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Feel so guilty and ashamed

128 replies

HellNo2 · 05/06/2022 06:35

So I went to a wedding with my DH this weekend (I didn’t know anybody and was a tad nervous)…people kept buying me shots and I stupidly drank them. I was so drunk to the point where the bride had to ask my DH had a problem with her sister as I kept banging into her when dancing 😢 I was also sick outside the venue…oh dear 😭

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orwellwasright · 05/06/2022 08:55

Not the best place to get sympathy, OP. Mumsnet is stuffed full of tartars who think anyone who has more than a sherry at Christmas is a raging alcoholic.

Purringcat3 · 05/06/2022 08:58

OP I know you feel like shit but I hope you had a good time. 🤣

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InFiveMins · 05/06/2022 09:04

Don't worry about it. I wouldn't send an apology - it'll make it into a bigger thing than it actually is. So what if you were a bit drunk, you won't have been the only one and it's expected at parties. Chill, nobody will even remember it.

BilboBagBin · 05/06/2022 09:05

If you have barely drank all year with a one year old then the alcohol will have been hitting you harder so can see how this could easily happen. Flowers

pictish · 05/06/2022 09:12

orwellwasright · 05/06/2022 08:55

Not the best place to get sympathy, OP. Mumsnet is stuffed full of tartars who think anyone who has more than a sherry at Christmas is a raging alcoholic.

This true actually. Mumsnet can be very pickle-faced when it comes to drinking and socialising.

Electriq · 05/06/2022 09:13

Oh OP I barely drink anymore for doing similar at many many occasions, shots are bloody dangerous, you will feel like the world's worst person for a few days, you can thank the shots for that too.

It can happen to literally anyone, we had a party last night and one of my very prim and proper friends who rarely drinks, was absolutely away with the wind, no shots involved, we had tears, hugs, kisses, and very very loud, I dont think any different of her, and neither does anyone else, because thats what alcohol does, and we are all old enough to know that any one of us can tip the scale and end up there on any occasion.

Lots of hydrating and a few texts of apology to the B&G, gentle hugs.

Icansleep · 05/06/2022 09:24

Kool4katz · 05/06/2022 08:23

Are you 16? Using alcohol to change the way you feel and give you false courage is never a good idea. You need to grow up and take responsibility for your actions. Starting with apologies to the Bride and Bride’s sister and your DH too.

No, most of us haven’t done similar at someone else’s wedding as the majority of people are moderate drinkers and sadly, you will have earned yourself a reputation now which won’t be easy to change.

Consider swapping to soft drinks after the toasts at future gatherings?

Oh wow 😂😂😂

Better get that stick out of your arse asap@Kool4katz

tootiredtoocare · 05/06/2022 09:25

Leave it a couple of weeks, then message bride, apologising, but also with something like, "The party was so fun and I was having such a good time I wasn't watching my alcohol intake". A little flattery will get you anywhere! Also, don't worry, most people will have forgotten it. I've been to a wedding where the bride & groom had a physical fight and had to be pulled apart by guests, so, you know, someone being a little the worse for wear doesn't even get on the list of worst wedding stories. Lots of water!

MissPeregrinesHome · 05/06/2022 09:25

You weren't sick inside the venue! Be kind to yourself it's OK. You'll feel better soon, agree about sending an apology but I'm sure you are the one who feels worst.

NauseousNancy · 05/06/2022 09:29

At my wedding someone was sick INSIDE the venue, someone wet themselves in the bathroom and another had a wee lie down on the dance floor.

Theres always people at weddings that drink too much, you aren’t the first and you won’t be the last! Have a McDonald’s and a sleep and you’ll feel better!!

lovelovelove2 · 05/06/2022 09:45

It won't be as bad tomorrow. Just ride it out and try be kind to yourself. The majority have done things we are not proud of

AngelinaFangelina · 05/06/2022 10:07

I did similar, but at DH friends wife's 30th many moons ago. I was 19, they all knew each other and seemed eons older than me and I drank for the courage to actually join in. Unfortunately, I drank far too much and made a tit out of myself. I was drunk enough that DH had to stop the car on the way home so I could throw up in a lay-by. I sometimes still think about it and cringe, even all these years on and we don't even see the people anymore! It certainly taught me a lesson and I never got that drunk again.

