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To not have any enthusiasm for the Jubilee weekend and want to escape it

163 replies

springsally · 23/05/2022 15:44

AIBU? It just feels like it doesn't fit with everything going on right now, especially the cost of living crisis. I don't want to wave a flag for someone on a golden throne (and I do like the Queen normally) and I don't want a street party. With the cost of living crisis going on and families facing real misery it just feels very outdated and odd to me and I dislike seeing Union Jacks everywhere too.

OP posts:
weegiemum · 23/05/2022 22:31

We're spending the weekend going to visit fil who is in a home with severe dementia. We'll be taking him out for the day and going for lunch.

The downside of this is we're going from Glasgow, where there's not much going on that we can see, to Northern Ireland where it's a bit more of a big deal, for some people.

We'll just be focusing on dh's dad. Hoping things haven't gone downhill too much.

SomersetONeil · 23/05/2022 22:34

childofthecorn · 23/05/2022 22:12

Gosh, why are so many posters spitting hate and vitriol about having a bit of a knees up? Learn to live and let go a little and don't bloody police or nastily envy other people their ability to congregate and enjoy and eat trifle or whatever they want to do with an extra day off, which by the way all are entirely voluntary and ignorable. Fucking hell, lighten up!

This with 🔔 🔔 🔔 on!

Some people just love to be miserable. And insist on bringing others down with them. Confused

It will all be over soon OP. Wishing you strength and resilience until then.

PaddingtonBearStareAgain · 23/05/2022 22:36

Rosewaterblossom · 23/05/2022 17:33

My local town have put up flags and I thought it looked lovely. Other countries display their flags and people don't get up in arms about it!

Exactly

easyday · 23/05/2022 22:51

Wouldn't know anything was happening where I live (very family oriented nice part of London). Quite surprised nothing has been organised in the local park to be honest. I'm travelling that day anyway.

Eeksteek · 23/05/2022 22:51

I’m distinctly underwhelmed, tbh. Normally I’d say it’s what you make it, do your own thing, but I can’t spare any cash to participate, really, and I can’t afford to go out/away and I really don’t like crowds. My neighbours have already strung flags all over the street (which I think look cheap and tacky) and are all having parties, so I won’t really have any choice, and I have to keep a cheerful face on for the kiddo.

I completely accept it’s me. My personal circumstances suck at the moment, and I’d rather just put my head down and trudge through Having to put on extra cheeriness feels like a lot of work just at the moment. The kiddo wouldn’t notice if everyone else wasn’t living it up so much, and then I wouldn’t have to make so much effort!

Blossomtoes · 23/05/2022 23:03

Ifailed · 23/05/2022 21:07

I'd rather be ruled by someone who is born to rule over someone who thinks they were born to rule.

I doubt there's a difference.

There is.

LakieLady · 23/05/2022 23:13

CuriousCatfish · 23/05/2022 17:55

Buses are often Sunday service on Bank holidays so don't usually start until later on in the day.

How funny, @Ifailed, I was just going to google to see if I could find a pic of tne NF at the Battle of Lewisham with all their union flags.

After that day, I'd prefer never to see one again, tbh.

LakieLady · 23/05/2022 23:21

saveforthat · 23/05/2022 17:49

@mmmmmmghturep Where are you in the UK that buses don't run on bank holidays?

No buses here on Sundays or bank holidays, SE, 50 miles from London but only 7 miles from a city.

The main bus routes are running, but I can't get a bus into town to get one!

BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 23/05/2022 23:31

I don't know what we're supposed to be celebrating. A pampered elderly woman who's family have too much money and privilege?

I expect the locals will be putting up a bouncy castle, getting drunk and smoking weed everywhere. Let's hope there's no fights.

Blossomtoes · 23/05/2022 23:32

BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 23/05/2022 23:31

I don't know what we're supposed to be celebrating. A pampered elderly woman who's family have too much money and privilege?

