@Daisy95
We are virtually back to 'normal' - apart from some obvious personality changes which materialised after H's surgery. There are days when I can't stand to be in the same building - never mind room, as him. He can be so aggressive and nasty. Other days he's his usual self. He has regained most of his weight and has a lovely tan, but unfortunately he has kept his new longer hair doo. He has nearly destroyed the house a couple of times and ruined a freezer full of food. (Left the grill on with the grill door closed, left food in the oven and gone out which was in flames when he got back, left the freezer door open.) He also flooded the bathroom where the water went through the tiled floor and poured through the light fitting and into the kitchen. We didn't know until he walked into the kitchen and slipped and fell into inch deep water.
He forgets vocabulary and gets frustrated describing the words he wants to use. He has poor short term memory and shuffles about looking for stuff that is in his hand. Some days he laughs at his own actions - other days he is a raging bull. It's not just me at the end of his temper - now lots of family and friends have experienced it and that makes me feel a bit better in a warped way. He always apologises profusely afterwards but I would rather he tried harder to reign it in as he appears to immediately recognise when he has been a bit of a 'bar steward'. He insists he can't control his 'explosions'.
We are still in separate bedrooms - which is fabulous. I have never slept so well. We are both enjoying our independence in that respect.
H has used his cement mixer and built a small wall around our daughter's front garden. He's in the process of collecting large cobble stones to sink into concrete in front of our garden wall (currently grass - dogs like to 'dump' there).
He's been to our caravan in Northumberland a few times - on his own and with family. I have not been in case I'm needed for babysitting (granddaughter aged two and half) in case the twins arrive.
He is exercising daily on all his new gym equipment and is trying to persuade me to use it. (He's not been fishing yet but has purchased a license. He has also added up how much he has spent since May and has told me to stop spending 🤔)
My daughter is now 36 wks pregnant with twins - she's being induced next Thursday. She saw a heart consultant (Dr B, at the royal house up high) today. She had an echocardiogram (she has sinus tachycardia) which was all good. Her 24 hr tape results which she had 3 months ago are lost. The consultant also said that he would organise testing for the whole family in case what happened to H is hereditary. She's been given the all clear with regards to labouring with twins. Twin 1 is very low down and head first. Twin 2 is transverse (been breech up until Tuesday night).
I am no longer working - which is great. It was the only thing keeping my brain ticking over though, so I'll have to take up crosswords or something to keep the brain alert.
I'm on standby for the arrival of the twins - every time my phone rings, the adrenaline rush makes me itch. I have knitted numerous blankets, cardigans, hats, mittens, bootees and newborn photo props. When I've finished twin things I am moving onto autumn/winter cardigans and jackets for our other grandchildren.
We are sorting out our savings and pensions, looking into making wills and putting our properties into our children's names.
We are looking forward to Christmas and are planning time blocks for large family holidays next year. I have contacted wider family we haven't seen in a good while and I am organising gatherings and planning on keeping in contact/visiting a little more regularly.
I realise that because we were so set in our ways/routines before this health scare, I was quite isolated/insular. We both enjoy the company of our wider family/close family friends and have such great times together when we attend the infrequent births/deaths marriages that I am determined to get out and live a little more. (Unless we all decide we can't stand each other in larger doses.)
We are making the effort to go out on most evenings wining/dining and local walks. Hopefully this is not short lived. We tried before and it tailed off.
We are at our daughter's this weekend (twins) for a large family gathering (unless the twins have other ideas).
We have faced our own mortality lately and in the meantime we want to just live.
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