MatildaTheCat · 05/06/2022 10:28

Many, many moons ago I was invited to meet the family of my new boyfriend at his sister’s wedding. I failed to pace myself and drank way too much. After he main afternoon reception his parents hosted an evening do at their house for a smaller number of guests.

so I was introduced to them and tripped over and dropped a plate of food all over their sitting room floor. That’s quite embarrassing.

We got married a few years later and his DF now aged 94 refers to me as his fifth child. I’ve no idea if they ever discussed this drunken girl who pitched up at their family wedding 🤣

Forgive yourself immediately and have a big breakfast.

EinsteinaGogo · 05/06/2022 10:31

Ah, the fear the next day is horrible ( and one reason I no longer drink a lot 😩😩😩).

You will cringe for a few days then slowly forget it, OP.

You won't have been the only one, and sounds like you were having fun!

EinsteinaGogo · 05/06/2022 10:32

NauseousNancy · 05/06/2022 09:29

At my wedding someone was sick INSIDE the venue, someone wet themselves in the bathroom and another had a wee lie down on the dance floor.

Theres always people at weddings that drink too much, you aren’t the first and you won’t be the last! Have a McDonald’s and a sleep and you’ll feel better!!

I read this as 'some had a wee, lying down on the dance floor'. You really would have won the thread with that one!!

WhatInFreshHell · 05/06/2022 10:35

Kool4katz · 05/06/2022 08:23

Are you 16? Using alcohol to change the way you feel and give you false courage is never a good idea. You need to grow up and take responsibility for your actions. Starting with apologies to the Bride and Bride’s sister and your DH too.

No, most of us haven’t done similar at someone else’s wedding as the majority of people are moderate drinkers and sadly, you will have earned yourself a reputation now which won’t be easy to change.

Consider swapping to soft drinks after the toasts at future gatherings?

Oh shut up 😂😂😂😂😂

Buildingthefuture · 05/06/2022 10:35

Meh. It happens!! I’ve embarrassed myself a few times over the years, as has literally everyone else I know. You’ve got beer fear right now but it will pass. Apologise if you think you need to but I can guarantee you will be making more of it than everyone else.

Crazycatlady83 · 05/06/2022 10:36

There is always a drunk person at a wedding, you were theirs. Don't worry about it, nothing you can do now but apologise to the bride.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 05/06/2022 10:38

pictish · 05/06/2022 06:41

Ach no. Although you’re mortified now, there are worse things you can do.
Could you send the bride a short text saying you had too much to drink and would like to apologise? I don’t know if that might put your mind at rest a bit.
Have a sympathetic pat on the shoulder.

I agree ,most of us have done it at one point in our lives. I'd send a handwritten note in this case.

CounsellorTroi · 05/06/2022 10:38

OP you are not the only one who has been sick outside a wedding venue!😳

DarlingDarwin · 05/06/2022 10:38

Post drinking anxious pants. You’ll feel better tomorrow.

user1498572889 · 05/06/2022 10:42

You wasn’t sick on anyone and didn’t start a fight. Apologise nicely and say I don’t get out much. The freedom went to my head I will stick to soft drinks next time. Be embarrassed but make a joke of it.

TheVolturi · 05/06/2022 10:48

I got lost in a foreign country after shots. And woke up in a bowl of soup in a restaurant with the police asking me who I was. And I didn't know.
So your story is lame sorry op 🤣🤣🤣

Pennyhill22 · 05/06/2022 10:54

I think most of us have been there. You feel awful now and embarrassed but it will blow over. 💐 ☕.