To stay at conference hotel alone

[norfolkbroads]

In a few weeks I am going to a conference/weekend event related to a hobby of mine. It's just over an hour away from where I live with my parents (I'm early 20s) while I'm saving to move out. The event lasts a couple of days and I had originally planned to drive back and forth each day. However, I have now booked a single room in a hotel near to the conference venue as I got a good deal and not having to travel will enable me to get more from the conference.

AIBU to consider staying there alone? I have friends who will also be attending the conference, so I will be with them during it, but they will not be staying with me at the hotel for the two nights. My parents are still pretty involved in what I'm up to (a slight bone of contention on my part!) but I haven't told them about my plans yet as I am worried they will be anxious about it and try to discourage me. The hotel is in a safe area and has good reviews online.

Why would you be unreasonable?  I've stayed at hotels on my own loads of times when going to conferences and other work and leisure things! It's pretty normal, isn't it?

Why would they be concerned about you staying at a hotel?

Why would it be unreasonable to stay in the hotel alone? I’m afraid I don’t even understand the question!

That sounds like a great idea and a nice break away for you. Nothing wrong at all with staying alone. If you want you can relax in your room with TV and some snacks, or you can use the bar/lounge areas of the hotel. Sounds lovely!

Do your parents have a genuine reason to be concerned about you staying alone?

If not, politely remind them that you are an adult and able to make choices and follow them through without them needing to worry.

Why would they be anxious? Sounds a bit unhealthy at your age. At the age of 20 I told my parents I was travelling around the Middle East, during uni summer holidays. They had no say in the matter.

I’d have thought you’d be absolutely fine. The only bit I’d be considering is whether it’s safe to walk alone from the venue to the hotel late at night.

You'll be fine. You're an adult in your twenties, your parents shouldn't really be discouraging you from doing something as simple as staying in a hotel.

What? Why would you be worried about staying in a hotel? Have you not stayed in a hotel before? What exactly is your concern? I find this question bonkers!

If your parents ask what you're doing, just say that there are events in the evening that you're going to attend so this made sense.

If you're an adult then you can do what you want really and what your parents think or say shouldn't matter about something like this.

That is what hotels are for.

Sounds like a good idea to me, go for it.

you could tell them you’re staying with a friend if you think they will try to stop you.

Why would it be an issue you staying in a hotel?

If it's going to cause an issue with your parents just tell them that friends are staying in the hotel. How would they know otherwise?

Best thing about conferences as far as I'm concerned 😁 A couple of nights away in a room someone else will clean, no-one else sharing your space, and after a full day concentrating you don't have to make polite conversation with yet another person, you can relax and get an early night (or stay up watching Naked Attraction and eating crisps, whatevs).

Just tell your parents the conference is in a hotel, you're staying over, talk about evening events if they're going to be mithering you to be in touch all the time, and let them make their own assumptions.

You're an adult. You no longer need to ask your parents permission to do anything

Yanbu to stay in a hotel, alone or otherwise. You are an adult woman and adults do this quite often.

Yabu to be concerned about it.

Go. You really need this. It will boost your confidence and independence. Have fun!

What does any of this have to do with your parents? This is a complete non-issue. You are an adult, staying in a hotel for a night which is an entirely mundane & unremarkable thing to do, so just go ahead.

Why on earth would you not?

Saves on travel time. Or would your parents be worried about your being in a crash driving late at night?

Time to cut the apron strings and TELL them you are an adult and you will be fine. I'm find this sort out attitude absolutely smothering in my 20s.

Go and have fun!

At 20 I moved abroad for a year, at 23 I was frequently booking solo holidays. A room in a hotel for a night wouldn't even hit the radar of something to be worried about!

you could tell them you’re staying with a friend if you think they will try to stop you

Terrible idea. OP needs to stand her ground and assert her independence.

PS: How could they 'stop her"? She's a grown woman!

Why on earth would it be unreasonable?

go! Have fun! Don’t let your parents talk you out of it

Enjoy it!

I used to stay in hotels for work conferences. One my of my secret pleasures was finding an M&S or similar and having an evening picnic in my room and chilling out.

This really is terrible advise.

Firstly, lying is an awful thing to suggest.

Secondly, she needs to stand up to her parents and explain, gently but in no uncertain terms, that she is going to stay in the hotel.

Thirdly, if anything were to happen (God forbid), the parents wouldn't know where to start looking.

OP, sit down with your parents, let them know you are going and that you will be fine. Assure them that you will text them and let them know that you are ok.

Sounds great! I love staying in hotels on my own

I stay in a hotel on my own most months. It is perfectly acceptable. Do it and don't get into any discussion with your parents about it.