Did anyone else get rude comments about their looks growing up?

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I used to have a very large gap between my front teeth, crooked bottom teeth as well. Had various comments over the years, even a 'friend' told me I'd be so pretty if 'only I fixed my teeth'.

In adulthood I decided to look into braces but then people started saying, oh you don't need braces your teeth are fine etc..
It didn't seem to stop men being attracted to me but they always bothered me.
Anyway I have straight teeth now with no gap as I got Invisalign braces.

Next, my nose, I used to have quite a prominent side profile with a bump. Two (not very nice) exes took it upon themselves to tell me I had a big nose. It wasn't just them, I'd never liked it myself. As the front was fine, I started to get nose filler which I still get today. It's significantly improved my nose, people tell me I don't need it but I feel like I don't want to go back to my old nose.

Also had very bad acne which the same ex and 'friend' commented on. The ex told me he had been 'embarrassed to be seen with me in public' because my spots were so bad.
Acne was more of a common issue so people weren't as mean about it, but with age it's just cleared up, and I only have a couple of spots now though I remember being at the front of a class and some kids whispering "She's got a really spotty face."

With the awful ex, I came across a text one day that his female friend had sent him, when she found out he was interested in me. She said, "Don't go for her, she's really ugly! You can't possibly stoop so low!"

Of course that made me feel great.

Anyway I'm happy with my looks today although it's sad I ended up 'fixing" all these things. Just thinking about it today made me angry. Why did any of these people feel the right to pick on my looks like that? Has anyone else been through this?

My stepmother's nickname for me was ugly wog. So yeah...
Also large birthmark on my face. People would look at me in horror.

Yes awful.
I was the only Asian in a predominantly white school so one girl used to bully me calling me a monkey.

then although my next school was more diverse in London, at 15, all my friends were pretty and had boyfriends.

I had massive eyes that were too big for my face, acne, wonky teeth, wavy hair I wanted to straighten, bushy eyebrows. Guys didn’t fancy me and called me names Until one of my guy friends went out with me - and other guys took the mick but he didn’t care.

after my 16th birthday without boasting I seemed to blossom- braces came off, acne got better, eyebrows threaded, wore a bra, discovered the power of brushing my hair but keeping it wavy, discovered mascara and lipstick and could wear normal clothes to sixth form so had a certain style - and I guess my big eyes were no longer seen as unattractive.

a year later, without being boastful, I had a lot of compliments and other people asked me out which continued into my 20s (not so much now I’m in my late 30s)

whilst I lapped the attention I still felt like an ugly girl underneath for a while until I met my DH. It just reminded me how fickle and shallow all people are - which makes me very sad for my beautiful DD (3) with her cute face, and lovely wavy hair, and lovely mixed olive skin -I worry she will take after me with the eyebrows and acne and everything else which shouldn’t be an issue except it is in a horrible fickle world

I think a lot of mums my DMs age seem obsessed with looks and their weight. My DM often told me i looked like a sack of potatoes, had hair like rats tails, walked funny, looked like i was a tall person who'd been squashed (wtf?), had puppy fat etc. As a result I've never been been confident even though looking back i was very pretty.

Lots of it unfortunately - I inherited my dad's looks, which meant genetic puffy bags under my eyes, wonky teeth and a big/crooked nose. Made worse of course by my mum absolutely hating my dad, and having a creep of a boyfriend.
They regularly used to lament that no one would want to marry me because I was ugly (in their minds, being rescued by a bloke who wanted to sleep with me would be the highest compliment) Mums bf would talk a lot about me needing a boob job and how I should start saving once I was working.

It was a revelation when I finally realised mums boyfriend was a bit of a cocklodging perve and that his opinion didn't count for anything.

Unfortunately the impact of this (and related bullying at school) has been long lasting, I've never really made an effort to look pretty as it seems ridiculous to me to even try.

As I've got older I'd probably be envied by some because I'm slim (I'm naturally small + into sports) but while I don't think about it much now, my opinion of my face is pretty low and I don't think I'd ever be able to change that.

My youngest daughter is a beauty,lovely thick hair ,perfect teeth ,nails and skin , she's a lovely figure but after 5years in high school being tormented and being called fat she's nearly starved herself to be thin "at any cost ".
She no longer believes us she only believes the negative comments from school and at 19 is still the little girl in high school .
Words hurt and stay with you forever, I remember my mum telling me I had legs like max wall, a comedian from years back and it stays with me to this day ,I'm 58 now and it still stings .

I use to get teased about having 'clown feet', I was a bumshuffler and had delayed walking as a toddler so my feet stuck out, and by the time I started walking my feet still were never straight, and it stayed like that throughout my childhood. In my early teens I spent months and months in physio learning to walk 'properly' and get my feet in alignment with my legs after I experienced painful shin splints and sore ankles playing sport.

My parents thought I would grow out of it, and no GP raised it as a concern. My parents didnt realise how bad my legs were out of whack until one physio session, it was more ignorance on their part.

My brother and dad used to joke about me being fat - I was size 8! Mum has since apologised she didn’t stand up to them. Df thinks it’s funny and I should have got the joke as it was obvious I wasn’t fat. Same for ugly - I’ve never felt pretty.

My mum has single handedly destroyed every part of my body for me with her horrible comments.

My mum has always been completely obsessed with how I look. My weight, my skin, my hair, my clothes, my nails (I was a biter for years), my shoes, my makeup. Literally everything. It started when I was a very small child and continues today (I'm in my 40s).

