To not want a public Jubilee party outside my door?

[Eeksteek]

I freely admit, I’m not into all this Jubilee-palooza. (I’ve no objection, just not feeling the excitement for anything much at the moment). Three of my neighbours have already attached flags to my house, which I think are cheap and tacky, but I said yes because I don’t want to spoil it for them. It’s no big deal.

My NDN wants to have a street party. Other immediate neighbours are up for a celebration of some sort, but lukewarm about a street party as such. She keeps trying to pin us to a time and going on about what are we doing and doing leaflet drops and so on. I’ve said I’m happy with casual drinks, not a public event. This morning she asked if she could put a gazebo outside my house. (Because of the bend, I have a wider bit, which isn’t exactly public and isn’t exactly mine). I said ok, and they already know I ‘might’ be away anyway. Then she was talking about putting it on the local Facebook pages. I asked her not to, saying I didn’t want the whole village turning up outside my front door. She said ok. Then she said she was thinking of printing off jubilee invitations this afternoon and leaflet dropping an unspecified number of people. I’m really uncomfortable with it. I don’t want a party anyway. I definitely don’t want a load of people I don’t know partying on my doorstep, whether I attend or not!!

I asked her not to. I said being just me and my daughter meant I had to take personal safety more seriously than a family and that’s why I wasn’t comfortable with just anyone turning up right outside my house. I feel like I’ve completely spoiled her fun and made myself look like a drama llama. (She’s lovely, and we get on well, but she’s more sociable than me!). She’s said she’ll move it to her driveway, but I feel awkward about it. I don’t mind my neighbours hanging out there, but not the whole street, and it seems to her there’s no real difference.

Was that unreasonable? I accept it’s my issue but I think it’s reasonable in my circumstances. Just trying to get perspectives on whether I should woman up and get over my tighter-than-average privacy boundaries.

A proper street party, in the middle of the street, wouldn’t bother me (although I wouldn’t go). It’s the fact that it’s on the bit right out side my house that does. And I’d be happy with that with people I know. It’s the ‘all welcome outside Eeksteek’s house, 4, Privet Drive’ that I don’t like.

I said being just me and my daughter meant I had to take personal safety more seriously than a family and that’s why I wasn’t comfortable with just anyone turning up right outside my house.

Eh?

Because of the bend, I have a wider bit, which isn’t exactly public and isn’t exactly mine

You're not being totally honest here, as all land is owned by somebody. If it's not yours, then it will be council owned (unless the road is private, which is more unusual). So it'll be public.

You can't object to people having a small party on a public road unless their behaviour is anti-social or causing you harm etc. Which doesn't sound like the case here - it's just a neighbourhood street party.

Your comments on safety are overkill imo. The only people who will be at a neighbourhood street party will be your neighbours, and they already know where you live.

That wasn’t me - My neighbour is lovely and we get along well!

What are you regretting saying yes to? Them having bunting on their house or something else?

Thank God I'm Scottish. I genuinely didn't even know what date it is before this thread. 😂

For those PPs who are disabled and having their roads closed, it may be helpful to know that the street closure regulations explicitly say that access must be maintained at all times for emergency vehicles and the disabled. Marshall’s need to be appointed to remove barriers as needed and a section of the roadway needs to be kept clear. Hope that helps x

If it's in the street, then you really have no say in it.
I think you are being paranoid, especially for just 1 day of happiness for all involved

Thanks! Unfortunately as this is all organised by my neighbours who hate me I doubt very much they will follow this sadly. They routinely deliberately block my front gate to make me accessing my home as difficult as possible. They would take great pleasure in making me suffer and watching me struggle.

Come to Scotland for the weekend, there’s some sort of teddies tea party at the local church and that’s it. Bunting is certainly not a thing let alone anything else.

It's far too late to get a street closed, the deadline was weeks ago. I'm pretty indifferent myself but I wouldn't stop others having fun

@Octomore it’s really not clear who owns it. It’s not a foot way, it’s not part of the highway. It’s always seemed intentionally ambiguous to me. The neighbours house is not visible on the other side.

That's part of the pavement. It just happens to be wider than elsewhere.

You say "it isn't exactly mine", but it's not yours at all. In any way.

Are you upstairs or in a flat? If that's your upstairs and they would be smoking and eating smelly egg sandwiches outside your living room window then I can see your point.

I don't live in the UK (but am a British citizen), and am watching all this Jubilee stuff unfold with interest. It really does seem to me that the idea is being pushed onto the population that 70 year of HMQ MUST be celebrated.

From the outside, it looks so odd juxtaposed with shocking headlines about food poverty, inflation, decimated NHS, overpriced fuel, Tory party hypocrisy, travel chaos, Prince Andrew, terrible visit by William and Kate to the Caribbean, Harry & Meghan flouncing and throwing potshots from California.

It's just all so disjointed and disunited. I can't believe there's literally a coach made of gold being readied for parading, when there's such ambivalence towards the RF and people struggling to heat their homes, feed their families, receive basic medical care and some idiot in 10 Downing Street who seems to be getting away with murder.

What's going on in the UK, fgs???? Where is the leadership, the common sense, the perspective and wisdom?

We all know these parties aren't going to be 1952 style jobs don't we? More like half naked drunken yobs smoking weed and pissing up against people's garden walls and cars. Not to mention the blasting music, fights, noisy kids, out of control dogs and endless arguing.

God there's some miseries about! It's in the street outside your house, not in your front garden. Surely you can get as involved as you want to be, or not. Presumably they won't still be partying at midnight?

It’s only once every 70 years. Maybe be glad for other people enjoying themselves.

Gosh you are miserable. It's one day in 70 years. It's not all about you!

I don’t understand the hype personally? I’d be exactly the same. I’m not anti royal or anything but I can’t stand street parties or big cheesy gatherings. That’s just me lol

@Mariposista whats so exciting about it? Genuinely want to know. Because I think I must have missed something?

Some people in the village had street parties during lockdown. (I can't even remember why tbh!) So it feels like not that long ago i was reading on here about people being shamed on FB for not wanting to join in with street partys.

I agree with a pp - there's so much anti monarchy sentiment in this country - until it involves having a few beers/wine.

It's just an excuse with us to buy nice themed food, to decorate and add a bit of brightness to life. It's a nice bit if drama with the Gold carriage and the armed forces seem to get something out if it. They may need happy memories and a Royal family to give them medals if we go to war.

I can't be doing with fake street parties myself.

You are correct it is being pushed on us by media and capitalism. I don't think anyone would be bothering otherwise it's a bit like the NHS CLAP.

I wouldn't want one either and I'd have said "No" every time it was raised. Mind you, I'd also have pointed out quite early on that I am a republican and would only celebrate the abolition of such a ridiculous institution. I think that might have pissed on their chips enough to make them leave me alone.

@Eeeksteek, I think you’ve made a perfectly reasonable request. Because of the world we live in, if it is just you and your DD at home you do need to be more vigilant about security. Regardless of who owns that but if pavement, it is very close to your house, and it’s completely understandable that you wouldn’t want drunken strangers hanging out there. Seems to me that you’ve done your best to engage (bunting etc) but this is a step too far and you are quite right to say you’re uncomfortable with it. YANBU at all.