I expect the locals will be putting up a bouncy castle, getting drunk and smoking weed everywhere. Let's hope there's no fights.

I’m celebrating the longest reign in British history.

Indiana2021 · 23/05/2022 23:38

I've genuinely not heard anyone I know even mentioning it. I'm in Scotland which probably makes a difference.
Come up here OP😉

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 24/05/2022 01:25

I'm not aware of anything going off close to where I live, however, it's my birthday and I can guarantee it will be ruined by loud music, drunken behaviour and annoying twats. That's what I object to, rather than the fact it's the jubilee.

Legrandsophie · 24/05/2022 08:03

ScholesPanda · 23/05/2022 20:58

Oh come off it OP. If there wasn't a Jubilee on you wouldn't be able to shamelessly virtue signal about how much you care about people who are struggling, and how it makes you so much better than the selfish dolts who are just treating it as an excuse to enjoy themselves.
I'm quite sure you'll enjoy every minute of it.

This x1000000

How Will anyone know what a good anti-monarchist I am unless I beat on the fun of others?

Also, the pretence that only the wealthy middle classes celebrate the Jubilee while the starving poor stare hungrily at them. Must tell all my proudly working class family who have spent ages making stuff for their street party.

Stomacharmeleon · 24/05/2022 08:03

I am going to enjoy it as it's my sons 18th and I also have a bit of a funny relationship with the queen. She reminds me of my Nan who has only been dead a couple of years and who I was really close to. She spoke with such reverence about her and the way the royal family where very much ' seen' during the 2WW.
So on that note I am raising her very old chipped glass for her majesty....

I also don't understand why we have such an odd relationship with our flag. No other country views theirs with such a shame. Or having a bit of pride in where we live.

onthefencesitter · 24/05/2022 11:05

@Stomacharmeleon probably because we are a united kingdom where one of the constituent countries, scotland has a significant part of the population who want to leave. Northern Ireland also looking shaky now that Sinn Fein are the majority party.

DH and I personally identify more as Londoners rather than Brits. DH also identifies as a European.I guess thats why I am not getting British citizenship even though I have indefinite leave to remain and intend to settle permanently in London given that we own property here and our jobs, lives, family are also here. I feel weird being British and celebrating the Queen when my home country (ex British colony) was abandoned by the British in WW2 and the British lost us in 1 week. My grandfather was forced to carry bombs for the Japanese and i guess its a miracle he wasn't blown to smithereens. But it wasn't till the 1960s that we managed to gain independence cos the British came back right after the war. Of course that is in the past, so we should move on from it, but it is times like the Platinum Jubilee that some people are not moving on from it, they are still play acting that they are an empire with a queen and celebrating their monarchy the way an empire would. They can play act and pretend of course, we are all entitled to our own fantasies.

Iputthetrampintrampoline · 24/05/2022 12:01

I have no interest either OP. Round our way the whole place seemed to have lost their minds. Whilst I appreciate the Queens reign and wish her well she was not elected,She fell into the post by birth and its been the only life she has known, I do not see the royal family as keepers of morals and srandards or demi gods. My dd is 10 and is involved in lots of things with school to celebrate and her Guides group and is excited and thats ok with me but for me its not even a day off as I am working!!!! I hadly think, and this is personal to me and my view but this rule britannia and singing the praises of great britain is totally false,It is hardly great anymore,infact it is getting more like the worlds dumping ground every passing day. We have goone through a horrid few years and now a horrid time regarding the cost of living crisis for many people it is relentless for many the struggle to survive let alone have time to mentally regroup and adjust without spending millions more on something that is hardly essential and an excuse for most people to have a piss up and bbq with their mates,just seems pointless to me,,not withstanding the fact that we watched the Queen sit on her own at her husbands funeral whilst the Government were breaking every rule going ...have people forgotten how badly treated she was when the rules of Government shit on her from a great height?? Nah not for me ,,,great britain is fading so fast......