When I was 16 she told me not to worry, "some day someone might find you attractive". Thanks mum. She's never, ever told me I look nice. The only thing she does grudgingly accept is that I have nice skin now.

I have zero self confidence because her constant criticism extended to my academic achievements. It didn't matter how hard I worked or the mark I got if I wasn't top of the year she had something to say about it.

My mother (along with many other things) once said (with a laugh)
‘if only you had more on top (my boobs) and less down there (my legs) then you’d be perfect’
this from a woman who was a size 32 and I was a 14 at the time
even my friends where shocked but she laughed it off

ive never forgotten it and still wish my legs where thinner

My mother is still absolutely obsessed with how I look. particularly my size. Before she comes to visit I cut out the tags in all my clothes because she goes into my drawers to look at the tags. Or she makes excuses to go into my washing basket and I have caught her lifting things out and turning them over to check the tags out.

No wonder I had bulimia for decades.

Long neck, small boobs, ‘ski slope’ nose - all fairly desirable features potentially but somehow turned into insults by school peers. And my stepfather regularly called both me and my mother ‘too thin’.

I was “too ugly” to be a bridesmaid at my cousin’s wedding! I was 7 at the time.

Yes x100
Has massively affected me to this day. So relieved DCs are good looking kids and never went through the name calling that I did.
weirdly I don’t care so much now as no-one looks at a middle-aged woman! I concentrated more on my figure as it’s always been decent, and hoped it would compensate for the ugly mug!! I still hate things where im judged on looks - like job interviews - and hate seeing myself on Zoom.

Loads of times.

My own dad would call me fat and fatty all the time.

My sister called me fat too. I went through puberty and developed boobs and hips but I wasn't fat, the pair of them would make horrible comments about how I'd piled weight on.

My sister called me big nose too.

I've been called big forehead and slap head.

Another boy asked if I was pregnant once when I was about 13.

Ex would call me a fat cunt quite a lot that was in my late teens/early 20s.

I got called Caspar, pasty face, white as a sheet as a child too.

These comments do stay with you. It's so strange that I got so many fat comments growing up and throughout my life. I was never ever fat or overweight and in contrast I also got called too skinny a lot too. In actual fact I've always been right in the middle. I'm 5"5 and 9 stone and have always been the same give or take half a stone either way 🤷‍♀️

When I think about it I really would love to understand why so many people thought it was ok to speak to me like that.

I had a birth mark on my leg that I used to get teased about. Just kids stuff I guess but it upset me hugely when younger. My parents knew but did nothing about it (bitter, moi?) I got it lasered a few years ago and it really has changed my life.

Loads from my narc mum. Even on my wedding day the best she could do was " Hih, not as bad as I thought"
Red hair and glasses. Bullied throughout school. Still get nasty comments. When my son was born one of the nurses said" Oh you must be so glad hes not ginger"
Large, bumpy nose. Ex Dh used to always state he was so glad our kids looked like him and didnt have my nose.
No wonder i self harmed for years and still wont let anyone take my photo.

Yes! I had braces & was over weight with a really round face and big cheeks. People would tell me I had hamster cheeks! Braces obviously came off and I lost all the weight by the time I was 19.

I remember my uncles ex girlfriend coming up to me in a pub on Boxing Day telling me how beautiful I was and I used to be an ugly duckling. My Mum was fuming

All the fucking time. Mostly as a younger adult. I will always remember exMIL studying my face for a good minute before pronouncing 'no one could ever call you beautiful. Handsome, or interesting perhaps at best'. ExH did a good line in 'porky crater face... Who could ever like you?' frequently toooo.

I have also caused an actual car crash by two blokes both staring at me rather than the road (when young and lovely)and have been frequently stopped by people making positive comments. Beauty is clearly in the eye of the beholder!

Not really and I have great self esteem .. I guess there must be a correlation. Never thought about it like that before !🤔

Oh yes. Lots. I was quite surprised when I arrived at university and strangers didn’t point and laugh/run away screaming, in fact barely noticed me at all.

Other children are one thing though, but I really don’t get why so many adults feel it’s okay to be perfectly rude and personal to children/teenagers.

I love my mum very much, but like PP’s mothers she said some things about my teeth, boobs and bum that make me wonder even now what the hell she was thinking, speaking to any child like that let alone her own.

Another redhead, taller than average and overweight. Primary school was made hell by a boy who used to follow me home singing a rhyme he'd made up including my name that had fatty in front of it (still stings and I can hear it in my head but can't say the words, never told anyone!). In hindsight I wasn't really fat just bigger than average, always towered above everybody else in my classes.
I'm shocked at how many awful mothers there are, I was a totally different size/shape/colouring to mine and she was continually making subtle comments like 'you should wear navy as its slimming' . She made me feel like a giant clumsy cart horse next to a racing horse. Led to a lifetime of low self esteem and self consciousness so if any mums reading please only say lovely, positive things to your children.

16 years old, ordered by mum to visit aunt we hadn't seen since I was about 9. Got off train, she was there to meet me "Oh. Are you newname? You're not a bit like your mum are you? She was an absolute beauty when she was your age" 😅

My older sister took every opportunity to tell me how ugly I was, that I had a piggy nose etc.

My mum wasn’t deliberately cruel but used to tell me my teeth were yellow (I now have dentist PILs who tell me I have lovely teeth and they won’t whiten them as they don’t need to be) and would tell me to put make-up on (I had no interest).

So, yeah.

There were two of us with the same name in my year at school. One was known as "fit wherethemonkeyssing" and the other was known as "not fit wherethemonkeyssing". You can guess which one I was...