To not want a public Jubilee party outside my door?

[Eeksteek]

I freely admit, I’m not into all this Jubilee-palooza. (I’ve no objection, just not feeling the excitement for anything much at the moment). Three of my neighbours have already attached flags to my house, which I think are cheap and tacky, but I said yes because I don’t want to spoil it for them. It’s no big deal.

My NDN wants to have a street party. Other immediate neighbours are up for a celebration of some sort, but lukewarm about a street party as such. She keeps trying to pin us to a time and going on about what are we doing and doing leaflet drops and so on. I’ve said I’m happy with casual drinks, not a public event. This morning she asked if she could put a gazebo outside my house. (Because of the bend, I have a wider bit, which isn’t exactly public and isn’t exactly mine). I said ok, and they already know I ‘might’ be away anyway. Then she was talking about putting it on the local Facebook pages. I asked her not to, saying I didn’t want the whole village turning up outside my front door. She said ok. Then she said she was thinking of printing off jubilee invitations this afternoon and leaflet dropping an unspecified number of people. I’m really uncomfortable with it. I don’t want a party anyway. I definitely don’t want a load of people I don’t know partying on my doorstep, whether I attend or not!!

I asked her not to. I said being just me and my daughter meant I had to take personal safety more seriously than a family and that’s why I wasn’t comfortable with just anyone turning up right outside my house. I feel like I’ve completely spoiled her fun and made myself look like a drama llama. (She’s lovely, and we get on well, but she’s more sociable than me!). She’s said she’ll move it to her driveway, but I feel awkward about it. I don’t mind my neighbours hanging out there, but not the whole street, and it seems to her there’s no real difference.

Was that unreasonable? I accept it’s my issue but I think it’s reasonable in my circumstances. Just trying to get perspectives on whether I should woman up and get over my tighter-than-average privacy boundaries.

Let her move it to her driveway, I think.

If they are wanting to close the street then they need to apply to the council. Would be way to late

I would feel the same. Let her arrange it on her driveway.

I think you have to just suck it up. This is a one off event and some people are very excited about it.

If this happened today then surely it's much too late to expect many people to come as they'll have other plans. (Not saying you're wrong to be against it anyway, but that might alleviate your concern.)

I think YABU to ask her not to invite people via leaflets etc (otherwise whats the point of having one if noone comes)

But YANBU to feel uncomfortable about it being in a gazebo right outside your house. It seems she has solved that issue hough by offering to have it on hers. I would say, issue solved and you should have been more upfront about that being the issue from the beginning. Ah well, hindsight.

As a side, it all seems rather late to be organising a party? Drinks round someone's back garden rather than public party might be easier

You do sound a bit of a drama llama to be honest.

Urgh I feel your pain op. Xmas 2020 the care home along from me had carols belted from speakers - placed outside our front door!! One cf woman sat on the bonnet of my brand new car!!
Make their own plans on their own property.. No need to drag everyone into things!!

Really surprised at the people voting YABU and you have to suck it up. Fuck that shit. You don’t want people there for whatever reason, even if that’s “I don’t drink water on a Saturday on the 6th Wednesday of the month” then no is a compete sentence.

I think street parties are fine for your immediate neighbours. Not randoms.

I'm the jubilee grinch too and I appreciate how you feel being alone with a child too.

If it was one day then fine but it's four days and every street near me is having one on different days. The one that has really pissed me off is closing the street causing a diversion ( applied to council and approved), on Sunday 10 until 10pm! And it's just for the houses in the but they e closed which is fine but 12 Hours!! And the night before school again?!

I'm sick of it all. The whole country looks like a Tory party conference.

Bah jubilee humbug 😤

She’s been bringing it up for weeks and we’ve all been unenthusiastic!

To be clear, I’ve no objection to people I already know partying outside my house. But I don’t want it in any way publicised. It’s specifically that making me uncomfortable.

There’s no question of closing the street. That why they want my bit - it’s wide enough not to obstruct it.

Moving it to her drive way seems sensible.

I doubt anyone who doesn't have a connection to the street is likely to come so try not to worry about it.

They are closing our road all day for a street party - I don't mind really but its a little inconvenient as a) I'll be 40+2 pregnant so having to find somewhere else to park within waddling distance, just in case, & b) it would have been nice to be invited! We only found out from the council putting up a road closure notice on a lamppost.

My arsehole neighbours are having a full on 🤬street part right outside my 🤬 door all day Sunday! They have got the parish council to close the 🤬 road! I'm I'll with cancer and currently having to use a mobility scooter or crutches to get sound following treatment. They are expecting me to move my car and park it on a field so they can have their 🤬 party.

I am praying for it to pour with rain all day Sunday!

Next time don't agree to flags on your house and let her host the village party at her house. It sounds like you will get into trouble as the organiser if an insurance claim is to be made.

Before reading your OP, I was thinking YWBa bitU - it's once every 25 years.....you don't have to join in......etc.etc

I think leafleting anyone who doesn't live in your street is unreasonable, but leafleting people who do live in your street is to be expected, for a Street party - the clue is in the name.
Putting it on to local FB Groups would be VERY unreasonable and asking for trouble.

Not at all unreasonable not to want loads of people outside your door/windows, but unreasonable to cite fears about personal safety. They are neighbours not crime barons!

God, such vitriol. I am sorry you have cancer, but your attitude is poisonous!

Yanbu, photocopy some republican posters off the net, open the windows and stick La Marseillaise on loop, that should do the trick.

@MintyMoocow I have suffered two years of hell from said neighbours! They have made my life almost unliveable and I'm desperately trying to move. They have made me suicidal at several points.

So no thank you I'm not the toxic one! 🤬

If you want to be an antisocial arsehole!

Honestly, it’s maybe 6 hours in 70 years. Go out, or shut your windows and turn the TV up.

That’s a drip feed, obviously if you had said in the first place then my response might have been different.

wind your neck in love. We are all different.

Really, Minty? You didn't get enough info from the neighbours expecting Dobby (who needs a mobility scooter to get around) to park her car in a field? You think that's a reasonable request to a mobility-limited person? Really?

Is it your garden, or not? You don't seem sure, but you certainly can't veto her putting up a gazebo on public land, and I'm not sure how that will impact your privacy.

If you really don't want to be around people, or even have people outside your house when you are inside, go out.