowners pub’ or whatever the name was.

Music in gardens is a definite no no from me. It's very antisocial to expect neighbours to enjoy listening to your music. I would go round and apologise and not let it happen again.

Ugh
You were intending to play the music loud for a couple of hours each afternoon (presumably weekends) and EVERY Friday and Saturday night?
When do your neighbours get to enjoy their own outside space?
I have similar neighbours and often the stress comes from not knowing when it will stop. Also the lid of a proper hot tub is really bloody noisy when it’s removed/replaced.

I never get why people think it's ok to play music in their gardens when they have neighbours who can hear it. If every house in the lane did it, it would be hell.

So bloody selfish.

We’re not going to have parties every week! Surely the occasional party is ok and normal?

Having the occasional party is absolutely fine but building a bar and outdoor sound system means this is going to be a regular thing.
I do think it sounds a bit cringe too sorry!

Definitely go round and apologise and explain that you won’t have the music on after X time and you’ll have it turned down.

It sounds like you may have done things in the past to annoy her but didn’t realise.

If you was My neighbour I would not be complaining at all. Specifically on a Friday/Saturday. And in the summer. I actually feel good when I hear neighbours enjoying their gardens.

Although I can understand it might be a bit annoying. I don't really understand complaints like this. Just for example if someone had party's 10 times a year. The neighbours have their peace for 355 days a year . But begrudge neighbour having the occasional party.

I'm with your neighbours. You sound selfish and entitled.

If you are in a built up area, on any kind of estate or basically near other houses, I think it's pretty thoughtless to install a sound system because you are undoutably going to annoy someone and it's a lot of money to spend unless you intend to rarely use it or become the neighbours from hell.

You are very thoughtless. I'd hate to have you as my neighbours. In a rural setting fine but residential with close neighbours. Really really selfish.

I'll tell you who goes to bed at 9pm in our village, it's the young children, the doctor and police who are working shifts, the elderly folk, the terminallmy ill teenager and all of them deserve consideration.

On my friends estate most houses would have garden parties.

Around once a month one house would have a party and it was usually to celebrate a birthday or something and they’d invite their friends but the other people on the estate would also be invited.
Everyone would bring some food and drink.

It never went on late.
And none of the houses had outdoor sound systems. The music was played in a house or on a portable speaker.

who goes to bed at 9pm?!

Children
Shift workers
People who are unwell

Personally I think anyone with a sound system in a garden is unbelievably selfish. Why should anyone else have to listen to your music at any time of day? Why shouldn’t they be able to enjoy their own gardens in peace and quiet?

"Who goes to bed at 9pm!!"

Everyone who has to get up for work at 4.00 or 4.30am for 5 or 6am starts, for instance.

And believe it or not, a very large number of people in this country work - shock horror! - over the weekends, either permanently or on a rotating basis. Who exactly do you think runs this 24/7 society we all now live in?

King Gary?

I am willing to turn the music off earlier if so many people think it’s a problem but DP will be gutted not to get full use of his new toy!

Oh dear, poor diddums.

If he wants to listen to good quality music, why doesn't he invest in a good pair of headphones?

Why does he think he has the right to inflict his musical tastes on his neighbours at any time?

Do neither of you realise that nobody else wants to hear your music outside?

Have either of you walked down the street to find out how far the noise you are making actually travels?

Have you even thought about how your actions affect other people in your area?

Do you think it's only audible on your own garden? I can assure you it's not.

Be aware of the impact of your "improvements" and husband's "new toy" has on not only your immediate neighbours. Then stop being such an antisocial idiots.

Jesus, neighbours from hell (you I mean). Who wants to hear someone elses music every time they go out in their garden to chill or relax. Do the neighbours have children? Don't you think your music playing till 10:30 would be a big problem for them trying to get to sleep? Talk about selfish and entitled, are you entirely lacking in empathy?

I currently have anaemia and haven't had a proper night's sleep for nearly 4 years thanks to DC with terrible sleep. So I am always in bed by about 8-9pm as I get exhausted quickly. So there are reasons why people would be in bed at 9pm.

This is a wind up. Try and be a bit more original next time . Yawn.

I wouldn’t be happy with music that late at night but then we only like to have guests over during day time hours so everyone has usually left by 6/7pm.
We do play music occasionally but again it’s during the day and it’s usually from a radio or Alexa which sits in the kitchen, we pop the back door open so we all get to hear it in the garden but it’s not so loud that it impacts on the neighbours.
The law does state 11pm-7am but I think it’s really inconsiderate to play music outside past 9pm especially from a proper sound system, it will be much louder than playing through a portable speaker.
Theres nothing worse than trying to get your kids to bed with music blasting from the neighbours!

I'd hate to live next door to you. If you had to turn the music down so you could hear yourselves talk it was way too loud!!

Everyone doesn't have a hot tub, and you know that. For me, it's the smell of chlorine that turns my stomach due to being around one when I was in the very early stages of pregnancy, and I have tinnitus so the hum would drive me mad.

I'm surprised this post isn't a reverse tbh. You're incredibly selfish and rude, if it's real.

I’d be pretty pissed at this, only because on the weekends I am emergancy on call and wfh 6.30 am to 22.30 pm.
as soon as I’ve finished one shift I need to go straight to bed to be up early the next morning. I’m sometimes required to go out to emergency’s and need my sleep!!