Silvercatowner · 24/05/2022 14:48

Rosewaterblossom · 23/05/2022 15:59

What's wrong with seeing Union Jack's everywhere? 🤷🏼‍♀️

I hate them. So many connotations. Extreme right, football violance, dysfunctional privileged family.

ifonly4 · 24/05/2022 14:55

OP, I understand where you're coming from OP, but life goes on. I think many people need an excuse to celebrate, make themselves a nice tea or meet up with friends or family. I'm working on Sunday and DH on call whole of jubilee celebrations - we won't be able to park on our drive or road as there's a jubilee party and we'll need the car, but I'm not going to deny the neighbours that.

SarahSissions · 24/05/2022 15:35

Fine, go into work and don’t take the bank holiday then 🤷🏻‍♀️ You don’t have to party

MayDaze · 24/05/2022 16:14

SarahSissions · 24/05/2022 15:35

Fine, go into work and don’t take the bank holiday then 🤷🏻‍♀️ You don’t have to party

In my case that's impossible because other people have to be there in order for me to work I'm a cleaner and all my clients are away or busy.

So loss of money isn't a huge amount of fun in the current climate, especially to celebrate a very rich person.

Everyone else can do what they wish, but I personally am allowed to be a bit pissed off at losing money.

FoiledByTheInsect · 24/05/2022 18:49

Silvercatowner · 24/05/2022 14:48

I hate them. So many connotations. Extreme right, football violance, dysfunctional privileged family.

Well said. The Jubilee tripe is the British equivalent of kim jong-un worship. Except you in the UK have a choice, to call the RF out for what it is (a symbol of patriarchal racist capitalist filth). You have a choice, to demand better, and the North Koreans do not have that choice.

Shame on this stinking dying empire.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 24/05/2022 19:02

I intend to celebrate being British to the hilt. Half-term week with the DC, a boat trip to a seabird colony around the beautiful coasts of this wonderful island nation of ours, fish and chips at the seaside, seeing what nature and wildlife we can spot, a mountain hike, and a shopping trip to pick up some holiday clothes for the summer. DH and me will probably pick up a nice frothy beer at a good old-fashioned English pub, and will doubtless, as we always do, meet and talk to a variety of lovely people.

Life is full of joy and so is this nation. Living here makes us very lucky for many reasons. And one of them is not a nauseating, jingoistic hangover from the empire, nor an obscenely privileged family who stand as a reminder that economic divides exist and the glass ceiling will do its best to keep you firmly in the status you came from. That's when they're not abusing that very significant privilege, as some of them have demonstrably done.

I can't convince myself that outside the drum-beating, flag-waving establishment media there is really still much appetite for this. Times have changed. In many ways, that's a good thing, in others, not so good. But some things (waves on the shore, wind in the woods, the institution of the pub and the goodwill of strangers), are blessedly constant. We don't need to look to a socially-constructed 'Queen' or an anachronistic farce of a system to deliver that.

Binsk · 24/05/2022 19:07

We're off on holiday to escape the flags, street parties, bunting... whatever fresh new hell is thought up to celebrate. 😁
Couldn't care less about the jubilee, not especially hyped up about the fact I was born on this particular land formation instead of one further away, and being British by dint of that. Especially when our government is letting so many people suffer in a so-called first world country. We're all for the extra bank holidays though.

DSGR · 24/05/2022 19:11

We can’t wait. We don’t care about the jubilee but we love a street party, a fete, a gathering. Some people are so miserable!

PaddingtonBearStareAgain · 24/05/2022 19:13

Well said. The Jubilee tripe is the British equivalent of kim jong-un worship. Except you in the UK have a choice, to call the RF out for what it is (a symbol of patriarchal racist capitalist filth). You have a choice, to demand better, and the North Koreans do not have that choice.

Shame on this stinking dying empire

Heard it all now. Britain is absolutely nothing like N Korea FFS.

Are you always prone to exagerating so much?

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