To not want a public Jubilee party outside my door?

[Eeksteek]

I freely admit, I’m not into all this Jubilee-palooza. (I’ve no objection, just not feeling the excitement for anything much at the moment). Three of my neighbours have already attached flags to my house, which I think are cheap and tacky, but I said yes because I don’t want to spoil it for them. It’s no big deal.

My NDN wants to have a street party. Other immediate neighbours are up for a celebration of some sort, but lukewarm about a street party as such. She keeps trying to pin us to a time and going on about what are we doing and doing leaflet drops and so on. I’ve said I’m happy with casual drinks, not a public event. This morning she asked if she could put a gazebo outside my house. (Because of the bend, I have a wider bit, which isn’t exactly public and isn’t exactly mine). I said ok, and they already know I ‘might’ be away anyway. Then she was talking about putting it on the local Facebook pages. I asked her not to, saying I didn’t want the whole village turning up outside my front door. She said ok. Then she said she was thinking of printing off jubilee invitations this afternoon and leaflet dropping an unspecified number of people. I’m really uncomfortable with it. I don’t want a party anyway. I definitely don’t want a load of people I don’t know partying on my doorstep, whether I attend or not!!

I asked her not to. I said being just me and my daughter meant I had to take personal safety more seriously than a family and that’s why I wasn’t comfortable with just anyone turning up right outside my house. I feel like I’ve completely spoiled her fun and made myself look like a drama llama. (She’s lovely, and we get on well, but she’s more sociable than me!). She’s said she’ll move it to her driveway, but I feel awkward about it. I don’t mind my neighbours hanging out there, but not the whole street, and it seems to her there’s no real difference.

Was that unreasonable? I accept it’s my issue but I think it’s reasonable in my circumstances. Just trying to get perspectives on whether I should woman up and get over my tighter-than-average privacy boundaries.

We have put up bunting as my neighbour bought loads and suggested as a row of houses it might look nice if we all have it up. There are not, as far as I know any parties in our street, though individual homes might be having them.
We are having a quiet family time at home, just having a bbq Friday as it's meant to be nice and an afternoon tea Saturday as it's been something I've been thinking of doing for dinner for a while and that seemed as good a time as any.
For those saying people are being grumpy etc for not wanting to have a party, we have lost a relative recently and don't feel up to being all jolly.
YANBU op for not wanting it right outside your house especially as you are not going, but if the land there isn't yours, there isn't much you can do about others setting it up there. Well, apart from not lending them your gazebo

God this thread makes me miserable to be British. Moan Moan Moan. (I know, the irony eh)

I am not a royalist but it makes me feel really happy to see people coming together and having parties and trying to spread some joy, especially after the last few years.
Go out have fun, get drunk and happy everyone :)

That would be my worst nightmare, but then I suffer from agoraphobia so can't cope with anything like that at all.
I'm going into my shell for the next four days!!

That sounds very selfish of your neighbours. @Dobbysgotthesocks.

It was enough for Dobby to say she had cancer and mobility issues. I think that’s many times worse than a bit of rain on her neighbours. You’re the poisonous one, not her.

There have been so many arguments on local facebook pages - people trying to set up events, people being unkind.
I just feel it is easier to hide away and do my own thing than be a part of that.
It's great for those that it brings together in a pleasant way (as it should do) but sadly it's not like that everywhere. People can be cruel and unkind and sometimes events like this bring out the worst in people.

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I do live in the UK alphons and looking at it from the inside I agree with everything you've written.

The whole bloody thing is a farce in my opinion but apparently, if you voice such opinions here, according to MN, it's because you're an envious misery and object to people having a bit of fun.

I'm none of those things, just a realist who doesn't get what's to celebrate about a very rich woman living a very long life when people are having to use food banks to feed themselves and their children, and when next winter the old and vulnerable will be struggling to heat their home well enough to stop them from freezing to death.

All the 'fun' and celebrations isn't going to make the poverty in our country go away but that's all right, we can watch the Queen on our tellies riding about in her golden coach, tug our combined forelock while we raise a cheer.

Bit harsh expecting the op (who has cancer and mobility issues) to be confined to her home all day with her car in a field so they can have their little party. If people want to have street parties, crack on but why on earth should the entire road be inconvenienced? Do it in your own garden.

Completely agree.

Calling someone poisonous because they don't want to be deprived of their mobility and be told to park their car in a random field somewhere, when recovering from cancer care, just so someone else can hold a party outside their door where their car should be parked.

What sort of person even thinks that way, far less has the brass neck to say it out loud? Bloody horrible.

Don’t worry - the weather looks like it’s going to be dire. So all the royalist weirdos will be sat eating damp coronation chicken and pretending to have a good time.

Lots of people conflating me as OP and the poor lady with mobility issues. No one is closing the road here, I just didn’t want to ‘host’ a public event right outside my door. I was happy with a private one. It’s not happening, because my neighbour is lovely and said she would move it when I said was uncomfortable with it. Everybody’s happy, I just wondered if I was being precious!

It’s fifty fifty, so about as inconclusive as it gets!

People might urinate in your front garden. Don't agree to this. People can book halls or take it to a park.

Don't move your car for these rubbish people.
What is there to celebrate? The elite of this country don't care about working and middle classes! So delusional.

It's a street party that are happening eveywhere at the moment.

I very much doubt people with their afternoon teas and scones with clotted cream, will be urinating in peoples gardens.

Once every 25 years? How do you work that out?

The last one was ten years ago, then ten years before that, prior to that it was 1977.

Anyway, there might not be another jubilee. If Charles becomes king this year he will be 95 for his silver jubilee, so a chance it won’t happen.

Who do you think will turn up?

Massive drip feed!

That's not the OP. It was another poster.

Wind YOUR neck in. Some of us don't like unneccesary rudeness. Not Dobbygotsocks and not yours.

I think quite the opposite.

Imo there's a world of difference between an event for residents and an event to which anyone's invited. I think it's entirely reasonable not to want a load of randoms pitching up immediately outside your house for a party.

You’re the one with the poor attitude here I’m afraid.

Yep, it's bread and bloody circuses, with a side order of jingoistic claptrap.

Everybody should join in.the fun.or at least not interfere.