Feel so guilty and ashamed

[HellNo2]

So I went to a wedding with my DH this weekend (I didn’t know anybody and was a tad nervous)…people kept buying me shots and I stupidly drank them. I was so drunk to the point where the bride had to ask my DH had a problem with her sister as I kept banging into her when dancing 😢 I was also sick outside the venue…oh dear 😭

I highly doubt from what you've said OP that you would have been the worst one there!
I have been to some epic weddings where the Bride's behaviour would have out done you any day..... my own wedding involved sick inside the venue (not mine!) so you really shouldn't worry.
I have been married seven years now and whenever it gets mentioned everyone just has a good giggle about the nights events, no one really gives a shit about a drunk person at a wedding!

Oh god, the Beer Fear. Everyone's done it, OP, and this time it was you. Don't message the bride though; she'll have enough on, and doesn't need to be put in a position where she feels she has to quell your anxieties. Let yourself wallow a bit today and then move on.

But - longer term, I'd suggest thinking about if this is the sort of drunk you want to be. You don't have to drink shots when people buy them, especially if you know your tolerance is low.
I had a couple of nights like this over the years and now I drink very rarely, and never to excess at social occasions. I felt it was fine to get pissed and behave like a knob from time to time in my 20s, but now in my 30s and with two small children, I want to be able to wake up the following day feeling fresh and with no regrets.

@trailrunner85 I literally haven’t been like this since my early 20’s 😩 the funny thing is I said to DH not long ago how sensible I am when I drink now that I’m a mum 🧐

Well you know what, you've had a one off drunk occasion!

Forgive yourself!

Did you have Chinese or McDonald's?

Or.... both .... for lunch and dinner?

Yes I had McDonald’s for breakfast and Chinese not long ago 😅…thanks for your support it has kept me going today!

Full fat coke?

If you've also done that, then we're life long buddies!!

Try not to worry so much op , my dh female cousin got so drunk at our wedding that she tried to throw a vodka and coke over my wedding dress when I said I was t total. She was sent home in a taxi. But , she is actually a really nice woman , I've met her before and since. She just genuinely can't hold her drink . I didn't hold it against her at all and laughed about it the next day xx

Have you had

Chinese
McDonalds

And

Full fat coke?

I hope so!

It’s honestly not that bad, you didn’t get into a fight or piss yourself or get naked, you just bumped into someone a few times, I doubt they are thinking about it now. I got wasted at my cousin’s extremely posh and classy wedding in a castle somewhere when I was 20. I dropped a full glass of red wine in the middle of the dancefloor and got off with one of the wedding band in front of everyone. Hope that helps.

Tomorrow is a new day...

Iv done this OP. Went to my now DH's best friends engagement party. I had not met any of his friends before and got so drunk I was sick in my own hair and everything. I have never been so ashamed in my whole life. Its still brought up 15 years later but only in jest. We all became really close friends in the end. The wedding went well and I managed to hold my alcohol that night.

Get bent @Kool4katz, stop being smuggo and cats bummy. I know who I’d rather party with. (It’s you, @HellNo2 ).

I’ve been there, still get flash backs when I’m feeling anxious but fuck it. Only you will be the one that dwells on it, remember that! 🥂

Oh yeah, and my adult cousin got so lashed at my wedding that her parents carted her off for a lie down. She came back later and rejoined us. It was hilarious. She was a total social hand grenade but we love her anyway.

Was it your DH’s work colleague’s wedding?
I suppose you know your ‘new’ limit with alcohol so hopefully, it won’t happen again.

@HikingforScenery no shots for me again!

@HikingforScenery yes it was his work colleague, DH has a new job now though so probably won’t see them much going forward….thankfully 🥴

Beer fear is the worst thing ever. I went through a stage of drinking too much every weekend last summer, it got worse as the weeks went on also. I have been so much happier through the winter, then went and ruined it all yesterday and feeling awful today.

I don't think I have done anything at a wedding but I know at mine my bridesmaid had a fight with a friend of mine, bridesmaid then left the wedding without her phone, bag, keys. Loads of people looking for her, she turned up on my parents doorstep. XHs mum was flashing at everyone and there was one other drunken thing happen which I can't remember.

Even better. Onwards and upwards :)

@Handsoffreturns hope your feeling better today! I still feel really off! I will never have more than 2 glasses of wine again!

it was baby Guiness, I didn’t realise how strong Tia Maria was!

Personally I wouldn't be texting or writing notes of apology (unless your DH thinks it was so bad you should, or the vomiting made a huge mess and was witnessed by loads of digusted people) For the bride, a woman she barely knows bumping into her sister, her then asking your DH if you've a problem, and him replying 'no, sorry she's just had too many shots' would barely warrant a second thought tbh. Going in all mea cupla just draws attention to it and kind of as though you think you were more important than you were.

@5128gap I think I agree with you

Can I just ask…what is a drink problem? Is the fact that I got too drunk a sign that I have an issue with alcohol?