Seen my friends husband on Bumble

[Curlyhairdonotcare]

I seen my friends husband on Bumble on Friday night
I made video screen shot of entire profile - verified and fully filled out

I was at their wedding four years ago, she was fairly smug with how well their relationship had gone. Engaged after a short period of time, and married after 1 year. They met the week after she had a 6 year relationship ending and they did seem literally perfect for each other.

I tend to stay away from gossip but neither she or anyone else have intimated their relationship has broken down.
I have told no one I know about the dating profile.

AIBU to leave it and feel its none of my business?

By the sounds of it, you’d want to tell her simply to burst her ‘smug’ perfect life bubble OP. I’d consider your intentions first and then use some of PPs advice to break it to her gently if you’re doing it for the right reasons and not just out of bitterness.

I did wonder if i would do the same again. But then I thought I would want to know if I was in her shoes, even if it's something you don't want to hear. Good that you have proof. I would send it all to her, ultimately it's up to her what she does with it.

Ffs nothing of the sort 🙄

I’ve had the reverse of this where a guy that I met online and have been messaging for nearly 2 years met up with on several occasions turns out he’s got nine-month-old twins came across her profile on TikTok and I did get in touch with her she’s never replied but that’s her prerogative isn’t it

Oh for fuck sake doll. Thats horrific. I am sorry.

Just tell the friend. "I came across something potentially very upsetting and wasn't sure whether you'd welcome me sending it to you. I cannot tell whether it's genuine, but I love and respect you too much to do nothing."

Aye ill just do it

I wouldn't tell or do anything. Forget you've seen it.

You have to tell her before she has dc.
Just forward the profile and say you wonder if her dh has been used as a catfish or maybe it is actually him, but you wanted her to know and will keep it quiet.

It’s not the Oscars we don’t need a bloody speech out just a link or screenshot, found this thought you’d want to know.

Ive not told anyone and have no intention to

Its so disheatening how many folks partners i see on bumble tbh
its a shit show

FatTum Its often the messenger who gets shot! I think many women may suspect something is amiss ,but are in a bit of denial .Then someone shows up with proof and pow they can deny it all! Mad .Probably best not to say anything

Well, what's the point of the thread?

You asked AIBU to leave it.... posters are saying tell her. ie YABU to leave it.

If you've no intention of doing anything, why ask?

Holy moly is it normal to be entirely dissected on mumsnet!!!
i meant not telling anyone other than her!! Like not gossiping about it to others in our social circles!!! Thats what I meant by having no intention of telling others / gossiping

How many have you seen so far then?

Why would they not at least use a fake name?

You really don't sound like a good friend, OP.

Considering leaving her without vital knowledge while ruminating on her smugness is horrible
She needs to know but have some compassion for the shock & emotional pain she has coming.

I think about 6/7 xxx

Think op means she isn't going to tell anyone else, only the wife

Yes!

I’ll buy a new SIM card that’s not linked to me and send her the video anonymously. I’ll do this mainly because there may be a fall out and I don’t want to be caught in it, also, I don’t want to be ostracised if she decides to stay with him. But I feel she deserves to know but I’m not one for confrontation so will have to do this anonymously

You can’t not tell her.

6/7 all on Bumble?? 😯

Depends on how good a friend she is imo. I tend to keep my nose out of other peoples business. When it comes to someone you love or care about though, it would be pretty shitty not to tell her.

Aye