To wonder what this means-fwb?

[SunflowerEvie]

Hi all,

I am currently in a friends with benefits type of situation. I am due to go over to his house tonight but I started my period this morning. I have told him that it has started and his response is ‘it’s not all about the sex baby, we can do other stuff you know’

Does this mean he sees this more than a sexual relationship? I really was not expecting that response from him. I thought he would want to rearrange but I’m actually pleasantly surprised.

It's only fwb if you are both on the same page.

Off topic but there are loads of reasons for spotting between periods and some can be gynie probs like fibroids or cysts so if it keeps up go and see your GP.

How disappointing!

I don't want to shit on any woman that go for this kind of thing.each to their own right.
But I find this gross and him,the start and now this to be a total ick job.
I'm a boring fart so don't ever want to seem like i judge...if I opened door to this id feel sick. But i dont think id have gone in the first place jjst from his earloer texts.so maybe I just can't get my head round fab etiquette.

I was so hoping he would prove us all wrong.
Why are men so fucking painfully predictable 🙄

OMG. How pathetic.

Honestly, I'd probably have said "Oh dear. You certainly didn't think that through, did you? Maybe another time" and I would have turned around and left.

If you were truly entertaining 'feelings' for this man, I suggest you think again. He obviously doesn't think with his brain.

Hi all. I’m home. Thank you for all comments. I feel really stupid but I stayed. We watched a film downstairs for two hours then we went upstairs. Afterwards he gave me some chocolate, made me a cup of coffee and we laid on sofa. He was holding my hand and stroking it. My head is all over the place. I feel like I keep going back to him because I have feelings but it’s really affecting my mental health now. He walked me back home and then kissed me before I left. He then sent a text saying ‘night night baby, big hugs’.

She must have stayed then, given the lack of any further updates after she got there to find him ready and waiting!

Cross posted.

This is the first man I have been with for a few years by choice. I left an abusive relationship and wanted to be single and work on myself. I got to a point of feeling a lot happier but this man came along and I thought we clicked but I know I’m extremely naive.

I can feel myself heading towards a lot of hurt!!

if I told him how I feel no doubt he would not carry on seeing me but at the same time I can’t believe I’ve allowed myself to fall for this. Part of me is telling myself to just stay and carry on as we are because I would miss his company if it stopped but the sensible part of me knows this is a very terrible idea

You know that you need to ditch him. He's using you for sex and you'll end up getting hurt.
Do you have some friends you can hang out with? Family to visit? Pets?

Sorry OP but the image of a man laying seductively on his settee, fag in one hand, willy in the other has given me the ick. Please tell us he wasn't naked.
I hope the sex was mind blowing for you. If it wasn't please give your head a wobble.

Was his penis hanging free for the duration of the film or did he get dressed?

On a serious note - don’t feel stupid. Men like him know how to prey on and manipulate vulnerable women.

You know this isn’t going to end well so you need to step back.

You can tell him how you feel without losing dignity. In fact I think we all need to stop apologizing for daring to 'have feelings'.

I would text something along the lines of.

"Had fun tonight, but just so you know, I am starting to think the FWB situation is running its course for me. I really enjoy being with you and would be up for seeing whether something a bit more committed might work, but if that doesn't feel right for you, I think maybe we need to call it a day with no hard feelings."

No shame in that at all.

@madasawethen I do but for some reason I keep going back to him.

@notangelinajolie He was not naked but had joggers on and it out in one hand. I just went and sat next to him. I did feel awkward. I must say the sex is the best I’ve ever had.. he definitely likes to please I will say

He was also wearing a metal cock ring kind of thing... sorry tmi.

the sex is good but it’s really lacking everything else I want. I think if I’m honest that he does know I have feelings for him even though I haven’t told him that. I’m lying to myself saying that I’m open minded because really I’m not. The more I go and see him the more hurt I feel afterwards

I know the simple solution is to step away but I’m finding it SO hard to do that. I feel ridiculous.

Rather you than me.

Out of curiosity, and feel free to nor answer op if u don't want, but did he instigate anything sexual with you then? Or was he sat with cock in hand for the movie?? Like I am so 🤔😮at😮at him sitting waiting for u with his cock out.

And without wanting to sound mean, do you suffer from self esteem issues? Cause your staying after him being so disrespectful towards suggests you may have a low opinion of yourself/lack of boundaries? You know you can do so much better this this twat, right?!

Sorry, that sounded cutting, but that’s below the bar for me. I hope you had fun, but I’d find it a bit grim.

@Iwantachange so basically I went into the room and he had it out and was playing with it a bit. I was just sort of sat there watching the movie and feeling a bit awkward. He did start stroking my leg. He eventually put it away but then he had another cig and then the movie was finished. He said ‘after this fag I’m going to take a little someone upstairs and fuck the shit out of her’. Basically he doesn’t even use my name. I feel disrespected.
as I mentioned in previous post that it was only a small amount of bleeding I was having so he didn’t care about that at all.

Yes I definitely suffer from self esteem issues. I also have anxiety which I take medication for. I have had terrible experience in a past relationship and he left me thinking I would never be good enough for anybody

I think the texts, kisses, cuddles, hand holding etc is all just to keep me sweet. Nothing more

Omg that's so awful, I am so sorry OP.
Do not talk to him about your feelings as someone else suggested based on his treatment of you, even if he were to want something more serious, he would only fuck up your mental health even more. He doesn't respect you at all. Cut all contact, is the only way to deal with it really. Then be single for. While, try to do freedom programme and get some therapy if u can to deal with the issues ur previous abusive relationship has left you with. You deserve more than this twat!