To be disturbed by this comment from DM?

[greenvelvetcouch]

My sister had a baby last year, and due to covid-reasons and a pretty lengthy stay in NICU my DM didn’t meet her baby until she was 37 days old.

I was discussing my Dsis with DM at the weekend and she said to me that my sister was fine and had dealt with it all brilliantly (I disagree - I think she is very damaged by the experience and her husband and I both want her to talk to someone about it all), but DM was still “traumatised” by the experience because it’s not natural for a baby to be kept from its grandmother for so long.

I didn’t call her out on it at the time, but I found this comment so disturbing and it made me worry about the level of entitlement my DM seems to have towards her grandchild. I don’t think grandparents have any “right” to their grandchildren, and I wouldn’t want her acting like that at all when I have my baby. I’ve never had much cause to worry about her beyond her being a bit of an obsessed granny/slightly lonely widow who loves her family but I can’t cope with her being suffocating about seeing my child/ren. I was expecting to ban any visits for 2-3 weeks at least when I have my baby and this would include her.

Is this comment a worrying sign of what’s to come? Do you agree with her?

Well done @greenvelvetcouch

Good luck in 25 years time when you are excluded. You sound vile.

You clearly hate your mum and want to punish her.
Your mother gave birth to you and you want to deny her seeing her grandchild for weeks and call her ‘extended family.’ When you know she was upset about not seeing your sisters baby. You are very cruel. Please understand that this is a very abnormal way to behave unless you are no contact/very low contact with relatives

and I would make a pretty safe bet that you calm husband just goes along with all your bs because he doesn’t want to upset you.

gah2teenagers

absolutely.
but judging by the posters agreeing with the OP and also deliberately excluding close family members for weeks there are a lot of
vile cunts about.

You intend to 'BAN' visits for 2-3 weeks?! WTAF

@Smileyaxolotl1 sexist, much?

@Smileyaxolotl1 I was referring to the husband comment. Really sexist and completely unfounded as OP has said that her husband agreed with her, is happy with the plan and is an introvert. Maybe this was coming as much from him? And it doesn’t really matter now as they’ve already had their baby (congrats OP!) and everyone including the DM’s were perfectly happy.

Mumsnet swings wildly between men are all controlling and men are all poor henpecked husbands who just fall in line with their wives.

imperialminty

oh well - if the husband does agree with her then it’s nice that such cold, horrible people have found each other I guess. And they can avoid normal human relationships together.

Bit late to the party, guys. The baby is here, they had their lovely two weeks together and then all the family met them together.

Get a grip.

is it a 'little family' you have now OP. One of those.

Jesus I wish you'd called her out but I imagine feeling like a deer caught in the headlights.
Maybe drop your sister a text so she's not doubting herself? "Still thinking bout mum chatting bollocks that she's more affected by your traumatic labour than you! Jeez! You have every right to feel in a mess over it"

Ugh ignore me!

This. Very helpful too to have someone hold the baby while you go to the loo, clean your teeth, prepare food, eat. But please think of your mum in her lonely widowhood for goodness sake