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Can our wedding venue do this??? Any lawyers?!

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RedWineRage · 09/06/2022 18:17

Posting here for traffic....and also some perspective/help/ideas!

Getting married this summer. Reception venue is stately home-type place which is open to the public but also does weddings, has done successfully for years. Top listed wedding venue in various magazines etc and very good reviews. So - not some shady outfit.

Email out of the blue this week - all rather breezy - due to several incidents at recent events, just to let you know we will no longer be serving red wine at all, with immediate effect.

But don't worry, we'll just swap that out for rosé in your drinks package.

What???

My mum only drinks red wine. Several family members prefer red wine. We planned to have beef as a main.

Totally unacceptable, right? They appear to be relying on some woolly clause in the contract around "it's a historic building, changes may need to be made to your wedding plan that are out of our control due to operational reasons" etc.

We're genuinely considering trying at short notice to get another venue, and trying to claim money back through small claims. Has anyone done this? Any ideas on how likely we are to be successful?

My mum can't not have an alcoholic drink at my wedding. Sorry I'm ranting and probably not being very rational.

Perspective and advice welcome!!

OP posts:
Mumdiva99 · 13/08/2022 06:12

Have a lovely day. (I'd laugh if your mum orders white!!)

legosunqueen · 13/08/2022 08:26

Good update OP - have a super day Flowers

ShirleyPhallus · 13/08/2022 08:30

Lovely update OP and not surprised you were upset, some really awful comments on here

Enjoy your day and hope your mum enjoys her wine!

Antarcticant · 13/08/2022 08:35

Great news! Have a lovely day!

Runwalkskijump · 13/08/2022 09:46

Oh and we didn't find out any major details of what had happened to cause the ban - just several very drunken "first wedding in a friendship group" situations apparently...red wine up the walls/down the stairs etc. I think (hope) our guests are a bit long in the tooth for that now...fingers crossed!

That is obviously what caused the ban.

TheBiologyStupid · 13/08/2022 10:32

Vikinga · 11/06/2022 18:29

My god, you're being very dramatic over alcohol! I'd understand if no alcohol was allowed but she can drink other wine or not drink. I prefer prosecco but I can live without drinking for one day or drink other wines. No bid deal.

Red wine is a pretty basic expectation at events like the one the OP is hosting. And it is a big day for the mother of the bride, too.

TheBiologyStupid · 13/08/2022 10:39

apparently...red wine up the walls/down the stairs etc.

Just another day in Downing Street...
But seriously, I'm glad to hear that it all went OK in the end and that the venue was able to compromise. Best wishes for the new married life ahead of you!

justasking111 · 13/08/2022 11:05

White wine up the walls also stains. Don't try it

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