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My family is being harassed by a 13 year old girl

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Backachesandheadaches · 27/05/2022 15:27

This sounds absolutely bizarre because I KNOW she is a child and she SHOULDNT have this much power but here we are.

DS (12) had a friend we'll call her Hannah (not her real name) who is 13 they always had a turbulent friendship which involved Hannah abusing my son physically/mentally and emotionally, on a daily basis and then crying when he would react at her.
Anyway they fell out for good after she disclosed a horrific secret of my DS's one of which is true and has affected him massively.

Ever since my family have dealt with graffiti on our property and all over the area we live, random bouts of knock a door run between the hours of 10pm and 11pm all times having woken our youngest child (4) and he becoming hysterical through fear, we have dealt with Hannah and her friend let's call her Emma (not real name again) shouting obscenities at the house when windows are open, we are STILL dealing with Hannah and Emma prank calling MY phone number on a regular basis (over 60 calls) and acting like idiots over the phone, Hannahs mum has tried to have me done for harassment (?!) This was counter reported by myself as we are not causing any harassment and are in fact essentially sitting on the back lines watching it happen to us. We have had Hannahs mother call the police maliciously and LIE to the police telling them me and the kids were being beaten (not true and police saw it wasn't) and today we have been PULLED by the police on a 'tip off' made by Hannah and Emma that my partner is driving under the influence of alcohol and drugs (both tests were negative)

What can we actually do about this? I report every single incident to the police and absolutely NOTHING Is done about it! We have blocked all their phone numbers, we are being FORCED to move out of our home of the last 13 years due to this! We move by the end of the year.

Nobody is taking us seriously, we are being reported maliciously left right and center for things that are categorically untrue and false and are all malicious.

I know it's not the Hannahs mother as she no longer drives past my house as the police told her to stay away from me due to her harassment, but her daughter and her daughters friend are constantly walking past my house on a daily basis which is how they've snapped a photo of my partners car to make the malicious call.

We are essentially trapped in this and have no way out. Police aren't being helpful, we can't go and sort it ourselves (as tempting as it is) what the hell do we do?

We are DESPERATE

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Vimto1991 · 28/05/2022 18:50

@Nothappyatwork oh wow! My ordeal was 20 years ago so very much in the past, I guess it really depends on how forceful the other parents are! I can’t believe they got a harsher sentence despite being the innocent party?? Mental. Thankfully ours never went to police in the end and god knows what they are doing with their life now.

ThreeLittleDots · 28/05/2022 19:11

Put big CCTV stickers in your windows, get better cameras - multiple ones - and FGS change your mobile number - life's too short.

InFiveMins · 28/05/2022 19:25

Honestly, I'd ignore it. Don't react at all - the more you react, the more they'll enjoy carrying it on. She's 13, she'll move on and get bored within a fortnight.

Backachesandheadaches · 28/05/2022 19:41

@InFiveMins this has been going on the best part of 2 months she hasn't got bored yet.

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PussInBin20 · 28/05/2022 19:57

Contact the police again and tell them you want to make a formal complaint of harassment against her and say you want to give a statement or you will make a complaint if they don’t take it seriously.
say you want her formally interviewed for Harassment.
I’m not saying they can definitely prosecute her but you should be able to list all of the wrongdoings in a statement. Of course it is better if you have Doorbell CCTV or someone else can corroborate any of it.

LIZS · 28/05/2022 20:02

Have to admit I had assumed it was going on longer than 2 months. I suspect school/police thought it would blow over in time, so you need to report it at every incident making clear the impact it has on your ds particularly. Have you spoken to gp at all in this period?

NrlySp · 28/05/2022 20:02

Surely this is stalking? I would suggest keeping a written log of what’s happened. Get some free legal advice.
Have you spoken to the school?

Macaroni1924 · 28/05/2022 20:10

Not sure if someone else has suggested this but do you happen to have any neighbours close by that have witnessed it so that it’s not just your word against hers.

momtoboys · 29/05/2022 18:13

Backachesandheadaches · 27/05/2022 19:27

@Newmumatlast my son was a victim of something truly horrific.

I am so sorry your son has to suffer something so awful.

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