Would you let parents know if their dd14 was posting rude photos

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Dd14 is friends with another girl who is 14 and has a boyfriend.

she posted on her Instagram story yesterday of her in the shower with her bf, both clearly naked. He’s holding her boobs.

would you tell her parents? I would want to know if my daughter was posting stuff I think

That was a very uncomfortable read. What are you trying to achieve here?

Friends or close acquaintances? I wouldn’t hesitate

any other kind of relationship - I would direct to school to pick up with parents

I agree with telling the school who will most probably let the parents and the police know. As a PP has mentioned, this is illegal. It is illegal for such content to be created and shared. It is illegal for anyone to take such photos of children and it is also illegal for children to take such photos of themselves. Most children do not know this, in the cases I've seen, children are talked to by the police and the police will explain the implications of their behaviour. It is a serious matter and the school will know the appropriate channels to go through to deal with this (regardless of which agency you contact, the school will be informed) it also allows you to do something about it without directly contacting the mother and being in an awkward situation with your daughter. The school can be the 'middle man' if you like and deal with that side of things.

Worried this is a bit iffy

I’d inform the school and let them tell the parents and the police if necessary

It's not "child pornography," because that doesn't exist - children cannot consent to sex so this is not porn, it is child sexual abuse images.

Isn't that distributing CP? Or because they're covered it doesn't matter?

Absolutely

And as a social worker o would have to report it as child pornography to local MASH (police and chi old ten services safeguarding team)

Spectacularly bad decision by whoever posted that photo. Cannot believe the social media service has not removed it

I'd be telling the parents and informing the police, if the DCs didn't like it - tough!

It is. Despite the 'covering' it's still illegal

Take a screenshot and send to her school. It's a major safe guarding issue.

Do not do this. You will get in trouble with the police for this. It is illegal to view, produce or possess or download such imagery. Screenshotting it would be classed as viewing and possession.

Do not screenshot!

Do not send a screenshot, OP! You would then be distributing the images, even if your intentions were good!

DO NOT TAHE A SCREENSHOT!!! it is classed as child pornography and you MUST NOT SAVE ANY IMAGE OF THIS. Even if you delete it will still be recoverable on your phone. Ring school / MASH abs report it. If you work in any responsible agency like NHS, Local authority housing or police, you are required to report this under current safeguarding legislation

You can ask that report remains anonymous so DD will not know nor the parties involved but they've posted it in sm so anyone could abs should have reported it

Sheesh

DO NOT DO THIS

worst advice ever.

I would contact school and let them know, I would not approach parents.

And who are the idiot 8% who walk amongst us 🤷🏼‍♀️

Your DD's school website will have details of contact information for their DSL (Designated Safeguarding Lead) who you can contact and inform (I'm assuming DD and DD's friend attend the same school?) If they don't, whatever school DD's friend attends will have their DSL's info on their website.

The school will also inform any other relevant agencies too such as MASH (social services) and the police etc

This this thread real!!??? Or do I live a very sheltered life where my 14 year old is sat buried with her head in a book on Japanese culture after having helped cook a roast!??

OP, report this to the school. What the hell is wrong with people!!?

Why would you think it’s not real? 14 year olds have sex, stop the press

I saw pornography on my friend's daughter's facebook a few years ago and I notified my friend immediately. I would not have if I didn't know her very well. If you don't know their parents then report it to the police

I would also report the post on instagram.

Yes you live a very sheltered life, either your teen does too or you don't know the half of it. At 14 my mother thought the exact same as you did, and I was up to all sorts.

We spent the last 2 weekends with friends who have 14 and 15yo. What respectful, decent children they were. They helped around the house, asked their parents for permission to go out and were happy to agree to let parents know all details. Just so respectful. You can tell they were raised well. 14yo little girl in the shower with a 'boyfriend' - her parents need to know that she is out of control.

I think what really concerns me is that other peers/friends could have screenshot that and they could be distributing it. Not only is this unpleasant for the parties involved, but it also means that the peers/friends are potentially committing a crime.

I disagree. Not every teen is wild and out of control.

God absolutely, tell her Mum. I would definitely want to know so I could deal with it.