My family is being harassed by a 13 year old girl

[Backachesandheadaches]

This sounds absolutely bizarre because I KNOW she is a child and she SHOULDNT have this much power but here we are.

DS (12) had a friend we'll call her Hannah (not her real name) who is 13 they always had a turbulent friendship which involved Hannah abusing my son physically/mentally and emotionally, on a daily basis and then crying when he would react at her.
Anyway they fell out for good after she disclosed a horrific secret of my DS's one of which is true and has affected him massively.

Ever since my family have dealt with graffiti on our property and all over the area we live, random bouts of knock a door run between the hours of 10pm and 11pm all times having woken our youngest child (4) and he becoming hysterical through fear, we have dealt with Hannah and her friend let's call her Emma (not real name again) shouting obscenities at the house when windows are open, we are STILL dealing with Hannah and Emma prank calling MY phone number on a regular basis (over 60 calls) and acting like idiots over the phone, Hannahs mum has tried to have me done for harassment (?!) This was counter reported by myself as we are not causing any harassment and are in fact essentially sitting on the back lines watching it happen to us. We have had Hannahs mother call the police maliciously and LIE to the police telling them me and the kids were being beaten (not true and police saw it wasn't) and today we have been PULLED by the police on a 'tip off' made by Hannah and Emma that my partner is driving under the influence of alcohol and drugs (both tests were negative)

What can we actually do about this? I report every single incident to the police and absolutely NOTHING Is done about it! We have blocked all their phone numbers, we are being FORCED to move out of our home of the last 13 years due to this! We move by the end of the year.

Nobody is taking us seriously, we are being reported maliciously left right and center for things that are categorically untrue and false and are all malicious.

I know it's not the Hannahs mother as she no longer drives past my house as the police told her to stay away from me due to her harassment, but her daughter and her daughters friend are constantly walking past my house on a daily basis which is how they've snapped a photo of my partners car to make the malicious call.

We are essentially trapped in this and have no way out. Police aren't being helpful, we can't go and sort it ourselves (as tempting as it is) what the hell do we do?

We are DESPERATE

Look at Argos, they have two older versions on special offer.

I was a little shit once upon a time, me and a schoolfriend thought it was funny to hammer on another girls door and run away (it wasn't)

Her mother chased us down the street and frog marched me all the way home and gave my mother the short shrift. I never did it again. Not because of my mother but I got a distinct "don't mess with me" impression from hers and it worked.

If you have a spare tablet or old phone you can download a monitor app, some are free, some you can pay for or upgrade for features. We use the Alfred app as a video monitor in the home. It has a low light feature and records for about 8 hours I think.

Bear in mind for a Ring to record it will require a subscription. Around £28 a year IIRC.

Her mother chased us down the street and frog marched me all the way home

except these days the Police would probably prosecute the mother for false imprisonment and /or assault. Can’t allow common sense to break out!

The mother sounds like a head case and sadly it seems this has reflected on her daughter.

File a subject access request with the Police to get a copy of the reports they have made about you. I'm presuming they did it anonymously so it will contain none of their personal information only yours, the Police record everything and will have a recording of your partner being falsely accused of driving under the influence, especially if you get on it asap, you will be able to tell if its a child or an adult on the recording so you will know for definite whos doing it (www.gov.uk/copy-of-police-records)

If the family have any money I would go to a no win no fee solicitor and say that you want to sue them for defamation for making false reports about you

We had this a few years back... I invested in cctv after our car was vandalised, I was spat at in the park etc etc
Vile creature had an awful home life with a parent who thought she was amazing

Any way cctv solved it... she nice then nothing.
Apparently 4 years on she's been sectioned twice and failed all her exams and it's sad.

Wow what a helpful comment

I think you need to read the OP - it’s the mother in on the harassment

Chiming in with those who say to report the family to social services. There is clearly something not quite right going on there. It may be what is needed until you can leave.

What did the police say last time you reported it? Surely they can give you some guidance?

I don't have more practical advice, but a look around Victim Support's services may be useful. There are specific elements that relate to children being on the end of crime or harassment, for example, and anti social behaviour is something that they reference.

I think I'd be drastically cutting down on the birthday presents so I could afford the ring doorbell in your position. If nothing else it may be a deterrent. Sorry you are going through this.

Have to be careful with this nowadays - just laying a hand on this girl's jacket could be deemed an assault .and then OP would be the one in trouble.

Plus, some of the 13 year-olds round here are bigger than I am (not fatter, but certainly taller and fitter). No way I could frogmarch them round to their mothers. And if the girl got violent (she sounds feral) what then? OP gets thumped/kicked but can't hit back because "this is a child"?

I was wondering that. If it had a power of arrest and penal notice attached to it (unusual in the first instance), a breach of the restraining order would have immediate criminal sanctions

I really feel for you, Im in a similar situation with a man I helped out once, he has made my life a living nightmare, its truely horriffic what someone can get away with.
The police are useless.
Im so so sorry this is happening to you and your family.

This one is £8 a month. Is that any good?

Are they in school together? Talk to the school.

call social services about them?

Wired require transformers to fit at additional cost and can be tricky if OP doesn't have an existing wired bell.
Also, again, factor in the monthly/annual cost for recordings otherwise its useless.

Really?!!

As you’re moving I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

In the meantime I would not get into a tit for tat game.
They’re trying to wind you up because they know it’s working - if you don’t rise to it then they won’t get any satisfaction (easier said than done).
Try and ignore them the best you can.
Get a ring doorbell so you have physical evidence and show this to the police if you need to call them.

You say it’s the 13 year old but I think the mum is to blame in this one.

If you can get proof you can tell mum you are pressing charges against her DD as you have a recording of her graffitiing your home etc.

Are you doing an exchange or are you moving into a completely new house?
I’d be worried they will cause issues for you when moving.

That is awful, @Philisophigal

You could try contacting your MP. Something similar happened to a friend of mine a few years ago, police completely uninterested until the MP got involved.

I'd be calling social services, a girl of 13 is wandering the streets at 10/11pm, is abusive violent and antagonistic that would say to me there's something else going on even if it's just a lack of supervision. Call the council re-antisocial behaviour (they have more power than the police believe it or not especially if they live in a council house etc)
And absolutely no reaction to anything from any of you ever, just blanket ignore. Log everything preferably on film phone/security camera.
How long do you have untill you move?