DH gone camping

[campingwidow]

AIBU?

I have an 8 week old and a 2 year old with DH. Baby had her first lot of immunisations yesterday, was understandably v clingy and upset.

DH came through from doing toddler bedtime and goes "I'm off camping, I'll be back tomorrow" and off he went in our (only) car. No idea where he's gone or when he'll be back

AIBU for being a bit annoyed?

You are most definitely not? Does he do this often?

Camping? Is that the cover story now?

Wow. I honestly don’t know what to say other than I would be furious. Who on earth thinks that this is appropriate.

If you need help or support please reach out to your family and friends

What?

Is this normal for him? Did you say anything to him?

He is being completely unreasonable and you should be annoyed.

WTF?! You have an 8 week old baby and he’s walked out with no notice? I’d go absolutely nuts! YANBU.

Is it normal to just decide you're staying out all night in your marriage?

Is this a normal thing for him to do? If not, hes probably having an affair.

Wow. That is very selfish. Has he done this sort of thing before? YANBU.

Does he regularly go camping? If not, seems a bit odd just to take off - has he been ok recently? Are there any tensions?

Did he take camping stuff such as a sleeping bag with him?

Fuck that shit.
I would be incredibly unimpressed.
My own DH had a trip offered to him when DS was 6weeks old and refused. As it was for a charity , 3 peaks , and someone else had dropped out I told him to go but he insisted on leaving me at my mum and dads for the support.
Is your DH normally a selfish arse ?

Arrange to go away next weekend, or at a point you feel you’ll be able to leave your baby. Obviously only give him an hours notice!!

Say what now??

Do you have family you can call to come and stay with you or to go and stay with them?

Fair enough he gets some fun time - but what, when and how expensive, should always be discussed and agreed on. And you get the same!

I have a friend (male) who will suddenly decide he's going off camping on his own but he has no children and his partner doesn't mind.
In your circumstances I would find that unacceptable unless he regularly did this before the baby was born - and even then I'd expect a discussion about it rather than just being told it's happening.

As others have said, fuck that shit. Either an affair (likely option in circs) or a selfish moron. Perhaps you and the kids should be gone mysteriously when he gets back?

Is this normal for him? Why didn't he take the toddler at least? Is it an event or just random camping (which seems odd)

There is no issue with DH going camping....

... If it had been clearly agreed and planned several weeks' ago.

YABU for only being a "bit" annoyed!

You are not being unreasonable on multiple levels

That he took off without discussion

That he left you home alone with two young kids

That he took the family car

That he thought it was appropriate to go camping with an 8 week old baby and toddler at home - for no reason other than his own enjoyment of camping

That he didn't give you warning or time to plan

There are just so many things wrong with this actions and attitude to this...

So he just walked out last night?

What are you going to do?

He clearly hasn't gone camping.

As a couple and as a family we would discuss this first

He sounds very selfish

I mean, I think I'd be speechless. Obviously this is not something a reasonable person does. At the very least I'd take this as a sign that he has mentally opted out of the family.

So he just walked out? And you didn't say hang on a second and question him further?

Has he not mentioned going camping before last night? Thats so strange if he hasn't