To wonder what this means-fwb?

[SunflowerEvie]

Hi all,

I am currently in a friends with benefits type of situation. I am due to go over to his house tonight but I started my period this morning. I have told him that it has started and his response is ‘it’s not all about the sex baby, we can do other stuff you know’

Does this mean he sees this more than a sexual relationship? I really was not expecting that response from him. I thought he would want to rearrange but I’m actually pleasantly surprised.

Yeah I agree with you. It's probably mutually beneficial when the woman has children and doesn't want to bring a man home but other than that I can't really see any benefit to the arrangement. It certainly didn't benefit me when I wasted 2 years of my life pining after a fwb in my twenties.

Agree but it doesn't fit the narrative that is so popular on here.

It's deeply depressing how keen people are to cheapen themselves.

And then people wonder why relationship and families are breaking apart more and more.

See also this new trend of having to 'request exclusive status ' when in a relationship rather than it being automatic out of basic respect and common decency.

But these are not popular or trendy viewpoints.

I’ve decided to text him asking what other stuff he has in mind as I’m curious

Good idea @SunflowerEvie

Ergh what a horrible response. Its clear all he wants you for. Dont hook your star on him

I’ll update with his response. Does anybody have that same experience with the implant? This sure can’t be my period

Wasn't in my situation. I had one for 3 years, absolutely did not want a relationship with him, I don't want a relationship with anyone. I ended up getting the ick and ending it 😂

Not sure if my other comment posted. The bleeding is very light/spotting and is brown. I had the implant fitted a week ago. Looking at the dates it can’t possibly be my period and I’m without the usual bad cramps I get!

Yeah, this was probably why it worked for me I suppose. I'm a divorced parent, don't want to bring a man around the house, "stepfamily" situations fill me with horror. Plus I'm good at keeping my emotions in check. If you're young and wanting marriage and kids a FWB is probably a waste of time.

That's a very black and white way of looking at things. It's assuming that everyone wants a committed relationship. Why am I "cheapening" myself (nice misogynistic comment there by the way) because I don't want to force a stepfather on my DS and have a man living and being a useless lump in MY house like many on here seem to do?

It could be because of your implant, are you sure it couldn’t be pregnancy?

i get brown discharge like that when I’m pregnant, it’s been the first sign every time.

Have you done a pregnancy test?

@Staryflight445 thank you. It’s actually stopped now weirdly.

I am definitely not pregnant as I have had a period between the last time we had sex and then had a negative pregnancy test when I went for the implant fitting and haven’t had sex since then

Also I was on the pill before switching to the implant

There's nothing vile about period sex. It's just sex

I was just about to post this. You surely can’t believe that sex is ‘vile’ on a period? Or that no one does it? Plenty of people do.

Bingo. He doesn't mean "let's chat about the meaning of life" or "why don't you tell me all the things that are worrying you and I'll see if I can help." You're just a thing he uses for orgasms. I'm sorry, but that's the brutal truth. You probably mean no more to him than a fleshlight.

When I had the implant, I barely had any periods and certainly nothing you could class as a regular cycle. So yeah, I'd have something very light like you're describing and then nothing for months, not even mood fluctuations like I get with other contraceptives or with no contraceptives. Some people have the opposite and bleed more I believe, but it's not unusual to have few/minimal periods with the implant.

My FWB used to like hanging out with me during these times.

Sometimes we'd have period sex. Sometimes we'd watch films. Sometimes we'd get hammered. Sometimes I'd push him to the brink repeatedly.

But we'd definitely have fun, as friends should do

Thank goodness some people have pointed out there’s nothing wrong with period sex. But maybe it’s more accepted in committed relationships with someone you love, rather than with these so-called friends and buddies.

He has offered to cut my grass tomorrow as it needs doing

This is not what you think it means, either.

I agree with this.

When friends and I would talk about doing everything but sex, it meant oral and hands, but nothing penetrative.

All, calling you baby in a conversation about sex just makes me think one track mind.

Just say 'of course it is' and say I'll see you next week.

It would be lovely if all men could think that way, but .... If they were in a non-FWB maybe, but unfortunately with FWB, it is all about self (which is why many of them crash and burn), the man is thinking about alternatives that will entertain him, not that the OP has just come on, and could be feeling like crap.