To ask if you could go back and undo having children would you?

[josil]

Genuinely, would you really undo it (not just some days are tough but overall I wouldn't undo it) I want opinions from those that have for a while felt like they wouldn't do it all over again.

Appreciate many threads on this but am keen to hear not just if you would undo it but if you would, why?

God forbid I should miss the time when I wasn't suicidal.

Honestly... I would have stopped at one... i have found it hard. My twins have ADHD and autism... and it's very clear that I do too. But i can no longer use my lifelong coping strategies as I have to put them first and its breaking me. I'm not patient, and totally overwhelmed by noise and conflict and chaos and that is my life now. Sometimes I sit on the edge of sanity and know without doubt if weren't for how much my children need me, I would probably opt out of life but that is no longer an option. I struggle with feeling emotion and that is conflicting. But also I know my children love me unconditionally ( for now !) Even if 2 of them have never and probably will never say it... when I hold them and they hug me back. It sometimes gives me a peace I would never otherwise have known.