Feel so guilty and ashamed

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So I went to a wedding with my DH this weekend (I didn’t know anybody and was a tad nervous)…people kept buying me shots and I stupidly drank them. I was so drunk to the point where the bride had to ask my DH had a problem with her sister as I kept banging into her when dancing 😢 I was also sick outside the venue…oh dear 😭

Should I also add that I am a mother of 2 kids 4 and 1, they were safe at grandparents but I should know better as a mother in my early 30’s.

Oh no. You got abducted by aliens and you were actually on a spaceship and it was aliens in your body who went to that wedding. They have also wiped your memory.

Have a fried egg sandwich and hide under the covers all day.

Ach no. Although you’re mortified now, there are worse things you can do.
Could you send the bride a short text saying you had too much to drink and would like to apologise? I don’t know if that might put your mind at rest a bit.
Have a sympathetic pat on the shoulder.

Shots are dangerous. I can hold my drink but I won't touch shots now after similar experiences (yes, plural!).

You say you didn't know anyone, do you have the brides number or on Facebook? I would send a message if you can, apologising a LOT, blame the shots and that you're really embarrassed.

The guilt and shame will wear off! You may get called an alcoholic here though for drinking more than a thimblefull of wine...

Drink lots of water today, and make a note to apologise to the bride and her sister! You'll feel better then.

Oh no. Nothing worse than the beer fear. It will all be forgotten about soon enough. Be kind to yourself x

I don't drink in any social situations such as a wedding now because I can't deal with the hangxiety.

Oh dear, yes that is a bit embarrassing. But not terrible, it doesn't make you a bad person.

Send an apology in a few days, just say you drink so rarely and you are sorry for overdoing it. Then give yourself a break and accept we all make mistakes.

Sounds like you had a lot of fun and remember everyone else will be drinking/caught up in what they are doing it was probably less of a concern than you think. And if they are a shots kind of wedding they must have been pretty pissed too. I once went to a party where a couple of people who bullied me at school were going. (We we're now in our 30's) I got hammered and had to be picked up about 9ish as I was vomiting profusely. Ironically my best friend called her dad who had picked us up from many a drunken escapade in our teens. It was 15 years ago now and I haven't thought about it in years.

If lots of people were doing shots you won't be the only one feeling like this today. I'm sure lots of other things happened you didn't notice. It's really hard going out when you haven't done much of it for a few years because of young children.

I just feel terrible the bride’s sister, must have been so annoying for her. I will feel better if I apologise. I got really upset at the wedding when my DH pulled me up about it and wanted to apologise then but he said it would make it worse. I felt so bad because I honestly didn’t realise I was doing it.

I also went to the loo with DH’s friends wife and she said I can’t take to that other girl that just turned up can you, said woman then came out of the toilet cubicle so maybe I’m not alone 😂😂😂

Apologise to the Bride and the Brides sister, if you can contact her. It is really shitty that the bride had to deal with this or that the brides sister, was left thinking someone had a problem with them.

Who are the people to your husband? If you didn’t know anyone, I assume it was to do with his work? I Might sit other events with them out.

But it’s really not the end of the world or the worst thing you could have done.

We've all been there, OP. Maybe text the bride to say sorry for being a bit tipsy if it makes you better. BUT remember you won't have been the only one. And, even as mothers, we don't have to be on our best behaviour ALL the time.

Oh don’t worry about it OP. Plenty of us have been there.

Haha! Don’t worry OP, the guilt and shame will pass and this is an event in your life that will eventually be looked back and you’ll laugh about it.

It'll blow over, try to message bride if you can.

Lots of water today (and carb heavy food).

You've got The Fear. This is one of the reasons I don't drink much these days! I've been in your shoes more than once loads of times!

Just drop them a message. I'm sure if people were doing shots then you weren't the only one pissed.

Are you 16? Using alcohol to change the way you feel and give you false courage is never a good idea. You need to grow up and take responsibility for your actions. Starting with apologies to the Bride and Bride’s sister and your DH too.

No, most of us haven’t done similar at someone else’s wedding as the majority of people are moderate drinkers and sadly, you will have earned yourself a reputation now which won’t be easy to change.

Consider swapping to soft drinks after the toasts at future gatherings?

Feeling smug in your ivory tower? Not for you to assume what others do or don't do as a way to make the op feel small.

Haha i did the same at my friend's wedding. I like a good old bounce on the dance floor. Had binge cringe for days

@Kool4katz thanks for that 😩

Been there 🤦🏻‍♀️ Apology with ironic gift bottle of your wedding shot of choice (not because you have to but because it will be seen as going above and beyond) and don’t fret. It will feel worse today, but tomorrow it’ll be a blip! Happy Hydrating! X

Ignore cool4cats some people think the healthy way to start one’s Sunday is by lecturing a random on the internet.

I don’t really drink but I wouldn’t think badly about someone for overdoing it once every so often. I think the others suggestions of a short apology to the bride and groom isn’t bad, it might make you feel better too. But you weren’t terrible op. Don’t worry.